2 healthy babies and now 2 miscarriages in row, looking for hope

[SWimple]

I have never posted anywhere about my losses or pregnancies. So if I am not posting this in the right thread please forgive me. I have two healthly little girls one is 5 and the other is 22 months. My husband and I decided to try for a third in July of 2013. I had my bfp at the beginning of Novmeber, I was 5 weeks. I had an ideal pregnancy until i hit 9 weeks then I began spotting. I went to the doctor, had an ultrasound baby measured on target and had heartbeat of 185 (which i questioned but was told that is fine) They gave me a rhogam shot (I am RH neg. ) and sent me on my way. That was a friday, the following wednesday I began bleeding i called, they brought me in the next day and the baby no longer had a heartbeat. They said it was full of hydrops. I should have been 9 weeks 6 days but the baby measured only 9 weeks 1 day. so it had only passed away a couple days prior. My d&c was the next day Dec. 20th 2014. The baby was tested for chromosonal abnormalities but they came back normal and we found out it was a little girl. I had my cycle on Jan. 25th 2014. I found out that was pregnant again on Feb. 22, 2014 8 weeks after my d&c. I started miscarrying the baby at 5 weeks this past tuesday. I went to the doctor, they did an ultrasound and saw a sac that measured 5 weeks (right on target) they gave me a rhogam shot and again said everything was fine and sent me on my way. no other labs etc. were done. Still currenlty bleeding now on day 7. My doctor did not want me to follow up just told me to continue taking my prenatal vitamins and call when i get pregnant again. Needless to say I have found a new doctor and i have an appt for next tuesday the 18th. I feel like they are brushing me off since i already have 2 children. I do not have a problem getting pregnant but for some reason I am not carrying them now. What is wrong with me??? I am just looking for some hope, insight, similar stories, anything really. Sorry for all the info but I wanted you all to know as much as possible. looking for hope, faith and a sticky rainbow....

 

[EarthMama]

There is definitely hope. I had 2 losses in 2013. had all the blood tests, etc.

This current pregnancy is my 3rd in a year and it stuck. What I did was get super duper healthy, exercise lots, eat a paleo style fertility diet, mega dose on folate, b12 and cod liver oil. I took vitex also, since I realized I had a progesterone problem. When I got pregnant I used a progesterone cream as well.

And then I just thought positive thoughts. It worked...so far the baby seems to be healthy and I am getting movements.

So don't give up hope! My friend had several miscarriages in a row and went on to have several more children without another loss. Sometimes it just happens. Sometimes it's just bad luck. I don't know if everything I did differently for this pregnancy helped or not but I think it did. Basically just do all you can to make yourself super healthy. The odds are in your favor that you WILL get pregnant and hold a pregnancy again, I'm sure you will.

So sorry for your losses! I know how painful they can be. But if you want this 3rd baby, don't give up, just keep trying.

 

[dairymomma]

I've had 8 losses total but have managed to make it to term with my DS and DD in between those losses and I'm currently due this summer after 2 consecutive losses last year. I'm mostly unexplained and even my specialist has to scratch his head because what worked for my DS and DD hasn't worked for every pregnancy since. Even this pregnancy had it's complications early on. We know I have hormone imbalance issues (low progesterone, too much estrogen) and I have a history of unexplained bleeds during the first tri. Hoping to do more in-depth thyroid testing after this baby is born though as there have recently been signs pointing to thyroid disfunction. As for what's wrong with you, it's hard to say since there hasn't been any major testing done to this point. Some women just have the unfortunate luck to get pregnant and miscarry because it was bad luck. There are any number of things that can go wrong in those early weeks-bad implantation, a cell didn't divide quite right, etc.-and not everything can be caught by the doctors. I'm sincerely hoping this is what happened to you. But if not, there's plenty of testing that can be done to see if something is wrong. For basic testing, most doctors will run a thyroid function test and check for infections. My doctor also checked my sugar levels and monitored my progesterone levels early on with my next pregnancies. With more involved testing there is clotting disorder testing, genetic testing, hysteroscopy or HSG to check your uterus...It's hard to say what your doctor will order but I'd just bring up your worries and fears at your appointment and see what comes of it. And ask for the basic tests at the very least.

 

[SWimple]

Thank you EarthMama- I am staying hopeful and we are being extra healthy now as well. I had heard about the extra folate and B12. I am going to talk to my new ob about it on Tuesday. So happy for you that you and the little rainbow baby are doing well. It give me hope : )

 

[SWimple]

Thanks to you also Dairymomma- I am very hopeful and this new doctor is willing to check most of what you mentioned on Tuesday. Congrats on the baby due in the summer!! It is hard to have due dates to get past. My first loss was due July 15th and my second loss was due November 1st. I am keeping my head up and hope for a sticky one soon.

 

[dairymomma]

For me, it's not so much about the due dates. (For one, I have so many, I don't remember them all anymore) It's more about getting past those miscarriage milestones. Before, it was if I got to 10 weeks, I was good because I hadn't miscarried after 9+4. Then I had a 14 week loss last summer and it was a very tough time for me after ward. I didn't breathe easy until I was 15-16 weeks with this baby and feeling definite baby movement.

But I don't let that fear get to me. Or at least I TRY not to let it get to me. It's hard not to let the fear and worry in but I've had to learn not to give up hope. If I give up hope, then all I've been through is for nothing. And hope keeps whispering to me, "Let's give it one more shot." I agree with Earthmama that staying positive helps enormously and this is how I stay positive. I focus on hope.

 

[celine]

Hi there is hope xxxx i too had two perfect pregnancies and got pregnant right away at the thought of a third, took it all for granted as it ended in a mc on my sons birthday in June 2013 we fell pregnant before my period arrived and this one stuck longer as it ended in a mmc in september 2013, in october 2013 again with no af since april i got a bfp...im now 24 weeks along!

 

[Radiance]

I had two healthy babies then our third baby was stillbirth. After Elijah was stillbirth we miscarried two times in a row. They found nothing wrong with Elijah and have no clue why his heart stopped beating. All test came back normal with our miscarriages too. I did additional testing for blood disorders, amniocenteses and other testing. -All came back normal as well.

I am now currently 10 weeks pregnant and as of now everything is fine.

 

[melfy77]

I've had 2 losses in a row then got pregnant with DD1. Got pregnant again when she was 3 months old with DD2 My tests came back normal, except for a mild Protein C deficiency, for which they put me on low-dose aspirin. They also put me on progesterone. Don't give up