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Well this is the first time I have posted here, because my daughter is just almost 2 haha! But i am here asking a question about my nephew.
He is 8, he will be 9 in October. I am asking here because its been impossible for me or SIL to find articles that fit really what nephew has going on here. I think SIL is going to take him to a counsellor soon, because she is running out of ideas.
So first off, nephew pees his pants multiple times a day. He seems to hold it until he cant anymore, run to the bathroom and have an accident. SIL, me, my OH, SILs OH, we all have had numerous talks with him about realizing right when he needs to go pee and going to the bathroom right then so he doesnt have an accident. He has accidents at school and seems emotionally unaffected. Apparently he had an accident at the park a few weeks back and another kid called him out, he did cry about it and then stopped having accidents for about 3 weeks, and now is doing it again.
And second issue is masturbation. I get that it is normal and so does SIL. What we are concerned with is the many many many talks SIL, and SIL OHs have had with him about doing that in a private area.. not in the living room, not infront of his brothers, not infront of family, especially not in public. They have told him he can do at in his room or the bathroom. She said at first she started out explaining it to him gently, but now she gets mad at him because he just doesnt listen! He just does it whenever wherever. School is out now, and I had him (as well as his brothers ) at my house. While the little ones napped, i put a movie on for the 2 older ones to keep them calm and quiet. He was seriously masturbating almost the whole time.. i told him three times to please go in the bathroom to do that! I asked him to go wash his hands, he came back out and started up again.
I read up on articles and all they say is to explain to him to do that in private. Well he isn't listening, he doesn't care! He doesn't care that he pees his pants either. I have no idea if the issues are related or what.
Does anyone have any advice? We are at a loss about what to do or tell him anymore.
He is 8, he will be 9 in October. I am asking here because its been impossible for me or SIL to find articles that fit really what nephew has going on here. I think SIL is going to take him to a counsellor soon, because she is running out of ideas.
So first off, nephew pees his pants multiple times a day. He seems to hold it until he cant anymore, run to the bathroom and have an accident. SIL, me, my OH, SILs OH, we all have had numerous talks with him about realizing right when he needs to go pee and going to the bathroom right then so he doesnt have an accident. He has accidents at school and seems emotionally unaffected. Apparently he had an accident at the park a few weeks back and another kid called him out, he did cry about it and then stopped having accidents for about 3 weeks, and now is doing it again.
And second issue is masturbation. I get that it is normal and so does SIL. What we are concerned with is the many many many talks SIL, and SIL OHs have had with him about doing that in a private area.. not in the living room, not infront of his brothers, not infront of family, especially not in public. They have told him he can do at in his room or the bathroom. She said at first she started out explaining it to him gently, but now she gets mad at him because he just doesnt listen! He just does it whenever wherever. School is out now, and I had him (as well as his brothers ) at my house. While the little ones napped, i put a movie on for the 2 older ones to keep them calm and quiet. He was seriously masturbating almost the whole time.. i told him three times to please go in the bathroom to do that! I asked him to go wash his hands, he came back out and started up again.
I read up on articles and all they say is to explain to him to do that in private. Well he isn't listening, he doesn't care! He doesn't care that he pees his pants either. I have no idea if the issues are related or what.
Does anyone have any advice? We are at a loss about what to do or tell him anymore.