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[Aliop]

This may sound stupid.. Maybe im naiv, i dont know lol
But does anyone just have this feeling their babe is coming early?

I had this massive headaches.. Shock like pain accross the lower back that runs horizontally.. Low dull back ache.. Much more frequent bh.. And have to go the the bathroom more/gassier but not loose stools. My cervix is so high and has been this while time, i cant even feel it.

And on top of that, my gut just says he will be coming soon. Is that dumb?

I see my mw tomorrow so maybe she will check my cervix for me?

Not dumb at all! With my first I met up with my friends for coffee and then went home and cleaned out the pantry, fridge, organised my bag, put a waterproof sheet on my bed just based on a weird feeling and boom! Waters broke that night!

 

[Tink1o5]

Well I had my ob appt today and had the group b test. She went ahead and checked me to but saved my cervix was so high she couldn't reach it. So she couldn't tell if I was effaced or dilated or anything. She did say she could feel baby's head down there though.

Now I've been having continuous spotting and cramping. Is this normal after a check??

 

[craquinette]

This may sound stupid.. Maybe im naiv, i dont know lol
But does anyone just have this feeling their babe is coming early?

I had this massive headaches.. Shock like pain accross the lower back that runs horizontally.. Low dull back ache.. Much more frequent bh.. And have to go the the bathroom more/gassier but not loose stools. My cervix is so high and has been this while time, i cant even feel it.

And on top of that, my gut just says he will be coming soon. Is that dumb?

I see my mw tomorrow so maybe she will check my cervix for me?

I wish!! But I'm the opposite, I'm pretty sure baby will stay there as long as possible and possibly go over due
I hope I'm wrong as I'm so sick of being pregnant, but had an appointment yesterday (I'm 36+4 now), and baby is still high, and there is no sign of anything happening anytime soon. Not even Braxton Hicks....

Other than that, I had a breaastfeeding class yesterday... Anyone else planning on breastfeeding but not excited about it AT ALL? I mean, I know it's supposed to be the best for baby, and that's really the only reason I'll give it a go, but man, I don't like the idea... Anyone else?

 

[nmpjcp2015]

I don't dislike the idea but I'm nervous. And DH would rather I pump, so it's a little discouraging.

 

[ClaireJ23]

I breastfed both my girls and I know it's not for everyone but I found it really convenient. There's no washing and sterilising, measuring out formula, remembering to pack bottles etc. I lost at least a 1lb a week and returned to my pre-baby weight within months. I think there are a lot of advantages for mum too.

 

[craquinette]

I breastfed both my girls and I know it's not for everyone but I found it really convenient. There's no washing and sterilising, measuring out formula, remembering to pack bottles etc. I lost at least a 1lb a week and returned to my pre-baby weight within months. I think there are a lot of advantages for mum too.

Thanks for your feedback, that's good to know...
I guess what bothers me (at the risk of sounding like a bad mom already...) is the fact that breastfeeding means being the only one responsible for feeding baby.... That includes getting up every night, but also always having it in mind if planning to do things... If I want to take some time for myself, I'll have to anticipate and express, and also express while I'm out (if out for a few hours) to keep the supply up and avoid discomfort as well. It just seems really overwhelming and like your body is still not yours...

 

[tallybee]

I breastfed both my girls and I know it's not for everyone but I found it really convenient. There's no washing and sterilising, measuring out formula, remembering to pack bottles etc. I lost at least a 1lb a week and returned to my pre-baby weight within months. I think there are a lot of advantages for mum too.

Thanks for your feedback, that's good to know...
I guess what bothers me (at the risk of sounding like a bad mom already...) is the fact that breastfeeding means being the only one responsible for feeding baby.... That includes getting up every night, but also always having it in mind if planning to do things... If I want to take some time for myself, I'll have to anticipate and express, and also express while I'm out (if out for a few hours) to keep the supply up and avoid discomfort as well. It just seems really overwhelming and like your body is still not yours...

