1st pregnancy, 1st mc. Looking for hope and support

[Britta C]

It's been a couple of years since I have been on this site, but I know how much support I got here before and I could really use it now.

I've only ever posted in the LTTTC section. My ex husband and I tried for almost 6 years to have a baby before we split up. Diagnosed with PCOS and no amount of fertility treatments ever got me a BFP.

Then I met the love of my life last September and we never even thought to use any protection because I was convinced I could not have a baby. Imagine how surprised and over the moon we were to find out in January that I was pregnant! I had completely given up ever having a baby and moved on with my life.

That joy turned to heartbreak on Feb 4th when I sat in the ER for 6 hours with suspicion of MC. I was exactly 7 weeks on that day, but HCG was only 270. Another HCG draw on Monday showed it at 265. But then a third on Wednesday showed it at 281.

After seeing the results of Hcg bouncing up and down, my OB became concerned about an ectopic pregnancy. They did an ultrasound but could not find any evidence of ectopic, and only what she described as free floating fluid in my uterus.
She told me the best course of action was a D&C so that the results could be sent off to analyse. If there was evidence of a pregnancy in the womb, then chances of an ectopic were extremely low. That was done the same day, Wednesday, and preliminary results seemed to indicate that it was indeed a regular miscarriage and not ectopic.

Bleeding from D&C has all but stopped now. I'm so afraid that this was a one time miracle and I will never see that BFP again.

Have any other LTTTC ladies had success after MC? And how long does it typically take for HCG to drop back to 0?
Looking for any help or support I can get here! Feeling so hopeless and devastated!

 

[OnErth&InHvn]

It took a few weeks for me to get back to 0 and i dont have hope for success because my loss was in 09 and we still dont have a BFP.

 

[madtowngirl]

I got pregnant pretty quickly with my first MC, but I ended up LTTTC after that, because I couldn't seem to get pregnant again. I should have had a D&C with that one, but didn't. That time, it took a month and a half for my HCG to go to 0. I wound up pregnant again about 20 months later, and had another MC, which I did have a D&C for. My HCG was 0 after about a week and a half.

Three months later, I was pregnant with my rainbow. I did have to have fertility treatment to conceive her, but she's here.

I hope that you'll see another BFP soon, and that this one will be your rainbow.

 

[Britta C]

Well, I got a call from my OB today. Pathology confirmed it was indeed a regular miscarriage, so thankfully I don't have to have any medication to terminate an ectopic pregnancy. HCG is "falling normally" whatever that means, hopefully soon it will be back to 0.

Thank you so much for the replies. OB said that we are free to try again as soon as we feel emotionally and physically ready. I know that my OH (who has an 11 yo from his first marriage) went from not wanting any more kids to really wanting to try for another baby.

I'm so hoping that maybe this was a sign that my PCOS is under control and that I can get pregnant now. I really don't know if I can go through another 5 or 6 years of trying for a BFP and being continuously disappointed. We did have a long talk about all the stuff I went through, and he did say that he would be willing to go through fertility treatments with me if that's what it took. I'm thinking that I will give it at least a year of trying on our own before I resort back to that. For whatever reason, AF is so much more devastating for me when I'm doing fertility treatments. I guess because I hold so much hope that they will help.

madtowngirl - I'm so happy to hear that you finally had a happy ending. I hope that we all see that!

onerth - I'm so sorry to hear what you have went through. I'll keep you in my thoughts and I hope that you get the baby you deserve soon!

 

[WhiteLily]

I just had my first pregnancy and miscarriage too. I have been waiting a long time for the right time to get pregnant. I was so excited and then so heart broken. I am also RH negative so I am afraid that I might have issues even though I got the shot. It can be scary to try again. I was told to wait 2-3 months before I try again. I am also scared that this will happen again but you cant let that stop you from being a wonderful mom. You have always wanted a baby and that's wonderful. I grew up in a household where my parents didn't want to be parents and that can be hard on a child. You could be a really great mom and I wish you the best of luck in getting pregnant again. Sometimes miscarriages can be reoccurring and that doesn't take away the pain in knowing it's common but just know that a lot of women go on to have healthy babies. My husbands great grandmother had 6 miscarriages and she had three healthy babies.