6 kids under the age of 7 {Rant}

[youngmum2b]

ARHHH just got some news thats majorly pissed me off.
Oh's uncle is having yet another kid, i don't believe that a children should be taken from their parents into care unless its in their best interest, but i honestly believe that these kids would be better off in care.

My reasons for this:
They don't bath (none of them)
The youngest (around 1) is constantly dirty eg. left in dirty nappies, wet clothes
The youngest is only just going onto solids, cos she didnt want him to grow up
All the kids once born stay in a travel cot day n night unless someone else gets them out.
The eldest 3 have no respect for anyone.
The kids are all dirty (their feet are black)
They sleep on a mattress on the living room floor



This really winds me up cos oh n his sisters got taken into care cos the girls dad kept beating their mum n she went down hill as expected, yet they still have their kids n the government is is paying for them to just pop them out + they've just been given a brand new house even though there 3 grand in debt n there giving them a grand to move aswell.
ARHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

 

[Dragonfly]

I am sure health visitors have seen this if youngest is one and will do again when she gives birth. Sound like they need sterilized if they cant look after what they have as it is.

if you cant feed em dont breed em.

 

[stephx]

Omg Social services really need to get involved when it comes to situations like these, its so unfair on the kids

xx

 

[youngmum2b]

I am sure health visitors have seen this if youngest is one and will do again when she gives birth. Sound like they need sterilized if they cant look after what they have as it is.

if you cant feed em dont breed em.

Thats what we've all said, the hv won't see any of it as they nevr go to their house its always her sisters house they go to n she'll make sure bubs is clean just for then.

I've lost count of the amount of times i'v babysat for them n the babys been left in a soiled nappy for hours or has dried poo running up his back + theres been countless times that the babys been taken out in wet clothes n wet nappy, n when we've said something about it shes just said oh well i dont have another nappy or clean change of clothes for him.

Its disgusting, neither of them have done anything to try and work.

 

[Aidan's Mummy]

Social services need to be informed if what you are saying is true. You need to ring them hun that is negelect
xx

 

[youngmum2b]

Social services need to be informed if what you are saying is true. You need to ring them hun that is negelect
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I have done 4 times n they keep saying that other people need to complain about it aswell

 

[Aidan's Mummy]

That isn't true they every case they get they should ALWAYS to an initial assesment and visit the parents
xx

 

[vaniilla]

Social services need to be informed if what you are saying is true. You need to ring them hun that is negelect
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I agree with this, you need to take action if the government isn't taking notice, keep harrasing social services until something gets done about it, that is serious neglect and those kids need help. I would call the police personally and hope that they get a child protection order.

 

[stephx]

Social services need to be informed if what you are saying is true. You need to ring them hun that is negelect
xx

I have done 4 times n they keep saying that other people need to complain about it aswell

Thats shocking tbh

xx

 

[youngmum2b]

Social services need to be informed if what you are saying is true. You need to ring them hun that is negelect
xx

I agree with this, you need to take action if the government isn't taking notice, keep harrasing social services until something gets done about it, that is serious neglect and those kids need help. I would call the police personally and hope that they get a child protection order.

well me n oh are having to move out of his mums before bubs is born or risk him goin onto child protection cos of his sisters dad

Social services need to be informed if what you are saying is true. You need to ring them hun that is negelect
xx

I have done 4 times n they keep saying that other people need to complain about it aswell

Thats shocking tbh

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I agree its disgusting

 

[Aidan's Mummy]

If you think teh children are in immediate danger you can also ring the police and ask for a safe and well check. If they see they children in these conditions then they willpass it onto the child protection team#
xx

 

[Dragonfly]

Right time to take action and call them social services. They cant handle what they have.

 

[amandad192]

You should speak to SS.
They won't necassary take the kids away. They can help them be better parents.
If they fail to improve, they may be taken away, but it sounds like it would be for the best.
I do kind of understand that with so many young kids you may accidently run out of clean clothes every now and then because the other kids stuff has been washed and the babys was meant to go into the next wash..but it sounds like something more than "every now and then"
There kids deserve better.
What has your OH said about it?

 

[youngmum2b]

You should speak to SS.
They won't necassary take the kids away. They can help them be better parents.
If they fail to improve, they may be taken away, but it sounds like it would be for the best.
I do kind of understand that with so many young kids you may accidently run out of clean clothes every now and then because the other kids stuff has been washed and the babys was meant to go into the next wash..but it sounds like something more than "every now and then"
There kids deserve better.
What has your OH said about it?

He sees it the same way but hes been through part of the care system n constantly says its not fun him n his sisters where lucky cos there still in the family eg they still live with members of the family, but hes not sure on what to do about it he believesthat ss should be informed but hes scared of what the rest of the familys guna say if it gets out it was him/us who called them, i think its more so the fact that he don't wana put any more stress on his nan as shes just had a mastectomy (removal of breast due to cancer).

