20wks and I'm emotional :( anyone else?

[clucas1988]

Well I have got to 5 months our 20wk scan is this week I should be so happy and don't get me wrong I am I love our baby so much but I have some upset at the moment and I've not had any years or hormonal outbursts at all til now! I am worrying I won't be a good mum, to be honest my mum wasn't very nice to me and she left when I was about 12. So a mother figure I lack! I feel kind of alone even though I have friends and other family and a husband I do feel I could do with a mum to reassure me! My in law mum is ok but very opinionated and will make me feel bad if I do anything she doesn't agree with. I kind of feel like I'm scared of being like my mum ! And my past has come to haunt me!
Other stuff like finances and work is stressing me out my work is hard and I stand all day I'm shattered!
I also have a sore belly sometimes and sore feet and basicly I worry about the baby all the time!
What's happened to me I have never been like this usually I'm happy and very calm . All of a sudden I feel abit alone and scared ? Why? I'm not! Anyone offer any advice or anything?
Thankyou and sorry I realise it was a rant really so I do apologise x

 

[sashadoll]

Your going to do great. Have faith in yourself. Your hormonal and that's ok. Just remember your not your mom. You turned out great even with all she put you through. As for you mil just agree to disagree with her it's your baby and your life. You and your husband make all the final decisions. Hope you feel better soon.♡

 

[RoxieHart]

Oh hunny, you are going to be PERFECT. You know what, the fact your thinking and talking about these concerns just proves how much of a fantastic mother you are going to be! You know what has made you feel unhappy, you know which aspects of motherhood you feel you lacked from your mother, which means you'll know how to ensure your little one doesn't lack those too. Like previous poster said, have faith in yourself. EVERYBODY has worries, I already have a daughter but have worries about my baby boy, but I just know the minute he arrives it will just be amazing! Be positive, teach your LO all the things you wish you perhaps had known/felt. Honestly, you are going to be amazing. Don't give your self such a hard time, remember you are hormone crazy right now, we all are!

Just remind yourself that you do have people around you that care, everything will be ok! Xx

 

[ItsJana]

I think with the situation with your mother it's very understandable to have these feelings of possible inadequacy. I grew up with a mother who really should have never had any children and I went through the thought that I would be a bad mother. You just learn overtime that just because you had a (for lack of a better word) bad mother, doesn't mean you will be one. Thinking about these things already makes you a better mom, because you are aware of what makes a bad parent.

 

[MamaLa]

I'm 23+6 and I literally had a crying outburst. But i miss my OH. He's been out of town since the 1st. Just feeling lonely.

 

[emeeorevan]

Oh hunny, you are going to be PERFECT. You know what, the fact your thinking and talking about these concerns just proves how much of a fantastic mother you are going to be! You know what has made you feel unhappy, you know which aspects of motherhood you feel you lacked from your mother, which means you'll know how to ensure your little one doesn't lack those too. Like previous poster said, have faith in yourself. EVERYBODY has worries, I already have a daughter but have worries about my baby boy, but I just know the minute he arrives it will just be amazing! Be positive, teach your LO all the things you wish you perhaps had known/felt. Honestly, you are going to be amazing. Don't give your self such a hard time, remember you are hormone crazy right now, we all are!

Just remind yourself that you do have people around you that care, everything will be ok! Xx

exactly! The simple fact that you are worried makes you much better than your own mom. I think we all have these thoughts and feelings. I'm on my third and I still have these concerns! I'm positive you will be a wonderful mom just from listening/reading.

 

[clucas1988]

Thankyou so much you lovely ladies! I haven't posted here since about 11weeks but you all are so lovely Thankyou again. I know deep down I'll be fine I guess sometimes we need reassuring and like one of you said, I maybe a little hormone crazy at the moment lol. Thankyou genuinely you have all made me feel better with your non judgemental replies and kind and honest answers . Big hugs from a happier m2b x. X

 

[RoxieHart]

Thankyou so much you lovely ladies! I haven't posted here since about 11weeks but you all are so lovely Thankyou again. I know deep down I'll be fine I guess sometimes we need reassuring and like one of you said, I maybe a little hormone crazy at the moment lol. Thankyou genuinely you have all made me feel better with your non judgemental replies and kind and honest answers . Big hugs from a happier m2b x. X

Im glad you feel happier! Sometimes we all just need a bit of a boost!

 

[clucas1988]

xxx

 

[sashadoll]

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