13 weeks and depressed

[Xbryoni&bumpX]

This should be a really happy time for me but since i was about 9 weeks preg i have been suffering bad depression and migraines i take parecetamol but it dosent seem to help and the more i sleep the worst it gets, and also i just moved in to my own flat about 6 months ago for the last 9 weeks been crying all the time and feeling low.
Has any one got any tips or advice to help me stop feeling sorry for myself???? x

 

[xCherylx]

My cure? SHOPPING but hey
Sounds like you have alot of issues/things that can be troubling you right now, maybe u need someone to talk to? x
We're all here if u do

 

[Vickie]

There are a few girls on here who are suffering from depression as well and I'm sure they'll be able to give you some great advice. Do you have anyone you can talk to about it? A friend, family member, even a counselor?

 

[PitBullMommy]

I'm dealing with depression too. Including the headaches that just won't go away, no matter what. My doc suggested a counselor (turns out the # she gave me is disconnected) but I think I'm going to have to take anti-depressants.

 

[cparks1]

I am sorry you feel this way hun, Do you have a support system close to you? You can always post on here, there is always good advice or someone on here that can sympathize with what you are going through. I would recommend that you speak with your doctor or counselor. I hope you feel better so you can enjoy being pregnant.

 

[Xbryoni&bumpX]

i have my family but im not compfortable talking to them about it, i went to councelling before and found that they treated me as a child, and i would talk to my boyfriend but he is always busy and if i try he seems to think that im arguing with him its hard for us to talk properly as he is arabic and im from here and there are alot of cultral differences, i have friends and i ahve tried talking to them but its always the same responce, go out and have a good night and i do try but at the end of the day when i get home its just me and everything goes through me head. i jus wish i could be happy about this pregnancy like i was at the start.

 

[babybels71]

Listen hun i went through exactly the same thing and it lasted till i was about 15 weeks, it was awful, i just tried to keep myself busy as i found that sleeping just made me worse.......it did help in small doses but the more i slept the more i didnt want to wake up. Chin up at lest you have recognised it enough to ask for help........be strong. x.x.x

 

[mummyoffive]

sounds like you need to talk hunni- is there anything in particular that is worrying you or just general stuff? you can talk to people on here or maybe speak to ur midwife, explain how ur feeling and c what advice she can offer- there may be some local support groups that are close by? . Try to relax and do something for yourself, maybe get a manicure or whatever you feel you would enjoy. I hope you feel better soon xx

 

[captain-ally]

I always feel sort of lost when I move into a new apartment (I've moved 6 or 7 times in the past 3 years) and being pregnant just makes everything even newer and more uncomfortable and unknown. I feel the same a lot of the time, since I've just moved into my husband's place and he decorated it before I got back from working in the forest. It doesn't feel like home.

I try to do creative, baby-oriented things to keep myself distracted. This week I made some stuffed animals. It's not very hard... If you want, I can tell you how to make a really cute cat with not much work. I've been looking for vintage fabric to make a crib quilt out of. Things that are distracting, time consuming and rewarding...

 

[Artifex]

Hi, I am just a little further along than you are and I am not going to lie; I don't like being pregnant (even though I want the baby). I have been really depressed and angrey and stressed so I do understand (as much as anyone can). I have done a lot of research on my own and discovered that a lot of women don't take wonderfly to pregnancy and that it doesnt make you a bad person if you dont. I have also found that doing my own research on issues that stress me out (i.e. Dr. visits, family, and other peoples opinions), it helps put into perspective the realities of my fears. Don't believe everything you are told, you don't have to be happy, just focus on trying to be functional. I had to quit school for the time being but it is worth the relief of stress and not all women can 'do it all' while pregnant, so just do the best you can and know you are not miserable alone! I don't think people know how scary and weird it is to be pregnant or if they are happy then maybe they don't relate to someone who is having a hard time. best wishes to you.
-J.

 

[Xbryoni&bumpX]

Thnx evey1, its made worse me and my OT split up last night, and its just making me feel like im having a baby with the wrong person even though before this everything wa great but he said he dosent feel anything for me anymore, and im worried that if i speak to someone ie(midwife,doc) there will be more problems at the end i was in care all my life n im 19 now and still checked on by social services, i feel like whatever i do at the mo is the wrong thing and that, the social workers are just gunna make it harder for me, i was thinking alot about councelling last night after my (EX OT) left and think maybe i should give it a go, Thank you for all your advice, its hard being on my own and not being able to talk to any1, i really appreciate it all.

 

[tb42]

i also get depressed a lot for the last 6-7 weeks and what helped me is talking to my best friend about it and also my mom. And usually i stay at home a lot since the first appnt. with doctor and i found it more depressed to be at home than going out and do something. i went to the market, cinema with my friend. So talking and going out sometimes help me feel better. i don't like shopping that much, but looking at stuffs won't cost anything, go and eat after walking around shopping center