2015 October Owls! | The chicks are hatching! *16 boys & 8 girls so far!*

[DoubleTFun]

So we are interviewing for a doula this Wednesday. Does anyone have experience with them? I'm not able to have midwife and I am with a group of OBs so I don't actually have an assigned one.

Also, me and the husband got into it yesterday about who is going to be in the room with us during labor. He has issues. I said I want him, the doula, and my mom in there (in addition to medical personnel of course). He thinks having my mom in there is ridiculous and that no one does that. He thinks that by my mom being in there, his mom needs to be too (which be doesn't want). I was so angry and was basically like I'm the pregnant one. I'll be the one in labor so I'll choose who is in the room. I was like I could chooseyto not even have you in the room. I was so mad.

I had my mom in the room for my first delivery. Which happened so fast in the middle of the night and she got there just as I started to push.
Ask the Dr's how many people you are allowed in the room. I was only allowed 2 and if you are having a Doula that might count as your second person. There were so many personnel in my room when it came to pushing I can understand why they have limits.
During my second labor my husband and I agreed that this one was for just the two of us to bond. My mom and Dad were there during labor, but when it came time to push they stepped out and let us have our moment.
The first pregnancy it was my mom's first grandchild and I thought she deserved to witness it.
The second pregnancy although I had to push for longer I felt it went much smoother with just my husband as I could concentrate better and it was more bonding for us. This time it will be just the two of us and I am hoping that my parents make it into town in time to help take care of my 2 kids so they don't have to witness the birth.

 

[startd]

NT scan went well, and baby is growing nicely.
We found out the gender (most likely) as he flashed us in one of the pictures!

 

[startd]

How do I add a photo here?

 

[startd]

Here's our little one at almost 14 weeks

Great to see the scans today. Looks like we're expecting a boy!

 

[bathbabe]

Yay congrats startd! X

 

[pink_bow]

Congrats startd

 

[3boys]

Congrats startd I found out at at 14 weeks that I was team Blue as well. Exciting x

 

[Charmed86]

I had my dating scan today Baby is looking great, they've told me he/she is measuring at 13+5 now (which is 4 days over what I thought I was.. And FF said!) Hmm. It was really rushed though & he couldn't do the NT measurements as baby had his spine facing us.. Although, when I asked, he said baby was on his side.. Which was clearly wrong. Sigh. I'm not sure he really knew what he was doing tbh! I'm going to mention it to my MW as I feel let down by the service. He blamed the baby being in the wrong position & my weight, but I know women bigger than me who have had the NT test! A friend of mine had a baby in the wrong position, her tech asked her to drink some pop & move around a bit to move baby. We weren't told to do that. We weren't even offered a photo as the tech said they'd be rubbish. I asked for one anyway, & he didn't charge us for it, but still! I don't care if he thinks it's rubbish, it's my first baby!! God dammit. I'm so annoyed.

I don't know if I believe the new dates.. The whole thing was so rushed, he could have got the measurements wrong. He didn't really check them more than a couple of times. We're going for a gender scan at 16wks - A private one!! I don't have much faith in the NHS at the moment. I am tempted to hire a doula for when I give birth, just so I've got someone on my side in there with me. I know I'll have my DH, but I also want someone who knows what's normal & what's not.

I've been offered a quad test to get figures for down's syndrome etc.

Anyway, so apparently I am now 13+5 (I'll update my ticker) & my new EDD is 14/10/15. Can this be changed on the main page please? I figure even if the private scan changes my dates back to where they should be, the NHS wont care. The same way they don't care about the hematoma & haven't even looked for it. Sigh.

 

[MissR]

Congrats startd!!

Charmed, sorry to hear you weren't very happy with the tech. I have no advice really, just hugs your way! Hopefully your gender scan will be a much happier experience for you xx

 

[Charmed86]

Wow, I had no idea you could see so early!

Thanks MissR, I think I'm just annoyed because my friend had such a different, better experience! The results won't change how I feel about baby anyway, so I suppose it doesn't really matter whether we get the test or not I can't wait for the gender scan, I am so certain we're expecting a boy!

 

[bathbabe]

I cant remember who asked earlier but I had my mum with me! She only just managed to arrive in time tho lol.
This time im not sure if she will be there or not, it all depends on time of day, school day, weekend and who will be able to look after or get my son from school etc etc! I need my mummy tho.. my OH was rubbish last time, basically just slept in the chair next to me the whole time Lol. X

 

[bathbabe]

Sorry you had a crappy time charmed x

 

[nmpjcp2015]

This is my first, but I'm having my husband and possibly my sister. He wants it to just be us, but I want her there because she's aggressive and will request what I want. Plus I really need her to take photos because I don't know how much I'll remember and I want records of everything for later.

Everyone else will come by and say hello and my parents will probably want to pray with us, then they'll leave.

Congrats on a baby boy startd! Tomorrow is my big day. Ahhh, I hope they can tell me.

 

[GingerPanda]

This is our first baby. It'll just be me, hubs, and the doctors. I don't want anyone else in the room. It's one of the biggest events in our lives as a couple, and I want it to be as private as possible.


Congrats on team blue, startd!

 

[apreslaube]

Congrats startd. What a crummy experience charmed! I'm sure the private will be much better

 

[babywesson3]

Last 2 have been me and hubby and will be the same this time.
Hubby doesn't have to do much til were pushing as I don't like being touched or anything just need motivating words for pushing and him close by. And he passes my water as and when I need it lol He keeps everyone up to date on the phone and I usually bounce and enjoy my gas and air lol

 

[GingerPanda]

I so wish I was allowed to have gas and air! Lol

 

[MissR]

Last time I had my OH and his mum and sister would alternate coming to check on me as we was only allowed 2 in the room. OH's sister was there when baby actually made her arrival. My mum passed away when I was younger so that wasn't an option for me, otherwise I would have had her there gladly. Also my sisters aren't very good with the ugliness that comes with giving birth and OH sister had 2 children before me so I wanted someone with experience. This time however, I know the whole process and I think I would just like it to be me and OH xx

 

[DoubleTFun]

I so wish I was allowed to have gas and air! Lol

I so agree Ginger! I read in another thread that some US hospitals are starting to allow it, so it doesn't hurt to ask! I plan on asking. It's just laughing gas so I don't see why we can't have it if it's available in the hospital.

 

[GingerPanda]

I so wish I was allowed to have gas and air! Lol

I so agree Ginger! I read in another thread that some US hospitals are starting to allow it, so it doesn't hurt to ask! I plan on asking. It's just laughing gas so I don't see why we can't have it if it's available in the hospital.

Only two US hospitals offer it that I know of. Vanderbilt in Nashville, TN and one in California. Most US hospitals aren't properly vented for the amount that would be exhaled in a maternity unit. Installing this venting would be expensive for a more inexpensive pain relief option. Our medical system being for-profit, you can imagine most hospitals aren't willing to do it.