20 weeks with #2 and single

[oktober84]

To make a long story short, my now ex I guess has been lacking in the job department since I got together with him. In 2009 we had our first baby a beautiful little girl. I thought maybe he would change. You know with the mounting expenses that babies come with. He didn't. He would work great for 3 or 4 months and then boom his work ethic completely disappeared. Well in September my OB put me on bedrest at 8 weeks. This did not help our finances in the least as I was the main income. I thought okay well now that I am not at work maybe he will start going everyday when he sees our finances. Nope he didn't. So now I am living with my sister (both my parents are passed) while he stayed in the city to work and I come to find out he hasnt been working at all. So I made the bold decision to leave him 3 days ago. I am at my sister's house when I should be in my own house getting a nursery ready for the new little one one the way. I should be excited and anticipating april to come. Instead I am a ball of emotions second guessing if what I did was the right thing or not. Even tho I already know the answer but its hard and I have been crying off and on I cried so much yesturday I got a migraine and a bloody nose. I guess I just need reassurance that this is the right thing to do. Oh to boot I live in a small town 40 mins from the city and the only person I can really talk to about this (my sister) also has the same man problems so how can I bring it up to her?

 

[whatwillbe]

I think you've done the right thing Hun, if he cant be responsible enough now to hold down a job how will he be once baby arrives ? , I know it's upsetting , especially being pregnant and your hormones being all over the place but hopefully this might be the kick up the backside he needs , just concentrate on you and baby for now, if your stressed so is baby

 

[Dezireey]

Sometimes I think there is nothing wrong with making a big decision in pregnancy that causes you less stress. If you can honestly say that the decision to leave him now is better for you and your babies health, then yes, you did the right thing. If being apart from him ( regardless of his job problem) is going to give you headaches and high blood pressure throughout your pregnancy then maybe patch things up, wait till baby is born and then talk to him about wanting to leave properly. Sometimes couples need time apart, sometimes a break is best. Whatever it is you do hun, the most important thing is to keep stress free during your pregnancy.

 

[belle254]

You definitely did the right thing. Good luck xx

 

[Livebythesea]

I'm 19 weeks and living with my husband in separate rooms because he wants a divorce but I won't do it while pregnant...I often feel it would be less stress if I moved out so I wouldn't have to look at him every day wishing he would change and want to work things out. My dad has a house in the town that I live in but he closes it down in the winter...when he opens it up I may stay there, just cuz it's too hard to be around him - sounds like you made the right decision, albeit so very, very difficult. Wishing you much luck and many hugs.

 

[jexter]

You made the right decision!!