6 months + since mc and no luck getting pregnant... Come join me in the wait!!

[amanda111308]

Hi ladies,

I miscarried September 12th 2013 and so far not even a sniff of a bfp I need some positive ladies to wait with me and help keep me moving forward. This is my second cycle with soy isoflavones and I know it is helping. It cut my cycle from a regular 33 day cycle to a 29 day cycle but last month was hard to get prime time bding in.

Please come keep me company!!

 

[Smiler79]

Hey Amanda I am in other thread with you but in exactly the same boat as miscarried at end of sept 2013 and still no bfp

Fingers crossed we will get one soon although unlikely for me this coming month as hubby away in usa for business for 12 days from the 8th

 

[amanda111308]

Hi Smiler, I don't think I'll be hanging out as much in the other thread anymore. Although I am elated for the ladies who have gone onto have successful pregnancies so far it just makes me feel worse about my own situation. I know this might make me sound like an awful person but I am sick and tired of being happy for EVERYONE else. I want my own rainbow now and everywhere I look everyone and their dog is pregnant. I wanted my children close in age and the gap is nearing 3 years and I am just so upset. Every month that passes I get more and more hopeless.

I have opks coming and I am on my second cycle using FF and soy isoflavones. I just hope I can make it happen this month. I can't keep taking this disappointment every month

 

[CastawayBride]

I want to wish both you ladies best of luck!

Do you know when you are ovulating? Maybe with the shorter cycle you are ovulating very early? I have a 26 day cycle and before miscarriage I was ovulating 9/10/11! After miscarriage I bumped up to a 29 day cycle, ovulation CD16. I use the Clear Blue Fertility Monitor and was able to pick up on it....

Good luck!!

 

[Smiler79]

HI Amanda

You don't sound like a horrible person at all. I have not been on that thread as much recently either for exactly the same reason.

I feel exactly like you in lots of ways. I would have liked my children close in age too but even f I fell pregnant now my two would be 4 years apart. Not entirely down to miscarriage though. I always wanted two children but hubby never realy wanted any so when we had Imogen I accepted that sje would be my only child and I felt blessed by her as she is a rainbow baby. However deep down I have always hoped for number 2. Then in September I fell pregnant on the pill but miscarried again. The only silver lining was that in the 3 weeks we knew I was pregnant hubby changed hie mind about number 2 and is totally on board with ttc.

I am starting to get stressed now as took me 5 months to fall pregnant woth Imogen after first miscarriage so I sort of had that as my timescale in my head but it has not happened this time and I am 34 now so time is not on my side either.

Worst of all is simon(hubby is away in my predicted ovulation window this month so that wil be another month woth no bfp. My friend has leant me a clearblue monitor but I cannot afford the strips til I get paid and will have missed the window to start testing.

Guess I can order them ready for next month as would probably be a waste this month anyway.

Hope we bth get out bfps soon as the waiting and wondering is awful. IAm always here if you need a chat and as difficult as I am finding it at the moment I am proof that you can get your rainbow baby if you are patient.

xxxxxxx

 

[amanda111308]

Thank you Smiler! I am so glad to have someone who understands almost exactly how I am feeling. I have felt very alone with all of this until now. Positivity will get us through!

My husband wants baby number 2 but always had an excuse for not baby dancing when I tell him the time is right. We had a serious discussion and he has agreed to pull out the stops this month and really try with both of our might. If we aren't successful this month I will be going to the doctor to discuss options and possibly start clomid or something. We started bd today on cd8 as to cover any possibility if O happens at an earlier time like the soy is supposed to help with. Oh well here's to a fast month with good results!

 

[Smiler79]

Do you think it would be worth me taking soy? What does it do? I am hoping ot get apt with my dr too as I have been trying for 6 months now and I am 34.

As far as bd is concerned think it has been me that has been the problem this time. Although I am desperate for this baby I don't seem to have the sex drive I used to so feel like I am forcing myself sonetimes.

I had a few sessions of therapy after the miscarriage and my therapist thinks it might be that although I really want a baby I am probably also afraid of another miscarriage and therefore it could be hindering my sex drive.

I think she is probably right as when I had the first miscarriage, although I was devastated, I put it down to one of those things as you hear of lots of people who have one miscarriage. But this second one has hit me a lot harder. I think ,ainly because it was a lot harder to grieve with a toddler around but also it just hadn't crossed my mind that I would miscarry again and now I am even more petrified of it happening again. AS much as I am desperate for another baby I am not sure how many miscarriages I can cope with.

Hoepfully it wont come to that as we are stopping at number two and hopefully when I eventually fall pregnant this time it will lead to a healthy baby but it doesn't stop me worrying
xxx

 

[amanda111308]

Soy Isoflavones are essentially natures clomid. It is taken just like clomid as well. You take up to but not exceeding 200mg for 5 days between cd1 and cd9. For example I took soy cd3-cd7 last month and it shortened my cycle from a regular 33 day cycle to a 29 day cycle it helps to bring forward your ovulation date, as well as help those who are not ovulating on their own to start ovulating naturally and regularly.

This month I took soy from cd2-cd6. There are different benefits as to which cycle days you take the soy iso. The earlier in your cycle that you take soy the more follicles are released for fertilization. The later you take soy (up to the last day being cd9) the ovaries will produce only one follicle but a large and healthy one at that.