Im similar to claire with it. For me it's totally worth it and only for another short while so I will bf as long as it's right for us. I have bought a pump this time too so we'll see how we go xx

 

[tallybee]

OK I was at the MW on Tuesday and she had to call me to sort out the 38 week home visit, which she has just arranged - OK. She then dropped the bombshell on me that she's arranged a consultant appointment as well, saying that I need to be assessed for my mobility (SPD) issues as it might prevent my home birth. This is my worst nightmare. What would be available in hospital that would make it better anyway? Help I am now really stressed and worried

 

[Twag]

WWI - I hope all is okay and your little one bakes for a little longer

I breastfed my son and I plan on doing so again it was so nice not having to worry about bottles etc or having to get up and go get a bottle at night etc a lot less disturbing - I was really sad when it ended at 9 months - I went back to work at 13 weeks and was pumping then so he was both bottle and breastfed from that point

I am not going to sugar coat it - it does hurt to begin with but doesn't last and you do at times just feel like a daisy the cow but I think personally the pro's outweighed the con's for me

 

[Charmed86]

I'm sorry Tally, that really sucks Hopefully you can bring that point up with your consultant & see what they say. I know a friend who had really bad SPD & it did effect her birth, but she was really bad with it & is now permanently disabled because of it. It didn't help that she didn't take any of the advice given & continued to work out etc! Maybe you could look into some SPD friendly birthing positions that might help change their minds? As with all home births, if you find it too much to cope with, or there are complications, the hospital is nearby for help anyway! I hope you're able to keep your home birth.

craquinette - I get where you're coming from. I've never breastfed before, this is my first, so I've no idea what to expect! I didn't even consider that I'll have to pump while I'm out, even if my baby isn't with me to keep supply up! I was just thinking along the lines of just pumping for DH when he takes baby out without me - if & when that ever happens! Haha. And of course, hopefully helping with night feeds too. I think I'll just have to see how it goes.

Does anyone else feel really guilty about complaining about their pregnancy? I find myself wanting to say things, but stop myself - even on here! Because I feel as though I am so blessed to even be pregnant! I don't think I've had an easy pregnancy, but it's certainly not been the worst.. I had terrible MS for 20+wks, then GD, plus SPD & now sciatica. I just hate to complain, I worry that if I complain then it'll all be taken away from me. I was told 6yrs ago that I'd probably not be able to have a baby, so this little guy really is my little miracle, how dare I complain?!

 

[Aliop]

Tallybee, GL with the appointment, hope it goes well & your homebirth plans are supported

craquinette, once you get used to it BF is super easy and convenient. Def a learning curve though! At the end of the day you have to do what makes you and baby happiest. I have always demand fed for the first couple of months and then moved onto a more routine feeding schedule (whilst still being flexible of course) which meant I have had some predictability and haven't been as tied down to it. My first two took expressed milk from a bottle too no drama at all, I got lazy and didn't bother trying with my third and he wouldn't (which sucked!) but come six months or so you're not their sole food so it isn't near as draining I've found. I've fed all mine for 2 yrs+.

Charmed, you've got just as much right to complain as the next person! Sometimes things just plain suck -even things you are eternally grateful for! Don't beat yourself up, venting is healthy

 

[tallybee]

I'm sorry Tally, that really sucks Hopefully you can bring that point up with your consultant & see what they say. I know a friend who had really bad SPD & it did effect her birth, but she was really bad with it & is now permanently disabled because of it. It didn't help that she didn't take any of the advice given & continued to work out etc! Maybe you could look into some SPD friendly birthing positions that might help change their minds? As with all home births, if you find it too much to cope with, or there are complications, the hospital is nearby for help anyway! I hope you're able to keep your home birth.

craquinette - I get where you're coming from. I've never breastfed before, this is my first, so I've no idea what to expect! I didn't even consider that I'll have to pump while I'm out, even if my baby isn't with me to keep supply up! I was just thinking along the lines of just pumping for DH when he takes baby out without me - if & when that ever happens! Haha. And of course, hopefully helping with night feeds too. I think I'll just have to see how it goes.