 

[amandad192]

He sees it the same way but hes been through part of the care system n constantly says its not fun him n his sisters where lucky cos there still in the family eg they still live with members of the family, but hes not sure on what to do about it he believesthat ss should be informed but hes scared of what the rest of the familys guna say if it gets out it was him/us who called them, i think its more so the fact that he don't wana put any more stress on his nan as shes just had a mastectomy (removal of breast due to cancer).

Aww I see his point. I had an ex who was in care most of his life (I think from 4 years old) and he is very messed up.
If you call SS again I'm pretty sure you can do it anonymously. No one has to know it was you.
Could he speak to his nan and get her opinion? If he justs says to her that he's been thinking about it since he found out he was going to be a Dad. If he tells her he doesn't want to contact SS but he's so worried about the kids and ask her to have a word with them (his uncle and his OH) IF she thinks that they need support. She could tell them that when she found out she had cancer she was scared she was going to die, and now she's better (I'm assuming she is considering she's had her breast removed but I don't know her situation) she wants to guide them to be better parents so if the cancer returns or her time comes for another reason, she can go peacefully knowing that the kids are happy?
I'm sorry this may seem quite insensitive but it's the best I can get out of my tired brain right now.

 

[Natasha2605]

That's mad if more than one person needs to complain! No wonder kids in Britain die from neglect if that's the way this system works! I really hope those kids get some help if it's as bad as you say xx

 

[youngmum2b]

That's mad if more than one person needs to complain! No wonder kids in Britain die from neglect if that's the way this system works! I really hope those kids get some help if it's as bad as you say xx

So do i, i'm just waiting for them to ask for anything bubs outgrows, cos i aint giving them nothing. I can put money on the fact that me or oh will get a phone call asking if we have any spare nappies or wipes cos they've run out n dont have the money to get anymore, yet they have the money to go bingo almost everynight.
If they treated things with respect i wouldnt mind giving them things but they destroy everything they get eg. oh's nan gave her a moses basket that was in the family for years her dad brought it before he passed 17 years ago n within 2 weeks it was destroyed cos the older lot kept trying to climb into it n sleep this is a 6, 5, 3 year old trying to fit into a moses basket.

Sorry kinda turned into a rant, as i rang ss again this morning n was told someone had been sent out last week n everything was fine apparently.

 

[Aidan's Mummy]

That's mad if more than one person needs to complain! No wonder kids in Britain die from neglect if that's the way this system works! I really hope those kids get some help if it's as bad as you say xx

So do i, i'm just waiting for them to ask for anything bubs outgrows, cos i aint giving them nothing. I can put money on the fact that me or oh will get a phone call asking if we have any spare nappies or wipes cos they've run out n dont have the money to get anymore, yet they have the money to go bingo almost everynight.
If they treated things with respect i wouldnt mind giving them things but they destroy everything they get eg. oh's nan gave her a moses basket that was in the family for years her dad brought it before he passed 17 years ago n within 2 weeks it was destroyed cos the older lot kept trying to climb into it n sleep this is a 6, 5, 3 year old trying to fit into a moses basket.

Sorry kinda turned into a rant, as i rang ss again this morning n was told someone had been sent out last week n everything was fine apparently.

I would give them the stuff hun justto try and improve what my neices and nephews were having to live like. Even if it doesn'tlast long
xx

 

[youngmum2b]

That's mad if more than one person needs to complain! No wonder kids in Britain die from neglect if that's the way this system works! I really hope those kids get some help if it's as bad as you say xx

So do i, i'm just waiting for them to ask for anything bubs outgrows, cos i aint giving them nothing. I can put money on the fact that me or oh will get a phone call asking if we have any spare nappies or wipes cos they've run out n dont have the money to get anymore, yet they have the money to go bingo almost everynight.
If they treated things with respect i wouldnt mind giving them things but they destroy everything they get eg. oh's nan gave her a moses basket that was in the family for years her dad brought it before he passed 17 years ago n within 2 weeks it was destroyed cos the older lot kept trying to climb into it n sleep this is a 6, 5, 3 year old trying to fit into a moses basket.

Sorry kinda turned into a rant, as i rang ss again this morning n was told someone had been sent out last week n everything was fine apparently.

I would give them the stuff hun justto try and improve what my neices and nephews were having to live like. Even if it doesn'tlast long
xx

just re-read what i put, when i said i werent guna give them anything i meant things like the cot, moses basket, basically things i can use again basics i'm not fussed about.

 

[Miss_d]

i would continue phoning SS until something is done, no wonder kids end up in danger this is sad