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[april.momma2b]

so close to 12, next apt wed. so excited

 

[1liz9]

Wow I'm so sorry. I can't imagine what you're going through.

First, let the lawyer talk come out of me, how do you access this website? If it is on a shared, home computer stop immediately. Don't type another thing. A personal phone is the only acceptable way...in the small, off chance you need to protect yourself in the future.

Second, I'm sorry I have no idea. Maybe call the hospital or something? They do have a legal obligation to keep this spry of thing confidential. I'm sorry I can't be of more help

 

[luckybreak]

Wow Tough situation for sure..i am assuming you have not told your hubby about the old flame. Well there are 2 things u can do for sure you can tell your hubby the truth or you can just move on and never look back...I am all for the first but I am not in your shoes so it is easy for me to say you know? So I guess it comes down with what can you live with? It seems it is already eating at your mind... so are you able to keep this for many many years locked in your mind and move on or do you think is going to make your life miserable wondering? Perhaps you can have a DNA test w/out hubby knowing after the baby is born, with his toothbrush or something u know? that way you can live a better life. Good Luck!! it is very tought situtation.

 

[daffire]

I have never been in your situation and would never think of judging you. If I would be me in your situation I would be honest to my husband and would tell him the truth. Depending on how it goes from there either your husband will accept it or not and you will start a new page in your life. Once the baby is born I would do a paternity test. Even if your husband is okay with it I thinks there is no possible way to have no doubts about it and it would always be a dark cloud hanging on the relationship. Anyway hope this helps, I hope everything turns out fine.

 

[Mon_n_john]

A DNA test can be done while you are pregnant. I would enquire about it and if it is not yoru husband's I would let him know. But that's just me. Good luck either way.

 

[1liz9]

Smart. All of this can be tracked, even if deleted off the hard drive.

 

[Jen_xx]

Edit.

 

[TheNewMrs]

Wow this is a toughy, well, there is no way to tell which man is the baby's father, even if you did use the pull out method, there's still a chance he's the baby's father. I know in some countries there are paternity tests that can be done before the baby is born but they are very risky.

Does your husband know about the fling? Assuming he doesnt, is it better to keep it a secret and say the baby is his regardless when its born, or lay your cards on the table and hope for the best.

Personally I couldnt lie to my husband, especially about something so serious, but it is a personal decision.

Best of luck whatever you decide hun.

 

[Mon_n_john]

Yup, my sister had a key logger (it's a button tracker) on her hubby's computer when she got suspicious and oh the things she found out! We could see all his activity and everything he had ever typed on his computer from the day the logger was installed.

 

[april.momma2b]

lol

 

[Jen_xx]

I am so confused... The thread is about her being excited for her Dr. appt. Whats with the dna post?

 

[1liz9]

Unfortunately it cannot be deleted unless by a professional. Which are the same people who would be paid to access deleted info later should it ever come to that...

If this is a personal device then your fine. It just cannot be considered marital property - a home computer, etc. Your personal devices are not marital property and cannot come back to bite you.

Did you call the hospital?

 

[1liz9]

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