I don't have a lot of advice, but I feel your frustration! My almost 15 month old has never been a good eater, and is going through a phase right now where she'll throw everything off her tray if it's finger food, and when I spoon feed her, she'll spit it back out immediately, and then smear it all over her tray. The only way I've found to get food in her is to put something on the TV (she likes Baby Einstein) and then sneak bites of food in her mouth while she's absorbed with the show. It's not how I'd like to feed my child, but when it comes down to it, I'm more concerned with her eating right now, then with the "how".