Ready - Thanks for commiserating! I always feel like such a horrible person being so jealous and cold when I already have kids. There's a huge amount of guilt that goes along with secondary IF, yk? It's like we don't have the right to complain since we already were blessed. And I appreciate and am thankful for my kids everyday, but it doesn't take away the pain of not being to conceive again.
Even my therapist asked me if having my boys mitigates the pain from the losses.....and maybe it's me, but no, not really. I love my kids and am so thankful we have them but it doesn't mean I don't hurt and yearn for more. Having kids already doesn't make the inability to have another any less - and I really don't think people who haven't experienced it get that, yk?
I'm really resentful too. And spiteful and jealous as hell.
It's really hard when my kids want to go next door to play, and I don't want to let them but I usually force myself to let them, but then I avoid the pregnant mom like crazy. I'm sure she thinks I'm a nasty piece of work but I can't bear the pain right now.
The maddening thing for us is we're totally NOT superfertile. Like, at all. I've only ever conceived if we BD right through O and it still takes us many many cycles. It's our MFI being a big problem in that though. I truly think the Femara has balanced out my cycle and it's as good as it's going to get, but now there's something else going on that we can get the bfp and it just won't stick. Just ENOUGH problems already, yk? I'm so sick of it!
Oh and yeah, who am I when I'm not ttc? I don't know either. Well, I'm mom to my kids, but I don't want to be anything else and all my body and soul and mind want is another baby. Everything else pales by comparison, yk? Maybe it's an increasingly unhealthy obsession, but that's ALL I WANT and I don't want to find something else to replace it.
Serendipity - I'm from Canada. I'm kind of going against my RE here and taking Femara with the m/c bleed lol, I'm sure he wouldn't approve. But I can't do nothing either. So we'll see. I usually O on CD14-15 on Femara. I'm also doing a gazillion vits and castor oil packs and fertility massage and trying to eat like the Making Babies book says. Phew. Giving up dairy and sugar and coffee kind of sucks.
Speaking of this castor oil pack thing....have any of you ladies tried it? What do you think? All the claims are awful hard to believe but I'm willing to try anything that can't hurt at this point. Though I'm awfully skeptical that castor oil can unblock my tube!!