11 month old driving me insane -literally!-

[ukgirl23]

He is a little monster! I can't cope anymore!!! He screams all day long he throws huge temper tantrums he laughs at me when I tell him off and he refuses to sleep even when he's dog shit tired, my partner is at work and I have a 7 and 5 year old to take care of as well he is pushinge past the limits I seriously have had enough to the point where I am scared of hurting him! I tried sitting calmly with him until he calms down and talking to him and singing to him but nothing helps I can't do it anymore I don't have anyone else to help me and my partner doesn't finish work until 8 then all the kids are in Bed and Ben is worn out from playing me up he has screamed at me from 4 pm and he's still going now it's almost 9pm now. His dad gets in and wonders why I'm so stressed and moans at me for being so frustrated and angry! Someone somewhere any advice will help

 

[Kittycat155]

I have nothing to really offer. Just felt so sad for you in this situation. Someone will be along shortly who has been there done that. Maybe post in older section too. Worst case ask dr for help. Do not stop asking for help if you need it and do not get it!!! Maybe evena day or 2 of daycare just so you can get your energy back/get a break

Hugs to you!

 

[twobecome3]

10/11 months were some hellish times during the day. she went through a wild animal phase of refusing naps, biting/scratching/tantrumming. the bites were REALLY bad. at one point i had over 20 nasty bruises on my arms/chest/legs. i cried alot. i put her in the crib a few times and let her cry as i hid out in the bathroom for a few minutes with the fan on. i still feel bad for that :/ im sure she sensed my frustration/anxiety and it just cycled between us.


i,would advise not to push naps. if he's not going down and being an animal - fine. do something else then try later.

i try to get her first nap at home. second nap we do in the stroller most days now that the sidewalks are clearing up.

i have put her in the exersaicer with sesame street on and left the room when all else has failed. she has fallen asleep in there and then i take her put and bring her to bed.


our bitey/tantrum phase lasted a few weeks xx

make sure you're getting a break when oh has days off get him to take the littlest one out for a bit u need a break from it


also when im feeling frustrated i find rocking her in front of the mirror helps remind me just how little she is still, if that makes sense x

 

[NoodleSnack]

Yeah, days like those are tough.

I think you need to tackle things one by one. With naps, maybe he's ready to drop one or perhaps he's too tired by the time you put him down? I'm sure you know either could lead to acting up.

Do you get a chance to go out most days? Could he be bored? They're are babies, they're just reacting to us. Don't argue, access the situation whether you're willing to let him do something or not, if not, move him and distract. But choose your battles.

 

[Melisa1985]

Awww hun you are not the only one with tough babies, just know there is many of us out there as well. My baby is probably just as difficult and she is 10 months. I think it has been the hardest 10 months of my life. First she was colic where she cried all day long non stop , really hard screaming crying to a point where she can barely breath, that lasted till about 5-6 months, after that she just wouldn't go down for naps or bed time without a fight and screaming her lungs off.
We are 10 months now and she still fights me for naps and bed time. Screams during the day A LOTTTTTT, I just let her and ignore it even though I'm going a little insane from it. She throws herself backwards if she is angry or unhappy about something, hits me really bad at times with her head by throwing herself. Especially during the nap time when she is dead tired and i'm trying to rock her in my arms to sleep. It's really tough, but I do get help. I ask my dad to come over very often and take her over a little, I just can't do it alone, it's too much on me. My dad comes over very often because he knows she is difficult and I'm so thankful to have someone. If you can get anyone to help you out a bit that would be great.
Otherwise if you can't you should def. find out things he does like and stays calm during that time so you can do it more often just to get some peace. Like example my baby girl LOVES the stroller and i go stroller her around just so she stays quiet and i can get some peace and relax. She looks around from her stroller and is like a different baby and peacefully falls asleep.
there was days me and my husband would spend ALL day at the malls on his days off just so she can be out and strolled around and staying quiet and peacefully falling asleep.
she also loves the car, so we take car rides a lot. I also try to switch her a lot from one room to the next, if she gets bored of one room, i take her to another and than another and switch it around for her. Switch the toys around for her.

Best advise I can give you since you said you are scared of hurting him, please when you feel like that just put him into his crib slowly and walk away for a few minutes, it's okay to walk away and let him cry a lil just so you can calm down and be okay to take him again. It's def. better he cries and screams in his crib some minutes rather than you hurting him...


many hugs to you!!!! I know it's tough, but there is a light at the end of this tunnel and you just gotta get through this hard time and you will get there I promise. Things will get better as soon as he learns more to understand you and to understand right from wrong. At this point he doesn't know right from wrong and they laugh when we are mad at times because they think we are just playing with them. They will learn eventually just be patient.

 

[ukgirl23]

Thanks all I was so frustrated last night he pushed me right to breaking point. He is fine with naps, this was bedtime he was refusing to sleep I find it's a repeat performance lately. I can see he's tired, he puts his head down and closes his eyes then five seconds later he's up and when he's tired he does all the things he knows he shouldn't and I know he knows he's not allowed to do it because right before he does it he stops and looks at me then smiles and laughs and then he does whatever it was that he shouldn't be doing! It's funny now but it's not funny at half 8 at night when I've been screamed at since 4pm and have 2 other kids wanting attention too I really hope he grows out of this bit fast! I don't remember my older ones being like this though I'm sure they were just over time we forget don't we? I feel really guilty now he's asleep haha, he was exceptionally frustrating though! I'm hoping for a better day today x

 

[Midnight_Fairy]

Hugs chick. Jade had a absolutely horrendous period from 10mths to 12.5mths. Her birthday was horrid cause she was a moany cowbag lol. If you fancy a meet at beach let me know xxxx

 

[ukgirl23]

Oh a beach meet would be lovely! Pm me your Facebook and I will add you xx

I found out what bens problem is, his molars on the bottom left are bulging I really really hope they cut soon he's restless again tonight but I feel better knowing what his deal is.

Thank you for all the support you ladies are amazaballs xx

 

[Midnight_Fairy]

I am on there its emmalou xx

 

[ukgirl23]

Oh I knew I recognised your picture! I will message you there xx

 

[Kittycat155]

So glad you found about the molars. Glad your doing better Do the best you can as it changes so fast.