3 and a half yrs and going crazy

[nat86]

hi. iv never joined a forum befor but ill try anything just now to see if it helps,
im 26 now and have been married 4 years, my husband and i have been trying to have a baby for 3 and a half years, its just not happening. it doesnt help i feel i dont really have anyone to talk to about this as i dont want to add my problems to other peooles. and while my husband wants children he doesnt seem to have a grasp on how to provide comfort and support,
we have had all the fertility tests which have all come back normal, my periods though have always been all over the place so ovulation tracking is quite difficult, i feel like iv tried everything, i dont stress about this until i get my period as i know stressing can lower chances so the rest of the month i relax and try not to think about it but now it seems everyone whether its in life or on tv around me is getting pregnant but me.
i always wanted a big family but now i only have 4 years until im 30 and chances get even lower.
i just dont know what to do.

 

[Just1atLeast]

I'm very sorry you're going through this. I a also in a very bad situation. My sister just had a baby and now my friend is pregnant. I have been trying for 10+ years promising myself i would give birth before i'm 30. Well here i am 31 with not even one baby or even miscarriage. I know you will get yours soon you are still young and you started trying early.

 

[nat86]

wow ten years is such a long time i can only imagine how hard that is for you, i have 2 sisters one who is 21 with a year old boy and another whos 30 and just got pregnant, i love them both and i am so happy for them and im so excited to be an aunty but i also know how hard it can be to keep smiling sometimes,
its good you have never had to go thru the heart ache of miscarriage, i had one and it was the worst experience of my life, when you do get pregnant it will be strong enough to hold on because it had to fight so hard to get there to begin with

 

[purplesparkle]

awww know how you feel been trying for nearly 3 years and no joy, i'm 31 nearly 32 wasbeen married 5 years was hoping to have kids right now. you come to the right place you'll get loads of support here. have you seen a fertility specialist yet?

 

[nat86]

hi sparkle, thankyou, yeah iv seen a specialist, all tests came back normal except for one slightly policystic ovary which shouldnt be causing this much problems, husbands tests are fine, going back next month for some xray of the tubes an should be able to start some drugs in a few months, just sucks that there doesnt seen to be any problems, keep thinking i might feel better aboout ythis if there was a reason...

 

[felecia]

hi sparkle, thankyou, yeah iv seen a specialist, all tests came back normal except for one slightly policystic ovary which shouldnt be causing this much problems, husbands tests are fine, going back next month for some xray of the tubes an should be able to start some drugs in a few months, just sucks that there doesnt seen to be any problems, keep thinking i might feel better aboout ythis if there was a reason...

I went through about 3 years of testing due to bleeding all the time (at the time I wasn't trying to get pregnant, but wasn't preventing either). I then met my OH and we've been actively trying for 2 years (about 6 months before that I had to go through more tests, etc.) I had tons of tests constantly showing I had nothing wrong with me, I didn't even have policystic ovaries at all. My OH has great sperm mobility and count so that's not a problem. They took another test again and finally found out I was insulin resistant... I am heavier and just never can lose weight, apparently my levels have been crazy for awhile and I don't know if maybe my gyno before just didn't do the appropriate test for it. I am not happy I am insulin resistant, but I finally found why I had a 9 month straight period and why I would go 2 weeks with a period, maybe a week off, then another 2 weeks. I have been prescribed clomid 150 mg and upped metformin to 2,000 mg this month and I think I finally have ovulated. Do you ovulate normally? There have been tons of posts on here of women that ovulate every month but just weren't ovulating strong enough, so they were given clomid to jumpstart it. GL to all this is a process I wouldn't wish on anyone.

 

[nat86]

9 month long period! That's awful doctors r so useless sometimes, can't believ it took them that long to do a simple test! Are the tablets working? I'm hoping that's what ill get put on eventually, waiting for appointments is duscusting here, I was so excited to be starting treatment but having to wait 3 months or more between appointments is shit! I do have a lovly gc tho she is so helpful, recomended this diet called f plan, iv tried loads if diets befor an this is the 1st one that's actually worked! Iv lost over a stone an still going
My periods arnt as sporadic as yours but can range from 3-4 week cycles to nearly 8 weeks bein my longest so its really hard to judge ovulation, iv tried the cheap ov tests but I don't think they work very well, my fertility tests say I am definately ovulating bit I don't often get a possitive reading on them and others are soooooo expensive!

