10 week ultra sound, cant find baby?

[SloanPet77]

ok ladies,

soooo here's what happened, I went back ant they did two more ultra sounds, one abdominal and one vaginal. The abdominal all we could see was the sac but when she did the vaginal you could see the entire baby, toes, fingers, head, all of it. she said the sac measured at what would be around 7 weeks but the baby measured only 6 weeks? (I am 10 weeks). The baby looked fine to me however there was no heartbeat? The ultra sound tech said the baby stopped growing at 6 weeks?

The dr. wants me to have a D&C or whichever method I choose but what if the baby really is only 6 weeks and they just cant find the heartbeat yet? my husband says i am being crazy but if the baby stopped at 6 weeks why I am just this week getting severe symptoms, all of them? Please tell me what to do, I dont want to terminate my baby that could still be alive? Am I crazy, has this happened to anyone? Help please

 

[AshLMT]

I'm so sorry to hear this hun A missed miscarriage is really hard to deal with. I understand what you're going thru as I have gone thru it myself 4 years ago. Went in to the doctors thinking that I was around 9 weeks along only to find out that the baby stopped growing at around 8 weeks and there was no longer a heartbeat. The slap in the face part of it all was that I still FELT pregnant.

I'll keep you in my thoughts hun - take care of yourself and try try again!!

 

[CatherineK]

Hun, sounds like a MMC. If you need assurance, why not wait a few days and have the doc rescan to see if there is any growth, then decide what to do?

 

[amjon]

I started spotting the day I found out our baby stopped growing at 6 weeks also. You can wait and allow your body time to take care of it on it's own. As long as you monitor for signs of infection it's fine to wait it out.

 

[JJWEBB]

Im confused, at 6 weeks, there are no fingers or toes etc. Its is a blobby shrimp looking embryo. If you were supposed to be 10 weeks, and the baby is only 6 weeks with no heartbeat, it definitely sounds like a missed miscarraige. At 6 weeks, the heart should be beating for sure at about 160bpm. Im so sorry. Its very common, you can google it and find alot of information.

 

[SloanPet77]

yes I have another scan next week if I so choose, they also did hcg levels today and i can go back Thursday to see if they have gone up. This is so horrible because I saw the baby and he/she looked fine? We just told all our family in Christmas cards last weekend....this doesn't feel real, this should not be called a miscarriage as it feels more to me like a still born...

 

[SloanPet77]

Im confused, at 6 weeks, there are no fingers or toes etc. Its is a blobby shrimp looking embryo. If you were supposed to be 10 weeks, and the baby is only 6 weeks with no heartbeat, it definitely sounds like a missed miscarraige. At 6 weeks, the heart should be beating for sure at about 160bpm. Im so sorry. Its very common, you can google it and find alot of information.

JJwebb good point! I didnt even think of that! why was I able to see fingers then?

 

[amjon]

yes I have another scan next week if I so choose, they also did hcg levels today and i can go back Thursday to see if they have gone up. This is so horrible because I saw the baby and he/she looked fine? We just told all our family in Christmas cards last weekend....this doesn't feel real, this should not be called a miscarriage as it feels more to me like a still born...

Trust me, it's NOTHING like a stillborn. You will have to have a grieving process, but it's not the same as a stillborn. My job offers free counseling for those going through any type of trauma. If they have something at your job or through your insurance it might help to talk to a counselor at least a couple of times.

 

[PurpleIvy44]

I'm so very sorry for your loss. I read up on mmc b/c I was very afraid of having one. I found a site that provides more information about the growth. Once the baby passes with a missed miscarriage, they start to shrink at the same rate they would have grown had the pregnancy progressed normally. For example, if the baby passed at 12 weeks and the miscarriage was found at 14 weeks, the baby usually shrinks to about a 10 week size. The person performing the ultrasound will usually be able to establish approximately when your baby passed.

 

[sweetavenue]

I understand what you're saying, SloanPet77. If it were me and I wasn't having any bleeding or cramps, I'd wait until the week passes and see if the baby has developed more at all. Of course id mentally prepare myself for a missed miscarriage, but maybe you ovulated late and you really are earlier than you think.

 

[SloanPet77]

I understand what you're saying, SloanPet77. If it were me and I wasn't having any bleeding or cramps, I'd wait until the week passes and see if the baby has developed more at all. Of course id mentally prepare myself for a missed miscarriage, but maybe you ovulated late and you really are earlier than you think.

Thank you

 

[Bumpblessing4]

This sounds like a missed miscarriage. I had one like this years ago. No bleeding but at my routine ten week ultrasound (and I was 100% sure of my ovulation/conception date), they only saw an eight week baby without a heartbeat. They confirmed it with another ultrasound at the hospital before I had a D&C. So sorry you are going through this....

