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[Dezireey]

I'm sorry hun but any man that can't decide one day from the next if he wants to be with you is as flaky as hell. They are the types who disappear when the shit hits the fan or if they meet another girl and then bounce back when it suits them.

Its a good not a bad thing that you are not together. Try not to have too much contact with him unless its about LO. No contact for as much as you can is going to help you heal. You will get over him, it just takes some time.

Unfortunately having a child with someone doesn't always mean couples should stay together or magically be in love. Divorce rate is high and most of the time people are just incompatible, that's all. Try to see it as incompatibility as there is nothing you can do about that.

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[Dezireey]

Oh yeah definitely don't let him stay over sweetie, that's just not going to help you at all. I kept in touch with my FOB for two years after we split and he was cruel and unkind to me but every now and again said he missed me, always responded to my texts straight away, promised to help with LO and you know what? all it has done is prolonged the pain. Now he has finally got another woman, it hurt me like hell a few weeks ago to find that out but him? Nah, he moved on ages ago and I just was stuck back where we once were. No contact is really the best thing for you. And you are right, once you get a life back and do things to keep you occupied and do things you enjoy doing, life will get better for you, it really will

 

[44npregnant]

So me n FOB broke up 3 months ago n a few times hes come back n said he loved me n got bk together for him to change his mind a day or week later. I hadnt seen him for 1.5 months n he came the other day n said he loved me n wanted to move in the next day ect. Well he changedhis mmind the next day.

Wev spoken n we both love each other but were not going to be together but wev sorted out him seeing LO n everything.

The thing is its so hard for me to see him n spend time with him without it really hurting and upsetting me. Hes done alot of horrible things n was never a particularly amazing boyfriend but I love him anyway. I no we shouldn't be together.

Anyone in or been through the same thing? How can I make it easier on myself n stop loving him n just be happy myself. I feel like im always gunna love him n be unhappy but I hope it won't be like that

I can't say I still have feelings for the FOB. If he can treat me as badly as he has when I'm carrying his child, he's not worth it. I do leave the door open for the baby but if someone doesn't treat you right, you shouldn't have feelings for them. Move on! good luck