5 YEARS! Trying To Concieve, need someone to talk to...

[hl120407]

Hi everyone, new to this, as the title says im 5years trying to concieve, hope is now fading fast, would love to make friends and share stories, advice, feeling down today, thanks all

 

[laustiredttc]

hey huni me and dh have been trying ttc for 14 months and i feel as if i am in a state of hell so my hat goes off you. have you had all of the preliminary tests done?

 

[Ame]

I can relate. After our last loss I didn't think I could do it anymore. It takes such a toll on everything. Our life had revolved around testing and the calendar for so long. We take breaks and pretend there isn't an elephant in the room but there is.

 

[louisaL]

Hi

We've been trying for 4.5yrs! I've had various bloods done and found I have low progesterone (and trying natural progesterone cream) and only this friday dh going for a sperm test. We both extremely over weight, I had a gastric bypass in may this year so working on mine, so we're trying to try and help ourselves.....

I still have hope but it's hard!

 

[hl120407]

hey huni me and dh have been trying ttc for 14 months and i feel as if i am in a state of hell so my hat goes off you. have you had all of the preliminary tests done?

ive had blood tests, examinations and an x-ray done in 2007, my bf has had sperm tests, hes doing another 1 this monday and then doctors have said they'll refer us to nuture fertility so fingers crossed, im 22 so yes it made me 17 when started trying i like 2 share my story incase any1 else in the same position and i want 2 be accepted and people not judge me, ive been through more emotions than i new possible and me and my bf still going strong, he has a 7yr old boy from previous which is even harder! i appreciate the reply, can i ask your story? and i dont no half of the slang used here yet ooops lol
thanks xx

 

[hl120407]

I can relate. After our last loss I didn't think I could do it anymore. It takes such a toll on everything. Our life had revolved around testing and the calendar for so long. We take breaks and pretend there isn't an elephant in the room but there is.

its so difficult, if you read my post above ull understand more about me, id just love 2 make friends and have people there who understand, ill support anybody who needs it every women deserves 2 b a mum and have a family with the 1 they love xx

 

[hl120407]

Hi

We've been trying for 4.5yrs! I've had various bloods done and found I have low progesterone (and trying natural progesterone cream) and only this friday dh going for a sperm test. We both extremely over weight, I had a gastric bypass in may this year so working on mine, so we're trying to try and help ourselves.....

I still have hope but it's hard!

reading the weight you have lost all credit 2 you thats fantastic so big well done 2 you but no matter your size im sure you'll be amazing parents 1 day and fingers crossed 1 day soon, the bodys a strange thing and everyday i think im the odd 1 out in this crazy world, i pray to god 1 day soon we'll all get the result we want xx

 

[laustiredttc]

i think that wanting to become a mum is a calling and that calling can happen at any point huni so feel free to express yourself in everyway

me and the dh have had all of our preliminary tests done so bloods, ultrasound, sa checked and all have come back fine. We have the fs in sep and think the first port of call will be a hsg. Its hard but we're going to stick with it no matter what. I just want a LO (LITTLE ONE) so so so much and can understand how you might feel huni. We will do it and it will happen sooner or later, just keep that hope alive hun

 

[hl120407]

i think that wanting to become a mum is a calling and that calling can happen at any point huni so feel free to express yourself in everyway

me and the dh have had all of our preliminary tests done so bloods, ultrasound, sa checked and all have come back fine. We have the fs in sep and think the first port of call will be a hsg. Its hard but we're going to stick with it no matter what. I just want a LO (LITTLE ONE) so so so much and can understand how you might feel huni. We will do it and it will happen sooner or later, just keep that hope alive hun

i try to, ive never said ill give it i get angry but with frustration just didnt think something so natural would be this hard!! i was born 2 be a mum im not perfect and ill defo not be any mary poppins lol but id give my all for my child and can bet all you would as well! im just existing in life at the minute not living it! sorry whats, dh? sa? fs? hsg? lol i really am a novis!!
thank you xx

 

[Ame]

I can relate. After our last loss I didn't think I could do it anymore. It takes such a toll on everything. Our life had revolved around testing and the calendar for so long. We take breaks and pretend there isn't an elephant in the room but there is.

its so difficult, if you read my post above ull understand more about me, id just love 2 make friends and have people there who understand, ill support anybody who needs it every women deserves 2 b a mum and have a family with the 1 they love xx

Support is so important and sometimes I feel like I am relying on my DH too much when he is hurting too. I think one of the hardest things for me is feeling like I let my DH down. Unless someone has been through it they don't understand the different emotions and feelings that go along with it. I want to be a mom but more then that I want us to have our own family. I am not having the best day so sorry if I'm a downer.

 

[hl120407]

I can relate. After our last loss I didn't think I could do it anymore. It takes such a toll on everything. Our life had revolved around testing and the calendar for so long. We take breaks and pretend there isn't an elephant in the room but there is.

its so difficult, if you read my post above ull understand more about me, id just love 2 make friends and have people there who understand, ill support anybody who needs it every women deserves 2 b a mum and have a family with the 1 they love xx

Support is so important and sometimes I feel like I am relying on my DH too much when he is hurting too. I think one of the hardest things for me is feeling like I let my DH down. Unless someone has been through it they don't understand the different emotions and feelings that go along with it. I want to be a mom but more then that I want us to have our own family. I am not having the best day so sorry if I'm a downer.

not a downer at all just stating im sure how we all feel! your right people who havent been through it can sympathise but they'll never truely no! nice to talk 2 people who understand xx

 

