2015 October Owls! | The chicks are hatching! *16 boys & 8 girls so far!*
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Hi Ladies! This video has made the rounds and went viral. But just in case you've never seen it, grab the kleenex and enjoy!
"Parenting Advice - 10 Things I Wish I'd Known Before Having a Baby"
https://youtu.be/p27Hi8QoHoo
"Parenting Advice - 10 Things I Wish I'd Known Before Having a Baby"
https://youtu.be/p27Hi8QoHoo
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Sounds like something to me! Keep us updated!
I'm starting to get really nervous about being induced on Weds. That & visitors after Oliver arrives. I've told family that DH & I want a week to ourselves before anyone visits so we can get into routines etc. Now I'm thinking I might want it longer than a week. Honestly, I don't want certain people in my family near my baby & the thought of it is making me really stressed out.
My mum especially. Given that she spent weeks telling everyone that she wanted Oliver to be a preemie just so she could meet him & just so I'd give birth while we were still having to stay with them. That makes me so angry. The other day, we went over to pick up some of our pets, now the house is officially finished!! & she called me into the lounge to chat. I declined because I needed to help DH with the pets, but turns out she's sick anyway!! So I text her later, a rather passive aggressive 'thanks for the heads up that you're ill!' & she replies with 'that's why I stayed out of the way'.. Well, you didn't. You called me in!! It makes me so angry. She hides a lot of stuff like that from me so we still go over & it infuriates me. I can't trust her to actually be well in herself when she visits and I know that seeing Oliver and holding him is more important to her than his wellbeing, given her comments from before.
I need to relax, sorry for the rant! I was feeling so calm until she text me earlier, asking why id not replied to her today. I told her I was just busy preparing for Oliver. But honestly, I just need some time away from her. I need to get my head in the right place for Weds & she's not helping with that at all. Maybe it's my hormones, but I'm just so angry at her. I'm tempted to block her on my phone until I'm mentally ready to talk to her.
My mum especially. Given that she spent weeks telling everyone that she wanted Oliver to be a preemie just so she could meet him & just so I'd give birth while we were still having to stay with them. That makes me so angry. The other day, we went over to pick up some of our pets, now the house is officially finished!! & she called me into the lounge to chat. I declined because I needed to help DH with the pets, but turns out she's sick anyway!! So I text her later, a rather passive aggressive 'thanks for the heads up that you're ill!' & she replies with 'that's why I stayed out of the way'.. Well, you didn't. You called me in!! It makes me so angry. She hides a lot of stuff like that from me so we still go over & it infuriates me. I can't trust her to actually be well in herself when she visits and I know that seeing Oliver and holding him is more important to her than his wellbeing, given her comments from before.
I need to relax, sorry for the rant! I was feeling so calm until she text me earlier, asking why id not replied to her today. I told her I was just busy preparing for Oliver. But honestly, I just need some time away from her. I need to get my head in the right place for Weds & she's not helping with that at all. Maybe it's my hormones, but I'm just so angry at her. I'm tempted to block her on my phone until I'm mentally ready to talk to her.
Thanks for sharing your story Darkstar and glad everything turned out ok in the end.
Good luck Miss R too!
I need to go for a presentation scan on Wednesday, baby is lying breech. If she still is then will discuss a section date with the consultant on Friday
Good luck Miss R too!
I need to go for a presentation scan on Wednesday, baby is lying breech. If she still is then will discuss a section date with the consultant on Friday
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Good luck MissR!
Charmed, do what you need to. This is a very stressfull time for you, so don't feel guilty for focusing on your own wellbeing and your lo's and nobody else's.
Dark star what a difficult experience! The important thing is that you're all ok now...
Charmed, do what you need to. This is a very stressfull time for you, so don't feel guilty for focusing on your own wellbeing and your lo's and nobody else's.
Dark star what a difficult experience! The important thing is that you're all ok now...
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Good luck Mrs R!
