1st MC

[annas mama]

Just had visit to EPU, after bleeding over the weekend. should be 10wks+4, but sac only measuring for 7 weeks. Lovely doctor, explained they will need to wait 1 week, in case my dates are wrong, but she couldn't see a heart beat. Have an appointment for 1 week, but have to see if MC happens naturally.

Have mixture of feelings, now that it is "nature's way", but feel incredibly sad. Also apprehensive of what will happen over the next few days. Have no-one to talk to as had not told anybody, apart from hubby that I was expecting.

 

[buffycat]

i am so sorry to hear what you are going through, i know that this must be a very difficult time for you both.....

i'm here to chat if you need someone elase to talk to.....take care though

luv & hugs

 

[Zoya]

very sorry for your loss........hope you recover soon

 

[Marco]

I'm so sorry.
Take care.

 

[superp123]

So sorry for your loss hun. We're here if you need a thing. Lots of
P

 

[cerilou]

Hi

So sorry to hear of your loss. Your head is probably in the shed right now but we are here if you want to talk.

 

[Loo]

Ditto all the above. Or tell a friend what has happened and talk to them. Am sure they will understand why you didn't tell them about the pregnancy and understand that you just need a sholder to cry on now. x

 

[juliespencer9]

hi, im the same, i had light brown blood over the weekend then had a scan on monday they could see the sac but i was only 6 wks so couldnt tell much so i have to go back in 2 wks to see if grown, but monday night bleeding got heavy and clots, im sure that clot was the sac comming out, sorry for detail. it was a misscarage but my dr says i still have to wait two wks for scan, but i just want one now so i can see sac has gone and try and move on.

julie

 

[Visqueen]

So sorry

take care

 

[jerseyshoregirl]

I just had my first miscarriage (also first time pregnant) on 16 July. I was scheduled for a D&C on that Thursday morning, but had a natural m/c the night before. First off, how are your blood results? How many sets have you taken? Also, is the doctor giving you the option of a natural m/c versus a D&C - IF - it comes down to that? I can personally say that while I did schedule a D&C (and only after two ultrasounds and no heartbeat - and three sets of hcg blood tests), I am very thankful it happened naturally, at home, and with OH at my side. I would not have done it any other way looking back on it. It's a very emotional time. It's a rollercoaster. There is no one way to feel...just let yourself feel it. Most importantly, take good care of yourself. If that means talking it out or keeping it in for awhile - eat good, sleep whenever you feel the need to - and know we are all here for you.

JM

 

[annas mama]

Thank you all for your kind words. Few days on and I hope this isn't TMI, but I am still bleeding quite heavily, although funnily (?) enough only during the day, not at night. Don't appear to have passed any large clots or tissue as told to expect. Query regarding blood tests, I have not had any blood samples taken. I was told at the EPU that I would be "conservatively managed", looking back I really don't know what that means. But guess will go back on Tuesday morning, for further scan to see if all has gone.

Am feeling really confused now though about whether I even want to try for another? I have one beautiful daughter, who although took 2.5 years to conceive I had no problems during pregnancy at all. This one took 1 year to make, and I am getting on now (37), and this week have been feeling that a) don't want to go through this again, and b) should I be content and happy with my beautiful beautiful little girl, who by the way is having terrible twos about 4 months too early! How do others who have lost feel about trying again?

 

[tansey]

Sorry for your loss!
I'm TTC my 1st so can't really help you with trying for another but i am 36 next month and would like to think that i'll have the strength to try for more than one.
You may feel different given time. Concentrate on what is going on now and give yourself time to recover before making any decisions. Good luck. xx

 

[juliespencer9]

thanks u thats a really sweet msg, sorry for your loss to heart breaking aye, and dissapointing, im gonna be worried to got to the toilet next time.

how are you feeling jersey shore girl?

xx

 

[superp123]

I understand what you're saying about not feeling you've got the strength to go ahead and try again. I felt that way after my first mc. It took me three years to even think about TTC again. I have no children of my own, but am raising my three nephews. Then this past time I fell pg and mc, I told DH that I don't know how many more times I can do this. He said, "as many times as it takes." I think he ment it in a nice way, but I know that isn't something I can endure.
Personaly, I can't see myself growing old without children. Who will visit me when I'm gray and using a walker? On the other hand I know that I cannot cope with loss after loss. So third times a charm for me, hoping the next one sticks. If not, I'll be looking into other options like adoption.
Now isn't a good time to make that dicision though. I know you've probably heard this already but it's true. Give yourself a few weeks to get through this. Take care of yourself. Here if you need to chat.
P

 

[annas mama]

Just wanted to update all my lovely new friends on B&B. Went for another scan on Tuesday, I nearly cancelled as I had stopped bleeding and thought that was that. But scan showed that "pregnancy product" as the sonagrapher so kindly put it was still there. Was given the 3 options, wait for up to 6 weeks for mc to happen naturally, medically managed, or ERPC. Wanted to get it all over with, so went with ERPC and was booked in for yesterday (Thursday) on the emergency list. DH dropped me off at 7.45am and went to theatre at 3.30pm!!! My first GA so that was the most scary bit.

Have decided (I think) that will give it a month or so, and see what happens. Fingers will be crossed.

Thank you all for your support. Will keep you posted on progress.

 

[jerseyshoregirl]

I am so sorry to hear what you are going through. I know for me, letting it happen naturally is the best thing I could have ever done. I was able to come to peace with things knowing my body did what it needed to do on its own without any intervention. You are in my thoughts and prayers. JM

 

[SJK]

Just wanted to update all my lovely new friends on B&B. Went for another scan on Tuesday, I nearly cancelled as I had stopped bleeding and thought that was that. But scan showed that "pregnancy product" as the sonagrapher so kindly put it was still there. Was given the 3 options, wait for up to 6 weeks for mc to happen naturally, medically managed, or ERPC. Wanted to get it all over with, so went with ERPC and was booked in for yesterday (Thursday) on the emergency list. DH dropped me off at 7.45am and went to theatre at 3.30pm!!! My first GA so that was the most scary bit.

Have decided (I think) that will give it a month or so, and see what happens. Fingers will be crossed.

Thank you all for your support. Will keep you posted on progress.

so sorry for your loss, we have just been through the same, so pm me if you need to talk xx

 

[Baby-Love]

Sorry to hear of your loss.

 

[tillymum]

So sorry for your loss, I had a mmc in may and had an ERPC. Do what you feel is right, you are not too old yet, i'm 36 and trying for my first lots of women have healthy pregnancies and healthy babies in their late 30's.
Hope you are ok and have people around you to support you, time is a great healer.

 

[todteach]

I'm terribly sorry about your loss.

To answer your question about how others feel about trying after a loss. Scared as hell (to put it bluntly)............but also excited.

If you want to talk, feel free. This forum is a great outlet, and the girls here are wonderful.