 

[felecia]

9 month long period! That's awful doctors r so useless sometimes, can't believ it took them that long to do a simple test! Are the tablets working? I'm hoping that's what ill get put on eventually, waiting for appointments is duscusting here, I was so excited to be starting treatment but having to wait 3 months or more between appointments is shit! I do have a lovly gc tho she is so helpful, recomended this diet called f plan, iv tried loads if diets befor an this is the 1st one that's actually worked! Iv lost over a stone an still going
My periods arnt as sporadic as yours but can range from 3-4 week cycles to nearly 8 weeks bein my longest so its really hard to judge ovulation, iv tried the cheap ov tests but I don't think they work very well, my fertility tests say I am definately ovulating bit I don't often get a possitive reading on them and others are soooooo expensive!

I do agree a lot of doctors are definitely useless, but I do thank God for the ones that helped me now. I went to one gynecologist who told me I was irresponsible for even having sex before I was 21 (I was 19 at the time) and told me I am only bleeding due to hormones and sent me on my way. I had the next gynecologist tell me "Oh you'll never have a problem getting pregnant, it's just your hormones messed up and it will even out soon", finally I went on b/c shot on my own. After coming off that I was completely screwed up, so I went to the gynecologist I currently have, in b/w these times I had tons of tests done. He told me he couldn't find anything, but to try clomid because he did know I wasn't ovulating which could screw up my periods as well. I did one month of it, but then moved the next month (I still didn't ovulate on 50 mg). Finally the gynecologist in St. Louis, MO found out I was insulin resistant as of 12/2011, but she had thought I was in October, but wanted to do blood tests every 2 weeks to be sure, so she started me on metformin. I was also put on b/c pills, so I don't know if the metformin helped with anything because b/c pills screw up my hormones, but they do give me a perfect 28 day cycle so that's great lol. I went off b/c pills in December, then no period for a month and a half; had to take provera to start my period, only lasted 5 days then clomid CD 3-7. I have to say I'm pretty sure that the tablets are working, but I won't find out until the 12th of March.... really hope that this is my time though Congrats on your weight loss! I'm having some trouble, but I've lost some with that metformin; I've never heard of that F plan, might have to look it up. Wow, 3 months b/w appts would be hard! I no longer use opks because I've had too many false positives and they depress me. My fingers are crossed for you, I know this road is a hard road to travel.

 

[omuk]

Hi Nat86. I was also ttc for 39 months and only 2 days ago i found out i was pregnant. All the tests came back normal, i was ovulating on my own and my hormones were balanced. I was not stressed at the beginning but got very stressed in the last year. Last month DH and i decided to go for IVF in April but the doc suggested one last cycle with preganol injection and clomid. We said ok halfheartedly and did what she said but did not take the cycle seriously because we were planning for IVF and were had gone through many cycles with clomid and preganol. Then i got pregnant.

My point is that sometimes only when we give up thats the time it happens. I tested when i was 4 days late because i wanted to party that night otherwise i would have tested at one week late because i did not have any extraordinary symptoms. I pray that you get your bfp soon. And dont stress yourself because of your age. I am 31 DH 35. We thought we were definitely out. I wish you best of luck and lots of

 

[nat86]

Thankyou, its amazing how much better I feel just from talking to others having problems too, sometimes I wonder why my OH doesn't get as upset as me, he's 36 an while he does want kids he doesn't seem too upset at the time its taking, he believes a lot in fate so I gues that helps, I just hope it happens soon

 

[josephine75]

Thankyou, its amazing how much better I feel just from talking to others having problems too, sometimes I wonder why my OH doesn't get as upset as me, he's 36 an while he does want kids he doesn't seem too upset at the time its taking, he believes a lot in fate so I gues that helps, I just hope it happens soon

Hi Nat,

I was just browsing your thread and just wanted to wish you all the luck in the world
Your OH sounds quite similar to mine, I'm 37 and he's 39 and whilst I'm totally panicking all the time that age isn't on our side and that time is running out he is so laid back and chilled, sometimes i think he doesnt want it as bad as me, although i know really he does he's just not a mega stresshead like me ha ha which I suppose is good cos then that balances us out, but with 5 years trying and not even a hint of a BFP its hard not to get scared