[laustiredttc]

i think that wanting to become a mum is a calling and that calling can happen at any point huni so feel free to express yourself in everyway

me and the dh have had all of our preliminary tests done so bloods, ultrasound, sa checked and all have come back fine. We have the fs in sep and think the first port of call will be a hsg. Its hard but we're going to stick with it no matter what. I just want a LO (LITTLE ONE) so so so much and can understand how you might feel huni. We will do it and it will happen sooner or later, just keep that hope alive hun

i try to, ive never said ill give it i get angry but with frustration just didnt think something so natural would be this hard!! i was born 2 be a mum im not perfect and ill defo not be any mary poppins lol but id give my all for my child and can bet all you would as well! im just existing in life at the minute not living it! sorry whats, dh? sa? fs? hsg? lol i really am a novis!!
thank you xx

i know you have been trying for so so long hun but try to enjoy some things in life, i think that's what is keeping me going. sorry to preach huni, dont mean to and i know how hard this must be for you.

ok so dh means darling husband, sa means sperm analysis, fs means fertility specialist, hsg is the procedure they perform when they unblock your tubes but i cant pronounce it I was the same when i first came on here hun, it comes really quick though, especially if you get addicted lol

 

[ZekeyMylo2010]

3.5 years for us.. Part of me wants to give up now after reading after 3 years you only have a 1% -3% chance of conceiving so disheartening xx

 

[uwa_amanda]

We were trying for six years before giving it up. We're not sure we are even going to start trying again. It really sucks. I feel like I have let my husband down so bad. I have wanted to give him a son or daughter since we got married. He wants to try again in a few months, but I'm not ready to start it up again. Clomid was hell on me and I'm not sure I'd be ready to go through that again. I don't ovulate on my own and since I stopped Clomid, my periods have gotten irregular again.

 

[jabish]

I tried to concieve for 7 years before i finaly got my BFP 4 days ago....I am still having a hard time believing it...Don't give up!!!..i took a couple year break cause it was emotionally draining on me...then i joined this weight loss group and lost a ton of weight wich helped control my pcos symptoms and give me regular periods for the first time in 11 years...then i went on clomid 150 mg and metformin..using pre seed for lubricant we got our bfp...please don't give up...!!!

 

[hl120407]

I tried to concieve for 7 years before i finaly got my BFP 4 days ago....I am still having a hard time believing it...Don't give up!!!..i took a couple year break cause it was emotionally draining on me...then i joined this weight loss group and lost a ton of weight wich helped control my pcos symptoms and give me regular periods for the first time in 11 years...then i went on clomid 150 mg and metformin..using pre seed for lubricant we got our bfp...please don't give up...!!!

oh my god that is amazing!!! 7years and finally, im literally beaming thats amazing!!! wat does bfp mean exactly lol i get the jist of it but not meaning lol xx

 

[hl120407]

i think that wanting to become a mum is a calling and that calling can happen at any point huni so feel free to express yourself in everyway

me and the dh have had all of our preliminary tests done so bloods, ultrasound, sa checked and all have come back fine. We have the fs in sep and think the first port of call will be a hsg. Its hard but we're going to stick with it no matter what. I just want a LO (LITTLE ONE) so so so much and can understand how you might feel huni. We will do it and it will happen sooner or later, just keep that hope alive hun

i try to, ive never said ill give it i get angry but with frustration just didnt think something so natural would be this hard!! i was born 2 be a mum im not perfect and ill defo not be any mary poppins lol but id give my all for my child and can bet all you would as well! im just existing in life at the minute not living it! sorry whats, dh? sa? fs? hsg? lol i really am a novis!!
thank you xx

i know you have been trying for so so long hun but try to enjoy some things in life, i think that's what is keeping me going. sorry to preach huni, dont mean to and i know how hard this must be for you.

ok so dh means darling husband, sa means sperm analysis, fs means fertility specialist, hsg is the procedure they perform when they unblock your tubes but i cant pronounce it I was the same when i first came on here hun, it comes really quick though, especially if you get addicted lol

right ok lol im getting there now (sort of) thank you!
is there anything you'd say we can try neither of us are taking anything or doing anything (apart from the obvious) thank you xxx

 

[laustiredttc]

hey hun bfp means big fat positive as in a pregnancy test and bfn means the opposite.
As far as giving advice on what to try i'm not sure hun as everything i have tried so far has ended in a . I know there is a mountain of advice out there, i suppose its researching it and finding out what suits you best individually. Like i tried pink grapefruit juice to increase the production of cm (cervical mucuous) and found that i was gagging everytime i drank it. Now i use robuttissun cough syrup and preseed which both help the little swimmers along

 

[karenh]

We were trying for six years before giving it up. We're not sure we are even going to start trying again. It really sucks. I feel like I have let my husband down so bad. I have wanted to give him a son or daughter since we got married. He wants to try again in a few months, but I'm not ready to start it up again. Clomid was hell on me and I'm not sure I'd be ready to go through that again. I don't ovulate on my own and since I stopped Clomid, my periods have gotten irregular again.

Clomid was horrible for me too. Have you looked into trying Femara? I am starting that this cycle. My Dr. said it doesn't have hardly and side effects and people that Clomid doesn't work for usually get pregnant on Femara. Just a suggestion.

 

[karenh]

right ok lol im getting there now (sort of) thank you!is there anything you'd say we can try neither of us are taking anything or doing anything (apart from the obvious) thank you xxx

DH and I have been trying for 5 1/2 years. The only thing that keep ME sane is having a plan and doing something to try and make it happen. Have you seen a FS or a RE? If you haven't had updated tests within the last 6 months to a year everything could change. There are a lot of options out there that can help. First you need to find out what is the possible cause of you not getting preggers. I hope you can find something that works for you! Good luck!