5 Cycles since going off BCP - still TTC #1

[Happy Yogi]

My DH started TTC at the end of last year (went off BCP in November). We didn't expect it to happen right away since I was on the pill for almost 10 years, but we didn't think it would take this long. My cycles have been long and inconsistent (anywhere from 31-43 days) - I was expecting AF today and got nothing but a BFN test. Each time this happens it feels harder and harder and the cycle of starting over, DTD regularly, then waiting (trying not to symptom spot or test early), is really starting to take its toll - especially since I always seem to have early pregnancy symptoms in the TWW (lately I've had bouts of nausea, and I posted a month ago about a variety of issues I was having which have since subsided but are not completely gone - "Did going off the pill mess up my body?"). I'm trying to remain positive - there is no rush, necessarily - but every month I fall into this trap of looking into the due date if we conceived that month, imagining when we could announce it, etc. and then it becomes so difficult when its a negative. Have an OBY/GYN appt next week which I'm dreading - not even sure why, since she can help. Anyone else in the same boat?

 

[littlelily]

Sorry, not much advice, sorry but didn't want to read and run. Hope the appointment goes well. Have you tried temping to pinpoint ov?

 

[AmandaBanana]

This is what I worry about.
This is my first cycle off bc. Idk when to expect af or anything of the sort. Just dtd and hoping for the best for now..

 

[Happy Yogi]

Sorry, not much advice, sorry but didn't want to read and run. Hope the appointment goes well. Have you tried temping to pinpoint ov?

Not yet, planning an to get OPK for next cycle. Just so disappointing to feel nausea and tired and blah and then to realize its not for the reason you had hoped! Also am trying not to make it more stressful for myself - this is just not how I imagined, so trying to adjust my expectations and move onward!

 

[Happy Yogi]

This is what I worry about.
This is my first cycle off bc. Idk when to expect af or anything of the sort. Just dtd and hoping for the best for now..

Good luck, everyone is different so who knows - how are you feeling since being off the pill?

 

[AmandaBanana]

Well at first I was okay. Had very heavy bleeding for 4 days a week after my last period.
Then j thought I was having pregnancy symptoms. I was nauseous, even puked. Cramping and bloating etc. Not norm for me at all.
but bfn all around. Guess it was just cause of coming off the pill.
Now I feel perfect tly fine. My last af was about April 18th. So I'm not sure when anything is happening. But we've been dtd as normal. Usually every other day or more sometimes.
Little bit emotional to be honest.
I'm sure we will all find our bfp soon!

 

[Happy Yogi]

Well at first I was okay. Had very heavy bleeding for 4 days a week after my last period.
Then j thought I was having pregnancy symptoms. I was nauseous, even puked. Cramping and bloating etc. Not norm for me at all.
but bfn all around. Guess it was just cause of coming off the pill.
Now I feel perfect tly fine. My last af was about April 18th. So I'm not sure when anything is happening. But we've been dtd as normal. Usually every other day or more sometimes.
Little bit emotional to be honest.
I'm sure we will all find our bfp soon!

I have found it to be emotional too- much more than expected. I thought I would be much more relaxed! But it's frustarting to not know exactly what's going on with your body. I guess it's best to be patient and try your best to have fun with it- one day we will look back at this time of our lives nostalgically (hopefully??)

 

[AmandaBanana]

For sure. I think I'm becoming both more relaxed about when we make a baby, but more stressed on when af will be here, and if I'm even ovulating.
Do you temp or use ovulation tests?
I bought some off Amazon, going to use it next cycle,whenever that is

Having fun is key regardless, and I wish the same to you!!

 

[Happy Yogi]

For sure. I think I'm becoming both more relaxed about when we make a baby, but more stressed on when af will be here, and if I'm even ovulating.
Do you temp or use ovulation tests?
I bought some off Amazon, going to use it next cycle,whenever that is

Having fun is key regardless, and I wish the same to you!!

I haven't tried the OPK yet - plan to next cycle. I was afraid it would stress me out too much, having another thing to do, and possibly take some fun out of DTD, but its clear now that I need to figure out whats going on since my cycles are so long and inconsistent. I was expecting AF yesterday, still nothing today, which means my cycle is already 35 days long! So, I don't know if and when I'm ovulating.

 

[CP x]

I had similar issues, I went off the pill last June after taking it for about 13 years but we were just NPNT up until a month ago and my cycles are still not 100% regulated, I was super regular before and on the pill but my body just can't seem to figure itself out now. I'm planning on using opks this month and seeing what happens. Have you tried taking Vitex? That's helped regulate me a lot more than I was without it.

 

[AmandaBanana]

Cycles start from the first day of your last period right? Which would make me cd38.
Before bc af would come at the beginning of the month, then middle of next, then end of next. So they were a little longer but this just seems like torture.
What is vitex exactly? And where do you get it?
I'm visiting my family in another province in June for 2 weeks. If it's has not arrived when I get back (June 21) I'm going to the doctors.

 

[CP x]

Vitex is an herb, you can get it all over, I've seen it at the grocery store or any vitamin/health food store.

Here's an article on it;
https://natural-fertility-info.com/vitex

 

[Happy Yogi]

I had similar issues, I went off the pill last June after taking it for about 13 years but we were just NPNT up until a month ago and my cycles are still not 100% regulated, I was super regular before and on the pill but my body just can't seem to figure itself out now. I'm planning on using opks this month and seeing what happens. Have you tried taking Vitex? That's helped regulate me a lot more than I was without it.

I have not tried Vitex, but just did some research and it sounds promising! Thanks for the suggestion, I'll talk to my doc about it next week! I'm curious to see how the opk's work as well.

I really wish I knew that it could take this long to be regular a year ago - my doctor said to go off the pill a month before trying, and I know that's how it works for some, but I'm hearing more and more from people that it can take a year to regulate. I would've gone off a lot sooner - but I keep trying to remind myself there's no hurry!

 

[CP x]

I totally know how you feel! I've had friends that have gotten off the pill and got pregnant right away and then some others that have taken 6-12 months to regulate and conceive. It just depends I guess, I keep trying to remind myself that it will happen when it's supposed to luckily I'm not too obsessive about it just yet but some days I find myself wanting it to happen right now.

 

[Happy Yogi]

I totally know how you feel! I've had friends that have gotten off the pill and got pregnant right away and then some others that have taken 6-12 months to regulate and conceive. It just depends I guess, I keep trying to remind myself that it will happen when it's supposed to luckily I'm not too obsessive about it just yet but some days I find myself wanting it to happen right now.

Good for you, sounds like you have the right attitude. I go through phases of obsession (usually toward the end of my cycle), then frustration, then I feel optimistic starting over again. Its just very difficult when my cycles are so long and I'm like - ahh, I have to start allllllll over again!

 

[AmandaBanana]

Hey there ladies.
I by no way mean to sound like I'm gloating. Just here to give you more hope!
https://i62.tinypic.com/14kicdt.jpg
I got my bfp today, confirmed at the doctors.

Don't give up hope,it will happen for you too very soon!!

 

[Happy Yogi]

WOWWW! Congrats! That's so exciting, very happy for you, and best of luck!

Thank you for sharing, always happy to hear of success!