Lots of luck and to you xxx

 

[josephine75]

Hi Nat86. I was also ttc for 39 months and only 2 days ago i found out i was pregnant. All the tests came back normal, i was ovulating on my own and my hormones were balanced. I was not stressed at the beginning but got very stressed in the last year. Last month DH and i decided to go for IVF in April but the doc suggested one last cycle with preganol injection and clomid. We said ok halfheartedly and did what she said but did not take the cycle seriously because we were planning for IVF and were had gone through many cycles with clomid and preganol. Then i got pregnant.

My point is that sometimes only when we give up thats the time it happens. I tested when i was 4 days late because i wanted to party that night otherwise i would have tested at one week late because i did not have any extraordinary symptoms. I pray that you get your bfp soon. And dont stress yourself because of your age. I am 31 DH 35. We thought we were definitely out. I wish you best of luck and lots of

Congratulations OMUK that is really good news and I hope all works out well, I wish I could stop stressing so it could happen for me xxx

 

[nat86]

hi josephine thats exactly how he is, even tho he tells me how much he wants kids (when i ask) i sometimes wish hed have a huge hissy fit like me so i know he has some feelings! i asked him the othee night how he thinks he would feel wen it eventually happens and he holds his child for the first time but he really couldnt answer it he just cant emagine how it would be and i didnt really know how to feel about that...
it is hard not to panick sometimes its awdul everymonths going by with no possitives, iv found this place has really helped tho
hope it happens for you soon hun you deserve it after so long

 

[josephine75]

hi josephine thats exactly how he is, even tho he tells me how much he wants kids (when i ask) i sometimes wish hed have a huge hissy fit like me so i know he has some feelings! i asked him the othee night how he thinks he would feel wen it eventually happens and he holds his child for the first time but he really couldnt answer it he just cant emagine how it would be and i didnt really know how to feel about that...
it is hard not to panick sometimes its awdul everymonths going by with no possitives, iv found this place has really helped tho
hope it happens for you soon hun you deserve it after so long

Hi Nat

I just think some men genuinely find it really hard to express how they are feeling and showing emotion, it's not really a bloke thing is it all this TTC and really it is us women who have to do all the work, all of the tests, temping and peeing on sticks they just get the fun part of and providing the
However I'm sure when u get ur BFP he will be over the moon and the day he holds his baby will be the single most happiest day of his life and I'm sure all of this will be really soon for u hun
I absolutely love this website, I've not been around long, but I've already picked up so many hints and tips and lots of support, I'm slightly addicted too ha ha

Lots of luck, keep us updated xxxx

 

[Zekeyboo11]

We have unexplained infertility aswel we hae been trying for nearly 3 years. couple of things to think about start having sex from Day 5 every other day throughout the Month most People get pregnant prior to ovulation. Also I believe I haven't conceived due to my weight also think my bmi is over 32 but I've just lost a stone and funny enuff my fertility specialist said that she had a close colleague that couldn't get pregnant and there wasn't anything wrong with her all tests normal
She lost a stone and bingo she was pregnant not saying that this could be ur problem but even my moms said from the start that she thinks it's my weight and
I've also noticed thr my cervical mucus had dried up abit aswel so maybe it's worth thinking about . Good luck ladies

 

[tigerlilly]

Hi darling we're hitting our two yr mark in March! On top of this March is our anniversary for our SMC and my SIL is due in that month.

Dh family haven't enquired to our ttc situation since sil annouced bfp. Mil didn't even hug her son when he told her about smc, and sa results all she done was go one about how bil & sil really didn't think they could get pg. hmmmmmm families eh?

this month ttc is really starting to tear me apart so i'm trying to take on day at a time. xx lots of love to you x

 

[josephine75]

We have unexplained infertility aswel we hae been trying for nearly 3 years. couple of things to think about start having sex from Day 5 every other day throughout the Month most People get pregnant prior to ovulation. Also I believe I haven't conceived due to my weight also think my bmi is over 32 but I've just lost a stone and funny enuff my fertility specialist said that she had a close colleague that couldn't get pregnant and there wasn't anything wrong with her all tests normal
She lost a stone and bingo she was pregnant not saying that this could be ur problem but even my moms said from the start that she thinks it's my weight and
I've also noticed thr my cervical mucus had dried up abit aswel so maybe it's worth thinking about . Good luck ladies

