11 month old development concerns

[niceguy23]

I am a concerned parent with my 11 month old baby boy. Maybe someone can give me some tips or say if this is normal, not normal, etc.

This is our first child, neither of us have much parenting skills and there's not a lot of ppl around to help us.

He's 11 months old.

What he does:
* He seems to respond to me calling his name about 25% of the time. The other time he ignores me looking at some toy or going to other rooms.
* He smiles and laughs when I make funny faces, or play peek-a-boo.
* He (just a few days ago) took his first couple steps by himself. He's been cruising around holding onto furniture for a couple months now.
* He tries to pick up small objects off the floor with his index finger and thumb. He misses sometimes, but he keeps trying until he gets the small object.
* He sleeps good from 7pm till about 1am, then he wakes up, we feed him, then he's out till 5 or 6.
* He likes to crawl while sliding with an object (like a controller) in one hand and moves with the other.
* When he wants to be held, he will come to us, stand up at our leg and grab us and try and pull himself up.
* He says 'baabaabaa' and 'daadaada' and 'maamaamaa', but not to us, we have to initiate it by saying it first, then he just starts babbling those words. He won't just say 'dada', he's often say 'dadadadadadadada' and be playing with his toy or whatever he's doing.

What he doesn't do:
* He doesn't clap, He seems to flail his arms and head when he's excited, but he doesn't clap his hands.
* He doesn't say 'mama' or 'dada' to us
* He doesn't seem to understand when I say 'Go get the truck' or 'where is the truck' (speaking about his little toy truck he likes).
* He won't bring anything to us nor will he gently put stuff down (it's always a throwing motion)
* He isn't feeding himself, when we put small 'cheerio like' food in his tray, he picks it up and throws it. When we put a cookie like food, he may put it in his mouth, but then immediately has a bad look on his face and takes it out and throws it.
* He doesn't drink from a cup, nor does he hold it (he throws it or pushes it off the table).
* He doesn't point at stuff

Other things we've noticed:
* He doesn't like to drink the bottle as much, he does in the morning (during night) and at night, but during the day he doesn't seem to like it. We end up mixing it with cereal and feeding by spoon. We also feed him vegetables and fruit from the baby food containers.


From stuff I've read online, he should be doing most of the stuff in the doesn't list. So, I am a bit concerned. Should we be worried? What could the problem be? What should we do?

Thanks
Concerned Parent!

 

[Leids]

I don't have experience myself, but it seems like your little boy is fine. He may just be stubborn! Have you talked to his doctor/HV about it? Maybe they could give you some peace of mind.

I am around a 1 year old a lot every week (have been since she was about 6 months old), so I can tell you what she was doing that was similar around that age. I'll only add what I've experienced and seen.

* He doesn't say 'mama' or 'dada' to us

I've actually never heard her say 'mama' or 'dada' but she clearly knows who is who! She's 15 months old at the moment.

* He won't bring anything to us nor will he gently put stuff down (it's always a throwing motion)

She hits and is very rough with everything, she only throws things down. I've also never seen her be gentle about putting anything down.

* He doesn't drink from a cup, nor does he hold it (he throws it or pushes it off the table).

She didn't start drinking out of a cup (sippy) until she was about 13 months old and before that it really looked like she had no interest whatsoever.

Since I'm not around 24/7 I can't comment much on the other things, but it's my best friends baby and we see each other nearly every day. I hope this makes you feel a little better.

 

[roomaloo]

Mines only a month younger and doesn't crawl even yet. Saw my 22month old 2nd cousin the other week who had just started to walk!! Milestones are guidelines, not something to get hung up on. I wouldn't worry and just enjoy each stage. If baby can't do it age 4 then maybe it's a concern you can't rush them

 

[Angelbaby_01]

My baby is turning 11 months in a weeks time and she does more or less the same as your child. She is still in her apropriate development phase according to our pediatrician.

She only started clapping a month ago and I know a 13 month old that still doesn't. She only mastered holding her bottle now, picking things up with her fingers and waving. She says mama, dada, baba randomly and more singing about it than speaking directly to us. She doesn't point yet, but my friend's boy only started doing this around 14 months. All children are different and boys tend to be a bit more lazy. My brother was very slow and today he is an intellegent 20 year old.

I would say not to look at milestones as every baby differ. My baby only rolled over at 8 months instead of 5 - 6 months like some other babies.

Just enjoy playing with him and try to help him and guide him thru playing games.

 

[robinator]

What he doesn't do:

* He doesn't say 'mama' or 'dada' to us Neither does my baby
* He won't bring anything to us nor will he gently put stuff down (it's always a throwing motion) They're supposed to do this at this age? Mine doesnt!!
* He isn't feeding himself, when we put small 'cheerio like' food in his tray, he picks it up and throws it. When we put a cookie like food, he may put it in his mouth, but then immediately has a bad look on his face and takes it out and throws it. Mine didn't start this until 10 months; I wouldn't worry
* He doesn't drink from a cup, nor does he hold it (he throws it or pushes it off the table). Lane JUST started holding hers; drinking from it not too long ago
* He doesn't point at stuff Neither does mine

I don't think I would worry; your "does" list sounds right on track; could have written it myself. Take what you read with a grain of salt; if I compared Lane to every "should be doing" list; I'd have her seeing loads of specialists by this point

 

[maisie78]

Although Gabriella is my first baby my Mum was a childminder from when I was 3 and I was a nanny until my early 20's. I'm no expert but I've come across many children in my time. Based on your 'does' list I really wouldn't be concerned. Just the fact that he has taken a couple of steps is a great milestone. Many of your doesn't list appear to be milestones that I would be perfectly happy to see emerging later than 11 months. If you are worried you should speak to a hv even if it's just for some reassurance.

 

[niceguy23]

Thanks everyone,

Our pediatrician suggested us to go to a baby therapist after we took a questionnaire about the baby's progress (at 10 months) because he was lacking in the 'social' development. Even though, the questions in that section didn't actually have to do with social behavior, like 1 question was if he stuck his foot in his mouth (which he did start doing just like a week prior to us going). However, I don't know what that has to do with being social.

Anyway, the mommy got freaked out and said hes OK and didn't want to go. That was a month ago and the pediatrician said we can see the progress at 12 months to see if maybe he was just a little behind.

As you can tell I'm now worried from that. I think we're going to call the doctor again and get the person she suggests for the therapy and go just to ease my mind if nothing else.

I guess, I'll just have to see, but I do feel a little better after reading responses here.

Thanks

 

[hubblybubbly]

They all develop different skills at different times and generally concentrate on one skill set at a time.

For instance my 10 month old does clap, wave and point so she's "socially" right up there, however she doesn't cruise, pull herself up on anything, doesn't crawl or bum shuffle, let alone walk, and has only just managed to sit herself up from lying down, so she's behind in the "gross motor" section. Their brains can only cope with learning a set amount of things at a time.

From the sounds of it he's doing great
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