5 year old behaviour post....again

[babycrazy1706]

I would like some advice please.
In about October My sons teacher said that he doesn't listen and finds it hard to keep his hands to himself. We've had issues at home with not listening and being defiant etc but in the last two months he has really improved and I'd say he's great 90% of the time now he seemed to have improved at school also but yesterday and today the teacher said he's not listening again.
Two scenarios she also gave me today
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Someone 'jabbed' my son in the leg, he hit the person in return, the person said he didn't mean to, my son gets sent out the classroom.

At p.e. Children are told to move around the hall as they wish, they can walk or slow run but not fast run, my son fast runs so gets sent out of the hall

I'm not sure what the teacher wants me to do, ive spoken to him and explained he must listen and respect what the teacher says. The teacher has never bothered to schedule a meeting so I've written a letter to send in tomorrow requesting a meeting to put some kind of plan in place. Last year it got to the point where she was bringing these issues to me every few days. How can I make him listen at school? I've done the whole taking away treats etc.

He's really good at home now so I'm at a loss with how to deal with this
How bad does it have to be to get senco involved? Sometimes it feels like the teacher is being petty but I don't want to come across as if I think my child is an angel cos he's a cheeky 5 yr old with a big personality. Sometimes it feels like she wants to squash that tbh. Thanks for reading xx

 

[SarahBear]

He's really good at home now so I'm at a loss with how to deal with this.

Well... You're not the one at school with him. The teacher should be dealing with this. What has she put in place to support more positive behavior? This is the question that needs to be asked. When she brings issues to you, ask how the school handled it. Don't ask in an accusing way, but in an information gathering way. Put the ball in their court. You can support their efforts, but it needs to be their efforts because they're the ones setting up the environment he's in and they're the ones there to respond to what is happening in the moment.

I do think the meeting is a good idea. If they're not being successful, it is a good idea to meet as a school-home team in order to figure out a plan of support for him.

 

[babycrazy1706]

Thank you for your reply. I have arranged a meeting on Tuesday so we can discuss a plan. Hopefully this will support him and we will see improvements xx