2nd miscarriage

[jessica2509]

Hi,

I'm currently going through my second miscarriage. My first one was late December 08. I am absolutely devestated as I saw a scan on Monday after i had bled and it showed baby in the right place although no heartbeat. That was ok as i was just 6 weeks. That evening i passed clots so i presume that was it.

I seem to have stopped bleeding after only one day. I've still got the symptoms of being pregnant ie. sore boobs and feeling sick, but i take it that my body still has hormones going round it.

I read after the first one that it happens to loads of women and the next one would most likely be ok, but obvoiusly isn't. I so want to try again, but am really scared. My MIL suggested counselling, but i know the only thing that will make me feel whole is carrying a baby full term. (I already have a 2 year old daughter.)

I don't know if it happened because i tried so soon after last m/c and don't want it to happen again, but don't know now if i should wait until first af or wait for 2 or 3. Or if it really makes a difference.

I know i have rambled on and don't really know what i want people to say, I suppose just to have some hope that I will get pregnant again before my daughter gets much older.

x

 

[QTPie]

Hi

Am so, so sorry for your losses.

I have nothing practical to say, but just wanted to give you warm and sincere

Take care.
QT

 

[MrsO29]

Hi I am sorry you are going through this.

I also have a healthy daughter, then have had 2 m/cs.
I got pg with this one straight after my last m/c, and everything is going ok so far. My midwife swears there is no reason not to get pg straight after a m/c. In fact you are more fertile, and your body is already primed for pregnancy. They only tell you to wait so they have accurate dating info.
(I was shocked at this!!)

I agree with you. My dd is 4 now, and we have been trying to give her a sibling for 3 years now.

Good luck x

 

[jessica2509]

Thanks, I wasn't sure whether the second m/c was caused by getting pregnant so quickly after the first if my body wasn't ready for it or something. (I waited until first af after last m/c).

I appear to be able to get pregnant pretty easily not that that means anything as it doesn't mean the same thing will happen next time around. And i don't know if i should be waiting until 1st af or 2nd or 3rd.

Am sorry to hear about your m/c too and wish you a healthy pregnancy.
x

 

[becky77]

Hi hun just wanted to say i am so sorry for your loss, i recently had my 2nd m/c first was oct 08 , i know exactly how you feel , it is so awful and you just feel so low , i carried my twins with no problems so this has been a big shock.
i found out yesterday that i have colitis which is an inflammatory bowel disease apparently when this flares up it can cause recurrent m/c so at least i know what is prob causing it.this has come on since my twins were born.
Is there anything that has changed since having your daughter?

again so sorry hun.
pm me if you want to talk.
x

 

[chella]

Thanks, I wasn't sure whether the second m/c was caused by getting pregnant so quickly after the first if my body wasn't ready for it or something. (I waited until first af after last m/c).

I appear to be able to get pregnant pretty easily not that that means anything as it doesn't mean the same thing will happen next time around. And i don't know if i should be waiting until 1st af or 2nd or 3rd.

Am sorry to hear about your m/c too and wish you a healthy pregnancy.
x

Hi
Just read ur story, So sorry to hear your sad news, i had my miscarriage last week and still have sore boobs and nausea But im also wondering when to start trying again, as my doctor said wait for 1 cycle and the doctor at the hospital said 2 -3 cycles and then midwife said 1 -2 cycles so im trying to work all that out as same as u im scared of having to go through this again and so is my hubby,

Wish you all the best in trying and sending u lots of xxx

 

[Schmelly]

Don't worry about having conceived again so soon. I have read info from the MC Association, and also the book by Prof Lesley Regan (the country's guru on miscarriage) and both say that there is no greater risk of mc if you try again immediately. The only time that medically you have to wait is when there have been complications (eg ectopic). Often they tell you to wait because it ensures you are emotionally stronger (in case it happens again) and because it helps the docs to date the pregnancy.

So sorry for your loss. Good luck

 

[Daisydo]

im sorry that you have gone through this...i suffered emergency ectopic surgery mid jan this year....I think the reason you hear wait till AF before concieving agian is becuase of dating for the docs. medically if you suffered a miscarriage you should be fine to begin again if your emotionally ready. My thoughts are with you and i hope things work out for you ...

 

[buffycat]

i'm so sorry hun.....this no words that could ever heal this.....

all i can offer, is that you need to give yourself some time to heal......

 

[bklove]

It's tough because like the statistics say it should get easier. Plenty of women on here have gone on to have successful stories, and you could be next. So I say start trying again when you feel physically up to it, emotionally we are gung ho because we want it so bad...I know because thats how I feel/felt. I was told as well they just tell you to wait for dating purposes and also if your body is not ready it will let you know, unfortunatly in the form of a m/c, but its possible to go on and have a great pregnancy. Me personally, I never stopped trying , did try harder after first AF after m/c though.