Brightxeyes
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I'm getting myself worked up over it now, as I'm pregnant and worried every time I'm getting stressed out, it's stressing out the baby.
My son won't listen to me. I have to repeat myself.. 20 times.. I end up having to ask my other half, or whoever else is with me, to tell him, and most of the time he'll bloody do it. But even then, he's also started to be very cheeky with my other half too.
Like at first I thought okay he's just taking the mick with me and pushing his boundaries.. but it's getting past a joke now. It's upsetting me. I can't say I've enjoyed being a parent since before he was 2, because he just ends up getting me so upset like I'm just a really crap parent or something.
His room, it's totally covered in toys, he breaks his toys because he's rough, I mean it's not like he's totally nasty, but I tell him to calm down and play gently with cars or whatever, breaks the cars and doesn't learn from it.
I say don't do something, and he will then do it on purpose, no matter what the punishment is. I've had to drag him up to bed crying, and he just gets over it so quick it's like he's not understanding that hey I should stop doing what I was told not to do.
He's also having problems with socialising at nursery, he's never been around kids, I don't have many friends and don't know anyone with kids even close to his age. No cousins etc either. The times I have took him out for little play dates, I've ended up crying in the car on the way home because he actually turned into a freaking demon child shrieking when it was time to go. He horrified the other kids. So I avoid it entirely. The looks I get from the parents I just can't take anymore. I don't RSVP to the birthday parties he gets invited to at nursery.
He's started throwing at nursery, and pushing, smacking, snatching. Seems like they've given him chances to stop while he's at nursery, but he's still not getting it. He'll say, repeatedly, that smacking is naughty, that throwing is naughty, snatching is naughty, but he won't follow through with it. The repetitiveness of everything he says is also a worry too. He'll say the same thing, even though you reply, or acknowledge what he's saying, you can even ask him to stop saying it, to the point where you have to tell him off to stop him saying it for the 50th time. I see the other kids at nursery and they seem to be having more conversations than he does.
He's even having like a support teacher help him with that side of things, but god knows if that'll help.
Just worried that I'm upsetting the baby, and that my son will absolutely hate change and hate the baby, or hurt the baby because he's throwing things.
I've tried the naughty step, tried no treats, no youtube, no toys, straight to bed. Everything. My other half has even taken every single thing out of his room before, because he's wound both of us up so so much.
I'm sick of shouting. Really sick of shouting. I never wanted to be a shouty parent, but there's only so many ways you can ask nicely and be patient, and try distractions to get him to behave. By the time I get to the point of shouting, I want to cry, I'm borderline panic attack, and then I just worry that I'm hurting the baby somehow?
I'm just so fed up.
My son won't listen to me. I have to repeat myself.. 20 times.. I end up having to ask my other half, or whoever else is with me, to tell him, and most of the time he'll bloody do it. But even then, he's also started to be very cheeky with my other half too.
Like at first I thought okay he's just taking the mick with me and pushing his boundaries.. but it's getting past a joke now. It's upsetting me. I can't say I've enjoyed being a parent since before he was 2, because he just ends up getting me so upset like I'm just a really crap parent or something.
His room, it's totally covered in toys, he breaks his toys because he's rough, I mean it's not like he's totally nasty, but I tell him to calm down and play gently with cars or whatever, breaks the cars and doesn't learn from it.
I say don't do something, and he will then do it on purpose, no matter what the punishment is. I've had to drag him up to bed crying, and he just gets over it so quick it's like he's not understanding that hey I should stop doing what I was told not to do.
He's also having problems with socialising at nursery, he's never been around kids, I don't have many friends and don't know anyone with kids even close to his age. No cousins etc either. The times I have took him out for little play dates, I've ended up crying in the car on the way home because he actually turned into a freaking demon child shrieking when it was time to go. He horrified the other kids. So I avoid it entirely. The looks I get from the parents I just can't take anymore. I don't RSVP to the birthday parties he gets invited to at nursery.
He's started throwing at nursery, and pushing, smacking, snatching. Seems like they've given him chances to stop while he's at nursery, but he's still not getting it. He'll say, repeatedly, that smacking is naughty, that throwing is naughty, snatching is naughty, but he won't follow through with it. The repetitiveness of everything he says is also a worry too. He'll say the same thing, even though you reply, or acknowledge what he's saying, you can even ask him to stop saying it, to the point where you have to tell him off to stop him saying it for the 50th time. I see the other kids at nursery and they seem to be having more conversations than he does.
He's even having like a support teacher help him with that side of things, but god knows if that'll help.
Just worried that I'm upsetting the baby, and that my son will absolutely hate change and hate the baby, or hurt the baby because he's throwing things.
I've tried the naughty step, tried no treats, no youtube, no toys, straight to bed. Everything. My other half has even taken every single thing out of his room before, because he's wound both of us up so so much.
I'm sick of shouting. Really sick of shouting. I never wanted to be a shouty parent, but there's only so many ways you can ask nicely and be patient, and try distractions to get him to behave. By the time I get to the point of shouting, I want to cry, I'm borderline panic attack, and then I just worry that I'm hurting the baby somehow?
I'm just so fed up.