Sometimes I feel like I am grasping at straws but then I read soy reviews online and there were so many bfps in the first 3 cycles of using it I thought wth and jumped on the bandwagon. Haha

 

[Smiler79]

Thanks Amanda. MAy do a bit of googling ready for next month xxx

 

[amanda111308]

Absolutely no problem hun, anything to help out a friend. Hoping we both get our sticky bfps soon. I have never prayed for anything with such persistence before. Hoping my prayers are at least heard...

 

[Anniebobs]

Hi can I join you? I've been trying since feb last year and got pregnant in June, that ended at 13 weeks in August, tried straight away and have been pregnant twice but they ended in losses at 5 weeks and 4 weeks. The doctor did a load of blood tests and there's no reason for it. We took a bit of a break from ttc over Christmas (we were ntnping so it technically still could have happened) and I felt so much better for it, but now we're back to ttc properly and can't wait for our next baby. We were also going for a 2 year age gap, but even if I was to get pregnant now it'd be over 3.

Anyway I should hopefully be ovulating this weekend so fingers crossed we'll be making a baby this week!

 

[LPF]

All you's posts echo how I'm feeling ladies!

I had a 12 week MMC in August and a 6 week MC in December. The first hit me hard as it was unexpected and I was really poorly and rushed to hospital etc. the second one hit me like a ten ton truck. I never thought it would happen to me again and I was devastated.

Next month we will have been trying for no2 for a year but I guess as I've had 2 MC they won't do anything. I'm avoiding doctors anyway, I'm sick of being treated as 'the sad one who keeps thinking there's something wrong with her when she's really just depressed because of her miscarriages' - I'm not btw, but everything wrong with me seems to be because of it in their eyes grrrr.

I've taken bucket loads of supplements which I think has backfired because my EWCM seems to have dried up and we tried SMEP but completely failed. I'm now 3dpo and not hopeful!

If we conceived now, there would be 4 yrs between children which was not what I wanted at all. I want each cycle to hurry up but I want time to slow down to stop the age gap getting bigger.

I'm with you on the happiness factor. I can't even be bothered to be happy for people anymore. Every Facebook announcement gets ignored and friends get unfollowed. I've not congratulated any of my friends who've announced recently, I'm just pretending I don't know. I'm so consumed by my own situation, I can't handle theirs.

Fingers crossed for us all lovely ladies xxxx

 

[amanda111308]

Hi there! Glad I see some more ladies joining the thread! We gotta stick together and believe! It will happen for each and every one of us. Take it one day at a time and celebrate the little things like ovulation happening and temping success hell even if you are getting ewcm who cares! Let's keep the positivity going and if you need to rant I will be happy to be your sounding board. You won't be judged we are all after the same thing here and nothing is TMI!! go team TTCAL!!

 

[amanda111308]

Got my opks in they mail today... Let the possessing begin!! Haha

 

[krulci]

This thread is exactly what I cry about every day! Every AF drives the age gap panic a little further.

I had a MC at 10 weeks in Nov 2013, so not quite 6 months from that date, but surely from August when we started trying.

DH will be so relieved I found this group! I badger him nonstop with all of my fertility concerns and details. to you all!

 

[krulci]

Amanda, where do you get the soy? Would it be in health food stores? Thanks!

 

[LPF]

This thread is exactly what I cry about every day! Every AF drives the age gap panic a little further.

I had a MC at 10 weeks in Nov 2013, so not quite 6 months from that date, but surely from August when we started trying.

DH will be so relieved I found this group! I badger him nonstop with all of my fertility concerns and details. to you all!

Love it - I have mega age gap panic too!!

 

[amanda111308]

Amanda, where do you get the soy? Would it be in health food stores? Thanks!

Hi there, I got mine at GNC but you can get it online and definitely in health food stores or any holistic health stores

 

[amanda111308]

This thread is exactly what I cry about every day! Every AF drives the age gap panic a little further.

I had a MC at 10 weeks in Nov 2013, so not quite 6 months from that date, but surely from August when we started trying.

DH will be so relieved I found this group! I badger him nonstop with all of my fertility concerns and details. to you all!

Aww hun! We welcome you with open arms! MCs are gut wrenching and just so unfair. For months I felt like God dangled my greatest desire of motherhood for a second time in front of me and then snatched it away. Then laughing at me when I fell to pieces... But now I have accepted the fact that there is a lesson behind everything that happens. We aren't always meant to understand why it happens all we know is that it does happen and it's painful emotionally and physically. For me the greatest recovery from anything has been from having a mc.

We have got to stick together honestly speaking, we are the only sources for each other that actually understand the pain and suffering that we are each going through. I will cheer you all on every day, every ovulation, every tww and for each and especially every bfp because in my opinion no one deserves a bfp like a woman who has lost or has been long term ttc. Now let's go get em!! Me and hubs just dtd and I am currently laying in bed with my legs in the air hahaha swim soldiers SWIM!!

 

[Anniebobs]

Amanda when are you due to o? My opk was showing a hint of a line this morning so looks like I'll be oving on schedule this month, should be Friday-Sunday. Currently enjoying the bd marathon!