31 week check and very upset with myself

[bextas]

So I saw my lovely doctor today and all was ok BP was good and urine and heard babies heartbeat. She couldn’t tell if he was head down or not and if I do go into labour before 36 I have to ask the labour ward to scan me first so they can see his position. Anyway as I have a high BMI (at booking in it was 46) she said she wanted me to not put on any weight during pregnancy). Well today she weighed me and I have put on 24lbs. I am so upset that puts my BMI way high and I feel so ashamed. I still have not bought any maternity clothes apart from a black bump band so I can wear my work trousers and jeans undone but as I was still in these clothes I honestly thought I was doing ok. She said she was happy as the average weight gain is 30lbs but I still feel so awful about it. I have eaten all the good stuff but just been having what I want. I am going to make a really conscious effort to stick to a healthy eating plan from now on with the hope I can lose some of this – is that possible? Feel like such a failure!

 

[MrsEngland]

Don't beat yourself up too much hun, with my first pregnancy my bmi was 42 (booking) and I put on double the amount that you have! After I had her I lost it all and more and at the start of this pregnancy although I'm still classed as over weight my bmi is 30 this time round. The main thing is that you and baby are healthy hun.

 

[KeriEloise]

really dont get yourself upset.. Everyones weight gain in pregnancy is different... my mum put on nearly 3 stone (32pounds) with me whereas ive only put on about a stone in my pregnancy... honestly hun... your beautiful and making your body a fantastic home for you LO to grow and accomidate..
everyone is here for you x

 

[bextas]

Thanks ladies you are lovely! I just feel guilty for the crap stuff I've eaten over the last 7 months and I was so determind not to do it but it's so hard. If you smoke or drink and want to give up you cut it out completely but if food is your vice it's very hard. At least everything else is good and I've had no complications so hopefully that continues.

 

[KeriEloise]

Thanks ladies you are lovely! I just feel guilty for the crap stuff I've eaten over the last 7 months and I was so determind not to do it but it's so hard. If you smoke or drink and want to give up you cut it out completely but if food is your vice it's very hard. At least everything else is good and I've had no complications so hopefully that continues.

Im sat here now eating a pack of 4 pork pies..... and lastnight i sat and ate a massive bar of toblerone watching the xfactor... I drink sugary drinks and eat whatever I want whenever I want... Im sure that cant be doing my LO much good in there! hes going to come out bouncing off the walls. I used to smoke and found it very hard to give up ( I was still having the odd cigerette until about 12 weeks when LO was then using the placenta and not his yolk sack) Everyone has their faults and bad points hun... your weight or size of shape is definitely not one xx

 

[kalyrra]

You're doing really well, actually! I had gained 30 lbs by 25 weeks! Thankfully, I've managed to slow it down & semi-maintain the last few weeks, but I was really beating myself up about it. Food is a hard area for me, have always struggled with being overweight.
When you're pregnant, it's even harder because then it's not just about self-discipline... your body is demanding things, rejecting things, and you can't diet because your baby needs the nourishment!

I know it's not easy, but just try to enjoy this time and know that once the little one is born, we can totally work on getting back down to where we want to be! Just keep eating healthy, and light exercise. We'll get ourselves back!!

 

[Alegria]

Try not to get yourself too worked up! Your doctor says you are doing well! I think this baby is actually going to be made of biscuits, I can't stop snacking on them. I try to balance it out with fruit and things but it just means I eat lots! It sounds like your baby is doing fine, just keep on doing your best!

 

[kettle28]

So I saw my lovely doctor today and all was ok BP was good and urine and heard babies heartbeat. She couldn’t tell if he was head down or not and if I do go into labour before 36 I have to ask the labour ward to scan me first so they can see his position. Anyway as I have a high BMI (at booking in it was 46) she said she wanted me to not put on any weight during pregnancy). Well today she weighed me and I have put on 24lbs. I am so upset that puts my BMI way high and I feel so ashamed. I still have not bought any maternity clothes apart from a black bump band so I can wear my work trousers and jeans undone but as I was still in these clothes I honestly thought I was doing ok. She said she was happy as the average weight gain is 30lbs but I still feel so awful about it. I have eaten all the good stuff but just been having what I want. I am going to make a really conscious effort to stick to a healthy eating plan from now on with the hope I can lose some of this – is that possible? Feel like such a failure!

if she hasn't said that to you - how much would you have gained? you've gained under the average which is fantastic, it's soooo easy to go over the average weight when so many people are constantly telling you that you dont need to worry about it, etc, etc.

i think you've done a fantastic job in monitoring what you've been eating/drinking and that'll stand you in fantastic stead after baby arrives.

weight gain is highest in 3rd tri as baby lays down fat during this time, it does stall or sometimes reverse a little during last few weeks.

best advice - google 'how many calories to maintain my weight' input your age, height, weight, etc and it'll tell you how many to eat a day - add 200 to this and thats your advised cosumption for 3rd tri. write down what youre eating/drinking for one day and see where you fall calorie wise (you'll probably find you're about right)

 

[Sparklerose]

Screw it! Your baby is fine, that's all that matters. You can worry about weight once he or she is here.

Pregnancy brings so many worries, this one is nothing - as long as your baby is ok nothing else is important right now. Give yourself a break! xx

 

[kiranerys]

Dont be so hard on yourself hun,when you take into account the weight of baby,plus placenta,plus water,plus huge boobs!!!,and thicker blood,realistically,you probably haven't put on hardly any actual weight at all,I bet once bubs comes you will be really shocked at how much less you actually put on than you thought you had.xx

 

[chellesama]

best advice - google 'how many calories to maintain my weight' input your age, height, weight, etc and it'll tell you how many to eat a day - add 200 to this and thats your advised cosumption for 3rd tri. write down what youre eating/drinking for one day and see where you fall calorie wise (you'll probably find you're about right)

Agreed - you're probably sitting about right calorie-wise; babies mean weight gain just from increased blood volume, after all!

I'll jump in and suggest Sparkpeople for the calorie counting/tracking. They're free, easy, and take a lot of the work out of tracking. If you do it after everything you eat, you can see where you are right then and there!

Good luck to you, Bextas! I'm sure you and baby are just fine.

 

[bextas]

Thank you so much to you all you have made me feel so much better! Been a good girl today and eaten fruit and yoghurt for breakfast, 2 tortilla wraps with ham for lunch and just had a banana planning on baked spud and veg for tea. Thanks again this site and you ladies are all so wonderful!