36 weeks - frightened - so near and yet so far

[Smiler13]

Hi ladies,

I am nearly 36-weeks now after four early miscarriages in a row since my DD was born in spring 2008. This pregnancy (another girl) has been great, have had good care from local midwives and have kept my anxieties in-check.

But as I approach full-term I keep getting dark thoughts and am feeling really scared. My first birth was a C-section (breech baby) so am daunted by a natural delivery, but mainly just scared that having come so far my daughter won't make it for some reason. Trying hard to banish the thoughts but it's difficult.

Any advice would be welcome.

 

[Pippasdvision]

Its natural to be scared but at 36 weeks there is a very good chance that everything will be okay. natural is painful but you naturally zone out when it gets really bad so dont worry about that. I assume you are having a hospital delivery? There are very few emergencies that they can not deal with. We all have worries on the run up to the birth 99% of the time the worries are totally unfounded try finding some relaxation classes or yoga to help you chill out and to fill that time before your baby girl will arrive.

 

[Carmello_01]

Oh hunny, sending huge,huge,huge hugs your way.
I was haunted by horrible nightmares in the last trimester, the kind that hung around with me the whole day following.

Our stories sound similar, if you have a moment here is my birth story - a joyful vbac after loss. It was the most physically painful experience, but the healing his birth has brought to my heart, soul and self esteem has been immeasurable.

All the best

https://www.babyandbump.com/birth-s...-killian-jones-my-gorgeous-vbac-boy-here.html

 

[Vinushka]

I've been feeling the same about "what if?" and it's really scary to think like that, so much really that it would be more of a relief to go into labour - Natural is far less scary than a c-section! By little guy is showing signs of staying breech but there's hope, I know there's really nothing that can be said to make you feel better, just to take it all one day at a time and try to relax a bit in the evenings...

Maybe try some meditation in the evenings, or a long warm bath just to lie and watch little one kick away and show you how strong she is? I always feel better after a long bath or some icecream.

 

[Widger]

Smiler - Good to hear from you and can't believe you are 36 weeks. It is totally normal to feel a frightened. I was around this time too. I just couldn't get bad feelings out of my mind that something would go wrong. I do think this is totally natural. But your little girl has come so far after all your heartache and she is here to stay xxxxxxx

 

[babytots]

Hi sweetie I know how you feel since about 28 weeks the anxiety of losing Lewis has slowly started creeping up on me and now at 34 weeks I just can't take it anymore. I've spent the last 2 nights barely sleeping because I'm so worried and I feel mentally,emotionally and physically exhausted and don't know how the heck I'm going to get through the next 6 weeks feeling the way I am.

On a more positive note your so very close now to meeting your little girl and I am sure it will all go smoothly for you! PAL is such a hard journey but there is light at the end of the tunnel for us and I am sure our babies will arrive safe and healthy into this world. x