11 weeks pregnant and he needs space.....

[Brice]

Hi, just looking to talk to women who have been faced with the same situation. My boyfriend and I have been doing great up until our last dr. Appt which was Friday . He all of a sudden became distant and Sunday he told me he needed space. He claims he don't want to break up but need some alone time. He works six days evening and I work 5 days mornings and we don't live together so we hardly ever see each other excepts sundays and maybe Friday nights. I just don't understand what happen...I haven't heard from him in two days. Is it over???

 

[jennijunni]

Well I personally think your man needs to nut up to his responsibilities, and not use the easy way out. I think being mature means that he talks this out, and gives reasons for his actions, after all you are the mother of his child. And if it the end, he needs to take care of this baby, end of story. Now on another note, it may not be the end. Pregnancy affects men very differently, it is the ned of freedom, and the beginning of responsibility for someone other than themselves. It can be scary, and overwhelming. Give him a few days, but then demand he either gets over it, or moves on. It is not fair to you to keep you in limbo. Hugs!! I hope all works itself out.

 

[kat2504]

If the pregnancy was unplanned then he was probably just in denial until the drs appointments hit home to him that he was going to be a dad. he is probably worried about all sorts of things like where you are going to live, moving in together, how he will afford to take care of you and the baby, and he is scared.
If he has been happy about the baby up till now he probably will be again soon enough.

However, given that you are pregnant and need his support, he does need to get over himself and man up!

 

[dreamqueen]

i agree with Kat and Jenni

 

[Babybonn]

I am so sorry that you're having to deal with this issue. I guess every one gets pretty scared and overwhelmed with the idea of having a baby- even when it is really wanted! But i think also, women bond faster to the baby than men bc we are carrying it. So i think maybe that you could give him a little space for a bit,, and hopefully he comes to his calmed senses. good luck to you both and happy pregnancy!

 

[lili_angel]

You know what darling, the other day I was the one who was insinuating I needed space...not because I didn't want to be with my OH, I love him so much, but because I was getting overwhelmed with everything & needed to take a step back to get a firmer perspective & feel more grounded before moving on with the situation.....It's something we both have wanted & it was very good news when we found out, but that still didn't stop me from thinking "Woah!!!"....I know it's usually the guys who do this but I've always had a tendency to do things arse upwards!

What I am saying is that feeling the way I did I'm kinda thinking that's how your OH feels.

However I'm not saying that it's right either.....I actually needed to have a good talk with my OH rather than run away & found that it was just nerves at how good a Mum I'd be, how we'd cope, how the future would look...something I thought I had in check being an adult but clearly hadn't.

He needs to man-up a bit & although he may need some 'breathing space' (it's each to their own) he needs to keep regular contact with you. It's now you need the support regardless & he needs to reach out to you. I don't think it means he will end it with you, but do think he needs to consider you & not just himself right now.

Once he's realised this for himself, he'll be back, sooner rather than later I hope otherwise he'll have a lot on B&B ladies after him!!!

Hugs sweetheart, you'll be fine, look after you & baby you're both No1!!!

xx