28, ttc #1, and looking for ltttc buddies

[RainAngel]

Hey, how's everybody doin today?

The "weekend" for me was very.. painful, i guess. everywhere i went, i saw babies or bumps or heard about somebody having a baby. i wanted to scream. its not been easy lately - and it just seems to be getting worse. at work, there've been 2 new babies, and we won't even start on the whole facebook part of it.

it doesnt help that we're in the middle of a baby boom... but we can't be part of it -YET!

 

[MrsBroodyPant]

Hi,

I know how u feel. I spent this morning at a friends house who has a one year old - so cute!! And her sister came round with her 7 month old! I felt like I was getting left behind, especially when I, older than them both and the only one who is actually married!!!!!
xxx

 

[RainAngel]

All my friends are pregnant, or have kids. hell, even my step daughters have babies! i became a grandma before i became a mother. that was the worst. they werent even trying and bam. pregnant. my long time friend is 5 months and has no job, no home, and can't even afford the basic prenatal care.

whatever i did to piss God off, it musta been HUGE. wish i knew what it was.

 

[Mrs. Mafiozo]

I am right there with you all. I'm 30 and have been trying for #1 for 10 months. My sister had 3 children, all 1-2 years apart, like bam bam bam no problem. I truly am thrilled for her and love those kids like my own, but deep down inside there is always the "why not me?". Some days I'm so down, I don't even want to go to the store or get on facebook or talk to even my friends because those are my "sad" days about not getting pregnant, other days I'm great and I'm on this forum trying to stay motivated. What a roller coaster ride this is to want something so bad, and not even know when it will happen. I get so pumped though when I read the success stories of people like me.

 

[RainAngel]

I'm the same way. I'm glad they make their families and have success, but damnit, why not us? why can't *WE* get what we want?

 

[Dolly84]

I've been exactly the same this week... Af arrived on Thursday ...very painful... Then when I complained about it at work... My boss said , I know what would fix that...."have a baby"!!!!!! Obviously they don't know we're trying but that almost sent me over the edge .... Then there has been loads of baby talk as someone else at work is expecting..... Then just as I was leaving to go home a girl who has just come back of maternity leave brought her 8 month old in to show her off....I went home in floods of tears and as my oh was working drove straight round to my parents house....most of the time I deal with it quite well but every now and again it just gets too much 😔x

 

[RainAngel]

People are very insensitive and rude towards people - they don't know the whole story before running their mouths. my pregnant friend told me i "need to come down as soon as the baby's born" and im thinking why?! so it can hurt even more? she knows about my struggles, yet flaunts her pregnancy to me.

some days, i just want to give up and say ok, fine. you win. no baby. but i wouldnt be able to live with myself if i really did that, and i know it.

 

[kathleen756]

Hello ladies!
Would you mind if I join you? I'm 28 and my dh and I just passed the 2 year TTC mark with no success
I was on another thread and almost half of them got BFP's this month and it is just compleatly bumming me out. None of them had been TTC for longer than 8 or so months and while a really am happy for them it really just makes me want to cry.
I also find myself struggling because i am the ONLY person in my family that is having trouble getting pregnant and that includes extended family too.
We're headed into our 5th IUI cycle and I'm really not feeling all that hopeful anymore
I'm really happy to find this thread though with others that are going through something very similar to myself, makes me feel a little less alone

Sticky to all!

 

[RainAngel]

welcome kathleen!

 

[RainAngel]

Hey ladies! how's everybody doin' today?

not much going on on my end. called the FS Thursday, still waiting them to call back. If they don't soon, i'll call back. hopefully they'll have ideas for donors