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[MissJayde]

My ex and I split before I found out I was pregnant with my little man. We have a daughter together who is 3. He shacked up with his girlfriend 10 days after I left. I don't want to know her. I don't hate her but then I don't particularly like her either. My ex has some stupid idea we should meet and try to be friends for my kid sake whereas I don't even feel I need to know her name. Seriously I am not going to be playing happy families with her. Any woman who is happy to step in after the breakup of a 15 year relationship (that with a little work from him could have been saved) has no space in my life.

 

[Laura2919]

I've never met her. I didn't have a problem with her until last week when FOB declared that the pair of them had discussed what would be best for my girls and let them stay at her house without even contacting me. So now I've taken an absolute dislike to the girl and would love to meet her just to stick her in her place..

She clearly cannot stand me because she's told FOB she hates it when we talk and it apparently causes arguments.

 

[Ceejay123]

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[Laura2919]

I'd love to meet her just so I could put her mind at rest. I don't want him back. Never. Ever. Ever!

 

[princess_vix]

I hate her.
My ex cheated on me with her and she knew about me and my son and unborn daughter and then decided to rub it in by saying 'how lovely my son sounds and she'd love to meet him and start going out together'

Fuck off you wench is all I can say!

 

[TFSGirl]

Honestly, I find it too difficult to hate on ex's or on new partners or the like. I don't have the energy for the hate. As for the ones who were involved before the previous relationship was over; I can definitely say it SUCKS, and I have been there... but the blame really does mostly lie on the person who cheated on you, not on the other party. She has no ties to you and no loyalties to you. (Maybe that is just my opinion...)

However, I DO have a nice story about the whole topic. A friend of mine (who is amazing by the way) started dating a man she was in high school with. They hadn't seen each other in 15 years when they met up again. He had previously been married and had an 8 year old daughter with his ex wife. He and his ex wife were very amicable, and so when my friend came along, she was amicable with the ex wife as well. The ex wife and her new husband and my friend and her new husband all started going for dinner with the little girl, and the ex and her husband ended up having 2 more kids together. My friend can't have children, but they get the 8 year old daughter (who is now about 12-13 I believe) 50% of the time, and the rest of the time they can see her whenever they want. They also have the ex and her husband over for dinner, and all three kids come. The son of the ex and her new husband LOVES my friend and just snuggles into her all the time. They are ALL friends and the kids do not suffer AT ALL through all of it. It is so nice and so mature to see!! It is so lovely. The whole lot of them have been by my fire station to visit as the ex's son LOVES firemen I feel privileged to know people like that. They are wonderful, all of them.

 

[Ceejay123]

Awh that sounds absolutely perfect If only we could all be like that, eh? x

 

[lizardbreath]

Honestly, I find it too difficult to hate on ex's or on new partners or the like. I don't have the energy for the hate. As for the ones who were involved before the previous relationship was over; I can definitely say it SUCKS, and I have been there... but the blame really does mostly lie on the person who cheated on you, not on the other party. She has no ties to you and no loyalties to you. (Maybe that is just my opinion...)

However, I DO have a nice story about the whole topic. A friend of mine (who is amazing by the way) started dating a man she was in high school with. They hadn't seen each other in 15 years when they met up again. He had previously been married and had an 8 year old daughter with his ex wife. He and his ex wife were very amicable, and so when my friend came along, she was amicable with the ex wife as well. The ex wife and her new husband and my friend and her new husband all started going for dinner with the little girl, and the ex and her husband ended up having 2 more kids together. My friend can't have children, but they get the 8 year old daughter (who is now about 12-13 I believe) 50% of the time, and the rest of the time they can see her whenever they want. They also have the ex and her husband over for dinner, and all three kids come. The son of the ex and her new husband LOVES my friend and just snuggles into her all the time. They are ALL friends and the kids do not suffer AT ALL through all of it. It is so nice and so mature to see!! It is so lovely. The whole lot of them have been by my fire station to visit as the ex's son LOVES firemen I feel privileged to know people like that. They are wonderful, all of them.

That is what I want me and FOB get along really well its his WOMAN who hate the sichuation. I would love that but I cant see it ever happening.

 

[MommaAlexis]

I had a lot of issues with FOB's ex at first, but we've since realized how much of that was his fault. Telling us horrible things about each other so we'd hate each other. I got in touch and we went for coffee when FOB and I first broke up, for our LOs sakes. And found out how much BS he spewed! I actually stayed at her house all weekend last week and baby sat my previous step daughter, now Lara's half sister. And HE's the one who's no where to be found lol.

 

[Ceejay123]

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[omfgski]

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[Ceejay123]

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[emf81]

Hi, I get on with the fob and his gf. Me and the fob were not together when i found out i was pregnant and when i told him he did not want to know and dinn't tell anyone about her He was't involved with the pregnancy at all and although that was hard it was his decision. I let him know when all the appointments ect were and when she was born. He finally met our lo when she was 2 months. Lo is now 9 months and hes been with his new gf for about a year. Although its not how i would have wanted things they are together nd she is really good with my lo so theres not much more i can ask for really xx

 

[Ceejay123]

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[cw1975]

I get on with her for the sake she is part of my sons life whether I like it or not. I don't hate her, done have any feeling towards her. I have only met her a few times, but I've been civil and chatty to her.

However, I know she is really insecure that me and my ex get on so well, and sometimes my ex tells me things she has done and said and I think she is actually quite selfish and manipulative. Having said that I won't be rude or mean about her in front of my son because I would not want him to think it is acceptable to behave like that to her because when all is said and done she is good with him when he stays with his dad.

So do we get on.... Yes. Do I like her.... No I think she is a very selfish and childish, but she's not my problem xxx

 

[Ceejay123]

Fair enough x

 

[Ceejay123]

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[Laura2919]

FOB's GF and I have no contact and nor will we. She made damn sure of that when she decided to discuss MY childrens future without running it past me first.

FOB is a total fool for letting her dictate what he does but tbh it's only the twins he has to answer to. They get all they need from me and I don't bad mouth him in front of them and nor would I, they will form their own opinions and one day he'll be majorly sorry for the things he's done to them. They go without a dad for a whole 12 days in between visits. how terrible that a father doesn't call up and say 'can we take girls out to eat?' 'can we take girls to soft play' I've got the 6 weeks holidays and it was ME that had to ask him if he could have them one day on one of his weekends!! 'i'll see' was his reply.. Great dad, smashing dad!!! Not..