#3 but SCARED: of everything!! Normal???

[emeeorevan]

**************Warning long rant****** sorry
this is my 3rd and I have never been so freaked out!
scared for baby: With this pregnancy, I am older, I know too much about the possible complications for baby and mom, that I just can't get comfortable with being pregnant yet. I am happy, but I have just been so scared the entire time that something is wrong. Doc has said everything looks good but he has not done anything except look to see that I am pregnant, saw baby had a heartbeat, and check my blood &other levels. Why do I have such an irrational fear that something is wrong????

scared : about weight!!! with my first two I gained A LOT but I was so small that I was underweight and basically had to! I was so happy that I was pregnant that I never even considered the weight gaining aspect. this time, I am trying to eat healthier but my DH is worried that I am not eating enough. He accuses me of starving the baby b/c i say I am not hungry! He doesn't realize that I still eat many small meals a day so by the time he is home for dinner I may have just ate my second lunch.

typical day of food: oatmeal at 6am, cereal w/fruit at 8am, lunch half a sandwich and veggies at 12, other half of sandwich with fruit at 2pm, try to eat some dinner with family at 5, then a snack of a type of cheese at 7-8pm. This seems like a lot of food to me but when I looked and added up the calories it is typically 1500-1800 a day cause i usually only drink water.
should I eat more? I am gaining weigh! I have gained 7 lbs in the last 9 weeks!

Just feel down. why do I feel this way? so far this whole pregnancy has been so different! some days I don't feel pregnant at all and others I am so sick and bloated I can't do anything. Not felt any real or steady movement yet either and I am scared about that too!

 

[dlj2]

I could have written this myself! This is no 2 for me and I have been anxious from the start although I can't even say what about as it's not really baby related I don't think! I'm putting it down to crazy hormones and trying to ignore it!

I too am naturally very underweight so the whole trying to eat more thing stresses me too, I feel like I'm not eating anywhere near as much as I did when preg with dd1, yet everyone is saying I'm eating fine. The problem is I have such an irratible stomach this pregnancy that nothing seems to like me and I don't want to spend 9 months in the bathroom, where as with dd I could indulge to the max.

I get extra monitoring due to weight and thyroid problems as well so that all adds to the stress, shall we just wish away the time till we have our lil ones?! ;-)x

 

[dlj2]

Oh one last thing I am forcing myself to go to some relaxing pregnancy courses/groups in order to give myself some me relaxation time I'll let you know if it helps.x