Charmed, I totally feel for you with mom problems. My mom loves to tell everyone how she's not going to buy anything for our baby and how little time she has for it. It's her first grandchild, at 75 she's retired and has all the time in the world! You'd think she'd be less negative but she gets on the phone with me to tell me the negative stories she told her friends and our family doctor... How she's never going to babysit, never buy it clothes, her sister asked if she's knitting for it -no way! I just have to wonder what the hell is going through her brain. I was so upset I didn't know what to say so all I said is that's unfortunate mom and I'm sorry she feels that way (it must come from a really dark place to say all that). Then I called her back 1/2 later after I gathered my thoughts and told her that both sis & I feel she and dad should have never had kids because she always made us feel like we were a huge imposition and she will NOT be doing this to my baby. I told her if she has any more negative stories to tell to keep them to herself and doesn't she understand how crazy and heartless she must sound to the people she's airing this load of bunk to? She apologised and offered to get our stroller for us. I really don't want her money or efforts especially since she's made all this fuss but it's so important to me to cut her off with her negativity. Our family doctor said she has a huge chip on her shoulder. She explained to my mom that as a grandma, she has a little set of spare clothes and toys for her grandchildren and is my mom going to do that too? My mom quickly put her ideas down and said she has no time for that and that I was so hard to buy clothing for why would she ever want to start that again for grandchildren? So sad!
Your issue is different yet similar, these women feel the world somehow revolves around them. Keep your chin up and don't take on the games they play. This should be a positive experience for us, I intend to ensure, at all costs, that my mother doesn't sabotage that in her own fkd up way. (excuse my french)
Charmed, I totally feel for you with mom problems. My mom loves to tell everyone how she's not going to buy anything for our baby and how little time she has for it. It's her first grandchild, at 75 she's retired and has all the time in the world! You'd think she'd be less negative but she gets on the phone with me to tell me the negative stories she told her friends and our family doctor... How she's never going to babysit, never buy it clothes, her sister asked if she's knitting for it -no way! I just have to wonder what the hell is going through her brain. I was so upset I didn't know what to say so all I said is that's unfortunate mom and I'm sorry she feels that way (it must come from a really dark place to say all that). Then I called her back 1/2 later after I gathered my thoughts and told her that both sis & I feel she and dad should have never had kids because she always made us feel like we were a huge imposition and she will NOT be doing this to my baby. I told her if she has any more negative stories to tell to keep them to herself and doesn't she understand how crazy and heartless she must sound to the people she's airing this load of bunk to? She apologised and offered to get our stroller for us. I really don't want her money or efforts especially since she's made all this fuss but it's so important to me to cut her off with her negativity. Our family doctor said she has a huge chip on her shoulder. She explained to my mom that as a grandma, she has a little set of spare clothes and toys for her grandchildren and is my mom going to do that too? My mom quickly put her ideas down and said she has no time for that and that I was so hard to buy clothing for why would she ever want to start that again for grandchildren? So sad!
Your issue is different yet similar, these women feel the world somehow revolves around them. Keep your chin up and don't take on the games they play. This should be a positive experience for us, I intend to ensure, at all costs, that my mother doesn't sabotage that in her own fkd up way. (excuse my french)
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HCharmed, I am in similar situation as you but totally opposite though.
For a while, we know that my DH's parents didn't see my boys more often than my parents does see the boys. All they are doing is skyping or FaceTime and we felt that don't do any much and not enough bonding with my boys or play with them physical and before that we found out that DH's Dad been looked after my brother in law's two kids for 5 days and none for my boys! All because of the parents are working and I am a full time mum stay at home and DH's at work so they thinks it's okay? So I had to text to tell them enough is enough and we don't get any supports from them anymore. They never come up to see the boys for summer holidays! Now they twisted and use DH's sister's illness and all that blow up. We are angry and upset that they don't see the facts!!! So now I am not keen to text them anymore as this was a long story even blocked them on Facebook lol!!
So that's my situation at the moment and i feel like I don't want them to come up and see my baby girl once she is here so she gets fame if u know what I mean? I have known that my niece is a spoil brat because she is their first granddaughter but my eldest son is their first grandson where is fair in that? So I won't have them spoil my daughter like that! Sorry rant over!
Eeekkkk I am down to single digit now!!! 9 days left!!!! I am not ready - nah, I am so ready to have her out now as I had enough lol!!!
