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[sweetlullaby]

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[lillprutten]

I'm so sorry OP but I cant help to be jealous when I read about your ex wanting to be a part of your baby's life. I wish mine was like that.
Mine refuses to have anything to do with our baby and said he will never admit fatherhood and neither is his mother in the picture as she doesnt even know i'm pregnant and i dont know how to contact her.
Maybe his mother just feels awkward? I dont know. Time will tell what happens xxx

 

[sweetlullaby]

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[purpledahlia]

i think if he wants to be involved and see her then he should ditch the DNA thing, if hes genuinely not sure and wants it done, he cant get best of both and be at birth and see the baby before the results are thru. He needs to make a decision where his loyalties lie and what he GENUINELY believes,

 

[lou_w34]

Ohhhh good luck to your mum!
I hope it goes well for you both!

 

[rewizz]

Hey chick i am in the same position and have the same txts phone calls not from the mother tho .. as she wants to play the martre .. ( as in let everyone around her belive that she has made the effort and tried ,but i have shunned her ,,, mmmmmm ) i spoke to her last in aug and she asked what blankets i'd like .. i explained only cotton etc and sizes .. i actually rang ex to ask if she had managed to get any cause i'm having a baby shower and friends are asking what to get .. and i want to wash them .. and she hasn't got a thing saying she didn't know what i wanted .. bollocks !!!!!

No way in a million will i even call my ex when i'm in labour i do not want him whimpering any where near me .. i have my bessi mate and mom ..
I have been through all this once b4 i have a12yr old .. and it's hard enough dealing with ur hormones b4 and after birth....
Do what u need to do ... do not let them make u feel guilty ultimatley u will be the babies main carer .. so tuff tit ..... to the ex in laws .. do not oust them totally just keep arms length .. u may need them at some point ...
I never did with issy's dads family .....cause i'm lucky i have a good family round me .. and this bub will be the same .. i'm just gutted i have a habit of picking idiots ... and waited 12 yrs to experience this all again grrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

register the baby in ur name but put the dads name on the cert is my advice .. from previous ..
and try and make some financial arrangement with him ...
all the best ur mom sounds ace and i'm sure she'll be all u b need a doting grandma ...... anyone can be a nanny ..... lol xxxx

 

[lillprutten]

Hey lillprutten,

its ok. and there is no need to apologise.

Im just confused because FOB says he wants to be a part of babys life etc and he wants to be there at the birth and that he now suddenly "cares" but yet he doesnt do anything to show he cares, he hasnt bought a single thing and he is still demanding that a dna test is done to "prove" this LO is his. Its mind boggling confusion and stressful for me. I hate it.

His mother...im doing my best to keep an open mind but i gave her my phone numbers and i told her i wanted her to be involved and i wanted to meet up with her and get to know her etc and she never took me up on it so feel kinna dissapointed and quite angry because they've both given the impression of not caring and not having anything to do with LO until now and im just expected to forgive them and let them walk all over me and be involved as it suits them etc

It really sucks. This not knowing. As you said Time will tell whats gonna happen etc

In such case I have only one thing to say, actions speak louder than words and words are cheap. A person once very close to me told and taught me the meaning of that and I must say it is true!