3 Years, and Nothing

[Mina246]

My husband I have been TTC for 3 years, and we have gotten nothing out of it. For awhile in the beginning, I was aware of ovulation and all the regular stuff. We've tried Pre-Seed, Pineapple until my tongue bled, different positions, me orgasming after his "deposit" lying with my hips up for 30 minutes, OPKs, and I'm sure other things. So many months have gone by when I know I'm ovulating but won't mention it, just to see, and not bring stress on both of us. I finally made an appointment with the best guy where we live, and it's 5 MONTHS AWAY. We just got regular insurance as well, that's why it took us so long to make the appt. I am determined to keep an exact list of what happens the entire time to show the dr, but at the same time hoping it'll happen naturally... but after three years who are we kidding. I'm so sick and so scared to know the answers now that it's been so long. We're only 28 years old. Any advice, tips, anything in general to help before I go see the DR would be appreciated.

 

[Michellebelle]

It's great you're getting help! Most likely the doctor will run bloodwork to see how your hormone levels are and also have your DH do a semen analysis so he can pinpoint why it may be hard for you to conceive.

Hopefully it is a really easy fix! Even though it sounds like you're ovulating, sometimes a boost with clomid can help mature those eggs and get you that BFP.

 

[WishnandHopn]

I am so happy to hear you are getting help! 5 months does seem like a long time to wait, but I guess you could use that time to get you and DH really healthy, cut bad habits, take your vitamins, etc. I know it's nerve wracking wondering what could be wrong, but if your clinic is anything like mine, they will have run all the tests within about a month of your first consultation (depending on your cycle) and you will hopefully have some answers before summer. I hope it's something easy to address and you get your BFP soon!

 

[Mina246]

I'm really nervous about the whole thing but I just need answers at this point. I put it off for an extra year just hoping it would happen and I'm scared they're going to tell us we should have come sooner, or the worst news of it won't ever happen. I'm glad someone responded, I feel alone a lot dealing with all of this. I do work with two other women who have had issues and one is undergoing different things to try to help. We also work with two pregnant people which is so hard to see.

 

[Michellebelle]

Don't be nervous! It's always nice to have answers, so if there is something you should be working on, you know what that is! It's so hard to wonder what could be wrong and not know anything. If your DH has something off with his sperm, then you'll know if he should take vitamins. If you need a boost in ovulation, maybe clomid. This will give you the solution you need (if you need one)!

 

[Michellebelle]

Btw, do you chart your temps?

 

[scoobybeans]

I was nervous to go see a doctor & I put it off for a year too, so I can totally relate! In the end I've found that all of the testing and information we've learned actually makes me feel a lot more in control of the situation. I agree with the advice to take vitamins and maybe try taking your basal body temperature and/or use ovulation predicator kits for a few months to see on your own if you are ovulating naturally. The more information you have when you meet your doctor, the easier it will be for them to determine what's going on. Good luck!

 

[Mina246]

It's almost impossible to chart my temps because my husband and I both work weird graveyard schedules and only have one car, so i'm like never asleep for more than 3 hours at a time, and if I am it's like 3 days out of the week so it wouldn't be accurate readings i do use ovulation strips, this month I had a positive for two days straight which is weird, the last times i used them it was only for a day. I was just diagnosed with shingles two days ago, so i'll probably wait another month before we try try again.