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For a while, we know that my DH's parents didn't see my boys more often than my parents does see the boys. All they are doing is skyping or FaceTime and we felt that don't do any much and not enough bonding with my boys or play with them physical and before that we found out that DH's Dad been looked after my brother in law's two kids for 5 days and none for my boys! All because of the parents are working and I am a full time mum stay at home and DH's at work so they thinks it's okay? So I had to text to tell them enough is enough and we don't get any supports from them anymore. They never come up to see the boys for summer holidays! Now they twisted and use DH's sister's illness and all that blow up. We are angry and upset that they don't see the facts!!! So now I am not keen to text them anymore as this was a long story even blocked them on Facebook lol!!
So that's my situation at the moment and i feel like I don't want them to come up and see my baby girl once she is here so she gets fame if u know what I mean? I have known that my niece is a spoil brat because she is their first granddaughter but my eldest son is their first grandson where is fair in that? So I won't have them spoil my daughter like that! Sorry rant over!
Eeekkkk I am down to single digit now!!! 9 days left!!!! I am not ready - nah, I am so ready to have her out now as I had enough lol!!!
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I'm so sorry you're having problems with family too, 2have4kids! Why do nice occasions seem to bring out the crazy in families? Or is that just mine? Haha. Any big event has to have some sort of drama.. Usually created by my mother! Sigh.
Tomorrow is the big day for me! I had a wacky dream about being induced last night!! I had 3 days of being given pessaries, twice a day.. Which amounted to nothing, then monitoring & Oliver's HB dropped to 20bpm so they decided to do an EMC, but the next available date was next Weds?! Anyway, they did it the next day at 10.45am.. Except it wasn't me on the table? It was someone else.. Weird. I waited in a waiting room. When they brought him out to me, he was so small that he fit in the palm of my hand, but they told me he was almost 12lbs! Yikes. DH slept through the entire thing because he forgot the time, so he didn't know the baby had been born until I took him home.. But then I lost him because he's so small >.<
I'm racing through errands today, in the hopes I can get everything ready in time for tomorrow.
Tomorrow is the big day for me! I had a wacky dream about being induced last night!! I had 3 days of being given pessaries, twice a day.. Which amounted to nothing, then monitoring & Oliver's HB dropped to 20bpm so they decided to do an EMC, but the next available date was next Weds?! Anyway, they did it the next day at 10.45am.. Except it wasn't me on the table? It was someone else.. Weird. I waited in a waiting room. When they brought him out to me, he was so small that he fit in the palm of my hand, but they told me he was almost 12lbs! Yikes. DH slept through the entire thing because he forgot the time, so he didn't know the baby had been born until I took him home.. But then I lost him because he's so small >.<
I'm racing through errands today, in the hopes I can get everything ready in time for tomorrow.
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So baby arrived early hours of this morning at 1.12am weighing exactly the same as his sister at 6lbs 13oz and exactly 2 days early like she was. Managed to labour at home for most and was 8cm when I got to the hosp. He was out 36 minutes after I got there. Was the best experience I could have asked for. We are both doing well but he doesn't want to feed as he's so exhausted! And we still don't have a name for him! Any suggestions welcome 
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MissR, he is simply gorgeous 
Congratulations!!
Charmed, sending you lots of labour
for tomorrow, so exciting!
As for me, I am fairly sure I had my bloody show today!!! eeekkkk!! Google tells me actual labour may be a way off but I feel relieved my body is doing what it is supposed. Had some intense pre-labour back aches and BH this afternoon that had me ringing DH at work in a panic because it was overwhelming me.
Trying really hard to remind myself my baby knows how and when to be born, I have to trust the process. Very hard when you've come from such a traumatic experience though, anyway hoping tomorrow isn't the day as it is our wedding anniversary lol
Congratulations!! Charmed, sending you lots of labour
for tomorrow, so exciting! As for me, I am fairly sure I had my bloody show today!!! eeekkkk!! Google tells me actual labour may be a way off but I feel relieved my body is doing what it is supposed. Had some intense pre-labour back aches and BH this afternoon that had me ringing DH at work in a panic because it was overwhelming me.
Trying really hard to remind myself my baby knows how and when to be born, I have to trust the process. Very hard when you've come from such a traumatic experience though, anyway hoping tomorrow isn't the day as it is our wedding anniversary lol
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