14 weeks and still havent told anyone.....

[Mellybelle]

Is anyone else keeping their pregnancy a secret? Hubby and i havent told anyone at all. Not family, not close friends, nada. We have lost two babies in second tri and two early. I have a terrible fear of telling in case it 'jinxes' me.

I am finding it difficult to hide, this is pregnancy number 8, im 14 weeks tomorrow and realky showing. Thank god its winter and the baggier clothes hide the bump!

I also feel guilty for keeping such a secret and lying to everyone.

Is anyone else in the same boat?

 

[geordiemammy]

I kept mine quiet until 14 weeks I had told my mam though but that was it as I had lost 4 I like you thought it would jinx it then I told everyone as doc said chances of mc at this stage are slim he said the pregnancy had 97% of survival!! Then at 15+5 I had the most horrendous bleed and even the hospital didn't look hopeful that baby was ok ( in fact they said i have never seen anyone bleed like that and the baby be fine) but he defied the odds and I'm now 22weeks start off by telling only family and maybe a few close friends it doesn't jinx it I'm pretty sure I would of had that bleed regardless of telling people so try to relax a little I know it's hard I still panic a lot now xx

 

[ButterflyK]

I have only told a few close friends who have seen me through the other MC's, I think we will start telling people after the 1st tri is over. But I remember reading someone post about telling people and they said something along the lines the more people who know the more people you have praying for you and baby

 

[Mellybelle]

I lost my baby boy at 15 weeks, so i want to get past that 'milestone'. Unfortunately, i didnt get much support from anyone, friends or family, when i lost my babies. I dont want everyone to ooh and aah over me now, but then if i lose the baby have everyone take a huge step back because they dont know how to deal with me.

There is something very nice about this baby just being mine and hubbys secret right now. ♥

 

[geordiemammy]

I can totally see your point I was the same with this one I wanted to wait til after 12 weeks then I didn't get my scan til 13 weeks and I still wanted to keep it to ourselves til I was at least 16weeks but its oh first and last baby so he ended up putting it on fb xx

 

[dairymomma]

I'm 13 weeks and we've only told family and 2 very close friends. I've had 6 mc and even though I haven't mc after 9+4, I've had some bleeding with this pg and I'm just way too nervous to tell anyone else yet. Especially since every time I've told someone else, I've started spotting again. I know logically it was just a coincidence and the bleeding is from a hematoma (which I've had with my other successful pregnancies) but I'm still gun shy about saying anything to anyone else. I have another u/s in a week and a dr appt the day after. The plan is to start letting the news 'leak' out if the hematoma is gone. I'll be 14 weeks-ish.