Does anyone else feel really guilty about complaining about their pregnancy? I find myself wanting to say things, but stop myself - even on here! Because I feel as though I am so blessed to even be pregnant! I don't think I've had an easy pregnancy, but it's certainly not been the worst.. I had terrible MS for 20+wks, then GD, plus SPD & now sciatica. I just hate to complain, I worry that if I complain then it'll all be taken away from me. I was told 6yrs ago that I'd probably not be able to have a baby, so this little guy really is my little miracle, how dare I complain?!

Thanks hun xx

OMG that's bad about your friend, I am sitting here thinking how impossible it would be to work out with this pain!

Yeah I also feel bad about complaining about pregnancy, but we are here for each other for good and bad stuff. Don't feel bad about writing on here if you're feeling rubbish hun we're in the same boat

Tallybee, GL with the appointment, hope it goes well & your homebirth plans are supported

craquinette, once you get used to it BF is super easy and convenient. Def a learning curve though! At the end of the day you have to do what makes you and baby happiest. I have always demand fed for the first couple of months and then moved onto a more routine feeding schedule (whilst still being flexible of course) which meant I have had some predictability and haven't been as tied down to it. My first two took expressed milk from a bottle too no drama at all, I got lazy and didn't bother trying with my third and he wouldn't (which sucked!) but come six months or so you're not their sole food so it isn't near as draining I've found. I've fed all mine for 2 yrs+.

Charmed, you've got just as much right to complain as the next person! Sometimes things just plain suck -even things you are eternally grateful for! Don't beat yourself up, venting is healthy

Thanks xx

I hope the consultant is ok. OH is very supportive. He gets my point completely which is that unless LO is at risk then my decision is final.

 

[Twag]

Tally - I hope you can still keep your homebirth

Charmed - don't feel bad about complaining pregnancy is damn hard and we are here for you through the good and the bad times

 

[Dark_Star]

For those on the fence about breastfeeding, I found this article very interesting and it made me more determined to try my best at it.

https://www.thestranger.com/feature...-learn-about-breast-milk-the-more-amazed-i-am

 

[ClaireJ23]

Something that made me laugh

 

[ClaireJ23]

I think the disadvantages to exclusively breastfeeding would be that DH doesn't get up to do night feeds, but my DH wakes at 5am to go to work so I didn't feel like I was getting such a raw deal. Plus, after the first few months DD1 was sleeping for 6+ hours and DD2 only had 1 feed in the night up until 8 months, so it wasn't forever. I guess I was lucky in that I could feed and put the baby back to sleep without a problem (we have a cot adjacent to the bed) and I would go back to sleep easily too.

In terms of going out without baby for extended periods of time. The baby came with me pretty much everywhere for the first couple of months so that wasn't a problem. After that there were longer periods of time (3-4 hr) between the feeds so I could go to the gym or whatever and leave DH in charge and not worry too much.

After 6 months I started weaning and introduced the bottle and formula in combination with breastfeeding so then I really started to be able to leave baby for longer.

I have a breast pump but don't particularly like pumping but that is just personal preference. Obviously this is an option if you want.

I'm intending to breastfeed again, but if didn't work out for whatever reason I wouldn't feel guilty or anything like that as I know lots of very healthy formula-fed babies.

 

[tallybee]

Claire you are so like me in bf attitude lol xx

 

[Dark_Star]

Honestly economics is one of the primary reasons I am planning to nurse. Formula feeding 1 baby in Canada for 6 months total runs from $1500-1900 in my area, and we really cannot afford to pay that much x2.

 

[onebumpplease]

Dark_Star ouch, put like that it would be soooo expensive.

For me I want to try breastfeeding, but I couldn't manage with my first, she stayed in special care for the first few nights of her life, so being away from her meant my milk didn't come in properly. So I feel guilty about the thought of breastfeeding 1 and not the other...So not sure my heart is in it, but I do know I want to try....just don't know for how long...

I was sure baby would come early, but now with only 2 weeks to section date, I'm convinced he's staying put till he's evacuated!

 

[tallybee]

Yikes Dark star that's a lot of money, formula is super expensive. I've never looked at a total cost for it here, I never used it for DS and only a tiny amount for DD1 but BF will always win hands down if it's economics we're talking about