 

[Sushai]

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I've no experience but wanted to offer some

 

[Audraia]

I'm sorry you're going through this. I was like you my first pregnancy...told everyone because what could go wrong? I didn't realize just how common miscarriages are...and wound up miscarrying at 5 weeks. 2nd time I told everyone again, miscarriage at 9 weeks. So it does happen, quite often. And while it hurts, and your devestated, you will try again, and it will happen for you. 3rd time was a charm for us, and my little angel is here in our arms.

If you're unsure definatly wait the week and go back and check for growth. I know way too much about M/C having done too much research on what can go wrong. Even at 6 weeks there should be a heartbeat, my DD had one at 6w 1d and this bean had one at 6w 3d.

Good luck, and there is a wonderful support system on this forum that can help you. A lot of the women who're here have been through this, and can offer advice and support!

 

[Scout]

Sorry this is happening. With my mmc, I did wait a week to have another scan just to make sure. My doctor had wanted to do the D&C that same week, but for peace of mind I put it off a week bc I knew if i didn't I'd always think, "what if they were wrong". They weren't, but I couldn't go thru with the D&C until I was sure too.

 

[SMGP]

I am so sorry you are going through this. I cannot imagine. I will say a prayer for you and your family and hope next time everything goes as it should.

 

[monro84]

I am on my 6th pregnancy and so far this is the fartherst I have been (I a 8 1/2 wks and listen to the HB on the doppler since 8 wks). my first was a blighted ovum then my 4th was twins/ triplets mmc. Had 3 sac at 5 wks and 1 hb at 6 wks 2 days then a week later no hb at 7 wks 3 days and growth only a few days after I heard the HB. However what troubles me is that they could not see it at first and had to send you to a special US is is possible you have a tilted uterus. When I was going threw my blighted ovum I found a missed diagnosed miscarriage site. I read alot about tilted uterus and some women did not find a baby till 16 to 18 wks which is unheard of. If the baby did stop growing I think your hcg numbers should be decreasing however I am not sure on that. I had a second opinion on my blighted ovum b/c I wanted to make sure there was no baby. I was 10 wks but measured 12 when I had a D&C. If you do not have a tilted uterus then more then likely you had a mmc. Just make sure before you do a d&c.

 

[SloanPet77]

Thank you ladies very much for all your support! I guess what I can tget past is seeing him/her there on the screen looking so alive, I just keep thinking that if it wasnt alive why wouldnt it have started decomposing by now? they said the baby only measured about 7 weeks, so that was 3 weeks ago, wouldnt something have happened by now? Why isnt it naturally passing on its own? Part of me just wants to go ahead and move on but I just dont want to make a wrong decision? My DH keeps telling me that the Dr. sees this everyday and that she is right, he is probably right but its so confusing.

I guess part of me also feels like this might have been our only chance, just because we were both on the fence about even doing it and now it seems like a sign that maybe we shouldnt have kids afterall.

 

[girlinyork]

Decomposition requires bacterias which aren't present in the uterus as it's a sterile environment. I'm so so sorry you're going through this. My mmc was heart breaking

 

[Sealgirl]

Thank you ladies very much for all your support! I guess what I can tget past is seeing him/her there on the screen looking so alive, I just keep thinking that if it wasnt alive why wouldnt it have started decomposing by now? they said the baby only measured about 7 weeks, so that was 3 weeks ago, wouldnt something have happened by now? Why isnt it naturally passing on its own? Part of me just wants to go ahead and move on but I just dont want to make a wrong decision? My DH keeps telling me that the Dr. sees this everyday and that she is right, he is probably right but its so confusing.

I guess part of me also feels like this might have been our only chance, just because we were both on the fence about even doing it and now it seems like a sign that maybe we shouldnt have kids afterall.

Im so sorry, I know what you are going through. I started bleeding at 12 weeks with my first pregnancy. A scan showed exactly what you are describing, a little beautiful 7 week foetus, but no heartbeat. I was already miscarrying by this point, but my pregnancy had carried on for nearly 6 more weeks! My stomach was growing too, but that's because everything else was developing except the baby. It's absolutely heartbreaking. The first trimester is a looooooong time and to get to 12 weeks an announce to the world and then miscarry is something I have never been able to get over.

Please stay strong tho, this will happen for you. After another miscarriage after that one, I got pregnant again and had the most beautiful and wonderful baby girl. She was so worth the wait. Im currently 6 weeks pregnant and can't say I'm any less anxious after my experiences.

Thinking of you. Big hugs