Hello everyone. I never thought in my wildest dreams that I'd be here, right now, in this place, on this website searching for hope, encouragement and advice- Let alone posting a thread about my miscarriage. It's difficult even saying those words without choking up. But, here I am... and my heart hurts for each of you that have gone through a miscarriage. Thank you in advance for listening to me! I have 2 healthy girls-pregnancies with no problems (very thankful). I'm 29 years old and pregnant with my 3rd. 1st appt-9 weeks. Everything looked great. Went in again at 11weeks for blood work-heart beat was seen again. Everything great. I went in November 2nd 2011 (almost 14 weeks) and my doctor said there was no heartbeat. She also said it happened very recently, but didn't specify a time frame. She also said it looked like there was some swelling around the head and neck. I had a pap smear done right before the ultrasound. (are those known to cause miscarriages?) I came back 2 days later with my husband for a follow up ultrasound-Praying and hoping for a miracle. Still no heartbeat. When asked about the swelling she couldn't seem to see it like she did the last visit. We then asked when the baby stopped growing and she said about 12 weeks. She gave me my options. However, I was too devasted to make any kind of decision at that time. So she sent me home with medicine in case the process started over the weekend. It's been 11 days since I've found out. Over 3 weeks since the baby stopped growing. There has been no bleeding and up to this point I haven't had any symptons of a miscarriage. I still have had pregnancy symptons. (I've learned that this is called a missed miscarriage) I have been experiencing the lower back pain off and on, but that's it. I'm 15 weeks 3 days today. And still nothing. I want to miscarry naturally, however, I dunno if I can stay on this emotional roller coaster of waiting it out. She offered the D&C, however I liked the option of my body releasing everything on its on. How much longer could it take? Can anyone that has had a miscarriage around this time frame tell me what to expect? When is it no longer safe to do it at home?