Zekeyboo thanks for your wise words, I am currently trying to shift about 28lbs in total so hopefully as the weight starts to fall, I may get that elusive first BFP, good luck to you too hun, sounds like your headed in the right direction fingers crossed for you xxxxx

 

[nat86]

hi josephine thats exactly how he is, even tho he tells me how much he wants kids (when i ask) i sometimes wish hed have a huge hissy fit like me so i know he has some feelings! i asked him the othee night how he thinks he would feel wen it eventually happens and he holds his child for the first time but he really couldnt answer it he just cant emagine how it would be and i didnt really know how to feel about that...
it is hard not to panick sometimes its awdul everymonths going by with no possitives, iv found this place has really helped tho
hope it happens for you soon hun you deserve it after so long

Hi Nat

I just think some men genuinely find it really hard to express how they are feeling and showing emotion, it's not really a bloke thing is it all this TTC and really it is us women who have to do all the work, all of the tests, temping and peeing on sticks they just get the fun part of and providing the
However I'm sure when u get ur BFP he will be over the moon and the day he holds his baby will be the single most happiest day of his life and I'm sure all of this will be really soon for u hun
I absolutely love this website, I've not been around long, but I've already picked up so many hints and tips and lots of support, I'm slightly addicted too ha ha

Lots of luck, keep us updated xxxx

That's so true.... Wish I could just focus on the fun parts an not have to stress about tests charting peein on sticks.... Men have all the fun
I really can't wait to see his face wen we get a bfp, I know hel be over the moon, I started buying baby wipes for makeup removal as there loads cheaper an first time he saw them he thought I was hinting an got all excited, I fealt awful telling him it wasn't what he thought but at least now I know hel be happy
Good luck hun, well all be sharing our bfp's soon keep in touch xxxx

 

[nat86]

We have unexplained infertility aswel we hae been trying for nearly 3 years. couple of things to think about start having sex from Day 5 every other day throughout the Month most People get pregnant prior to ovulation. Also I believe I haven't conceived due to my weight also think my bmi is over 32 but I've just lost a stone and funny enuff my fertility specialist said that she had a close colleague that couldn't get pregnant and there wasn't anything wrong with her all tests normal
She lost a stone and bingo she was pregnant not saying that this could be ur problem but even my moms said from the start that she thinks it's my weight and
I've also noticed thr my cervical mucus had dried up abit aswel so maybe it's worth thinking about . Good luck ladies

We do try unfortunately as a carer my shifts are overnight sometimes an we both work super long shifts, I know some months that's been the problem where ov time has been on a really busy week for us both, if I could just track ov properly it wud be so much easier! Expensive opk's should be here soon an hopefully theyl help, I have gained nearly 2 stone since we started trying so I'm not certain loosing weight will help really as i was a good weight when we started,
Well done for ur weight loss tho that's great! It's so hard to shift weight, especially if u aren't that big to begin with,
Good luck hun really hope it happens for u soon xx

 

[nat86]

Hi darling we're hitting our two yr mark in March! On top of this March is our anniversary for our SMC and my SIL is due in that month.

Dh family haven't enquired to our ttc situation since sil annouced bfp. Mil didn't even hug her son when he told her about smc, and sa results all she done was go one about how bil & sil really didn't think they could get pg. hmmmmmm families eh?

this month ttc is really starting to tear me apart so i'm trying to take on day at a time. xx lots of love to you x

Poor love that's awful, suffering all that pain with no support from the peope who are suppised to be there for you, sometimes family ties arnt enough to keep in contact with some people, they don't seem worth ur time or tears hun,
Hope ur side of the family is a lot more supportive, I'm lucky really to have 2 sisters I can share with at least, my OH's family all live in Morocco and I'm really strugglig to learn the lingo so they really don't ha be any input,
Do just take it a day at a time hun, let it all out on here where everyone knows and understands how hard it is
Re you having any treatment? Xxxx