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[sweetlullaby]

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[broodylocket]

sounds like a good idea granny to granny. sorry hes being awkward but no one can make u have someone there u dont want to....as U are the one giving birth ....tut some people. hope things go okay hun xx

 

[tinkabells]

Yeah i think granny to granny sounds good, that way they are bothing thinking of you and the baby and him, rather than you and him or you and her
I think its a fab idea, i would get my mum to it, but i would be hidden somewhere watching lol xxx

 

[babybaillie]

I dont no ur history. But i can only imagine it must be hard for his mum. There isnt a lot she could do during the pregnancy. But now ur nearly due shes realising her grandchild is coming and is perhaps stepping up to the mark. if it was me id give her the benefit of the doubt n let her be involved in LO's life on ur terms.

as for fob i would ask him why hes had a change of heart. ask him why he would want to be at the birth of a child a short time ago he asked for a dna of. Better u do try to sort it b4 LO arrives. make it easier on u all xx

 

[sweetlullaby]

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[lou_w34]

If you left the door open to his mum and she didnt take you up on the offer then its her fault entirely if shes feeling left out!

I think your mums idea is a good one, let her talk it out with her, you dont need the stress with so little time left to go.

And as for him wanting to be in the room, yet still wanting a dna test.... i cant even make any sense from it????

Hope it goes ok

 

[McLovin]

I think Granny to Granny is a brilliant idea!!! You're very lucky she's offered to do this for you - she must be a lovely mum! awww x

 

[sweetlullaby]

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[teal]

I agree and think the granny to granny idea is great!

It doesn't make sense that he is demanding a dna test and wants to be there at the birth!

But then not much they do or say makes sense anymore!

I think you made a good gesture leaving the door open for her. I'd be feeling let down aswell that she's waited until now to try and use.

Sending you hugs xx

 

[purpledahlia]

oh no, im the only onw who thinks it might not be a great idea..

I think that you should meet her, and tell her face to face your side, what hes said to you, how hes treated you, HOW YOU FEEL. how you feel about the fact you left the door open to her and she has only just recently been in touch and stuff, I think getting 'mums' to talk.. in a way is a bit.. well they will both come back to you and him and pass on info which will probably get wires crossed and then he will speak to you and i just think it would end in an argument with words getting twisted. I think you should talk to her yourself.
Its nice of your mum to offer, but i personally wouldnt do it.
I think his mum needs to hear from you,

With the dna thing, well if thats his demand hes made his bed, let him lie in it. Just tell him theres no way hes being at the birth, eh doesnt even believe baby is his why would you put yourself ina n uncomfortable situation. you want 'x' there and thats that!

He probably wants to be there because deep down he knows the DNA test will come back hes the father but he doesnt wanna know he missed his childs birth, but he wants it on paper. basically he wants the best of both worlds but you know what he doesnt deserve the chance let alone actually getting what he wants!!

 

[sweetlullaby]

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[purpledahlia]

Erm TBH... i WOULD tell him that...

If my FOB wanted a DNA he wouldnt have anything to do with her, seeing her or anything till he got the results. why should they get best of both.. hes chosing to be difficult and ask for DNA.. why should he waste your time and see LO when he doesnt even believe babys his.. Thats one thing i would definately say to him personally. After all they've done, they make their bed in it they lie in it. He wants DNA-means he doesnt believe babys his-why should he have a chance to meet her and possibly bond with her? (i say her because im having girl, but 'baby' in your case)

 

[sweetlullaby]

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[purpledahlia]

Yeah but maybe its better that way.. your legally protected from him. Everything will be done formally and he cant be an arse about it. I honestly wouldnt let FOB near eithe of us if he asks for a DNA. I would say yes thats fine, you cant see her till you get the results tho. His choice!!! If anything it gives you a few weeks stress free to bond and get to know baby without his ugly head rearing itself.

If your on benefits you wont have to pay for any legal fees ... he will tho!

I think your very fogiving to let him see LO AND 'demand' a DNA test. I'd be livid. And his mum, whether from you or your mum, needs to know her son's a total shit.

 

[sweetlullaby]

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[purpledahlia]

yeah and now its so close to the babies being here its all hitting home,

Definately think about letting him see baby before the DNA. x

 

[sweetlullaby]

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[suzanne108]

OMG your situation gets more and more like mine by the day.

I've also had massive problems with my FOBs mum, in my case though it was her that went to my mum - thinking she would get more "sense" out of my mum than she would out of me. And I went TOTALLY ballistic that she contacted my mum instead of me.....so I think I would have to agree with purpledahlia that I would speak to her about it and not include your mum. Let her see that you are a grown woman and don't need people like her putting pressure on you at such a difficult time in your life. Its not fair that she is stressing you out. xxx

 

[sweetlullaby]

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[purpledahlia]

well lets hope it goes well! xx