9 weeks no heartbeat

[taylor197878]

hi just joined today and i would love some advice as i dont really know what is happening to me,

i have 3 kids aged 13 8 and 4 and on november we decided to try for another child my lmp was around the 12th of november we started to try on the 28th of november right that week period didnt come december the 11th took a clear blue test and it was positive then i handed on in to the doctors it was negeitvie handed one back in next week and it was positive.


then a few weeks later i had some brown staining really didnt think much of it had it with my other 2 but decided to phone the hospital and the epu made me a appoitment for a scan on the 29th of december.

went up for the scan everything looked great and i was told to come back the following week i would have been 8 weeks since lmp but i measured 5 weeks and 1 day she said the sac looked big but the yolk had not grown much but had grown some so they said come back up next week.

went back up the next week would have made me 9 weeks since lmp but i measured 6 they did offer me a v/s not knowing what to expect i said no they said they couldnt see anything they didnt tell me if the yolk had grown but they said something measured 1850 last week.

they then told me i was going to misscarry i broke my heart they offered me a d&c i refused my body is designed to do it natural they said i have to go back up for a scan in 4 weeks, leaves 2 weeks now.


this is where im confussed:

its been 2 weeks i have had no cramping no bleeding spotting or nothing,

i still have the tirdness my breast really hurt and i was in the bath last night and clear liquid came out my breast,

no sickness or feeling sick dont normall get that,

really crumpy stomach feels hard and put on some weight,


also what confuses me is how can they say im 9 weeks at the scan when we didnt start trying till after then when they said 6 that made sense it dated back to when we tried.

i have called the midwife and all i get is we are right and wait for it to happen,

feel confussed im hoping someone can give me some advice.

sorry about the long post

 

[honey08]

hi ya hun, the same happened to me and its very tramactic u might not start bleeding for a while uknow,wot happened to me was a missed miscarrage, i started spotting a little at 11wk then went for scan and the baby hadnt grown past 6wk its not till 12wk that ur body knows,cos then the placenta takes over,i had a dnc tho cos didnt want the pain to do it naturally, it was easier and i cud move on and get my self to gether again, there is a tablet u can av to bring everything 4ward hun ........ its an awful chioce to have to make

 

[taylor197878]

tks for ur reply am i wrong to think they have it wrong or am i just clutching straws i just keep thinking how can i be 9 weeks when the 6 weeks they said made sense cause that was when we tried.

 

[honey08]

are they having u bk for another scan hun ?! cos u just never know uknow, u may av ovulated later or anything ! u must get another scan b4 u make any dissions,my was for sure as the sac was 11wk in size but the baby was only 6wk,but they still had me bk a wk later just to make sure, phone up if theyve not offered u bk for a scan hun, i do hope theyve got it wrong

 

[taylor197878]

tks to go back in 2 weeks for a scan its nerve racking cause they just keep saying u will misscarry and im really scared about it never had one and i cant go to hospital for a d&c cant do that maybe im just cluctching straws that everything will be fine cause they must know what there doing but then u read on the web about things,

i wonder if i had the v/u they might have found something,

 

[honey08]

if ur going bk for a scan in 2wk hun and its all still the same then i wud say uv missed miscarrid if this is the case i wud recomend that u get help to miscarry hun, as anything cud be left behind,u dont want to make ur self ill hun x
i wish u all the best and u just dont know,ive read a couple that didnt see HB till 7wk ! when i went (im now pg) at 8wk they even said then dont panic if we cant yet find a HB ,but they did, if the baby has grown at all when u go bk all just might be ok hun

 

[taylor197878]

tks i think the chances are so slim me going up and seeing anything,

i wish i was braver and get the d&c done but i suffer with panic attacks and i have a phobia abot needles not great eh lol

maybe mines wasnt growing at the rate it was supposed to but i have small babys all mine have been doubt that has got anything to do with it though.

 

[honey08]

im not sure hun,only time will tell,it is an awful thing to go thro,this appened to me with my first pregnancy
as for been scared off needles etc, they can put u to sleep with gas first and then inject u, i wish u all the best hun,and im sry ur going thro this xx

 

[taylor197878]

tks for ur advice i will keep updated if anything happens, if i am i wish it would hurry up want to go straight back and try again as soon as i misscarry

once again tks

 

[MrsJD]

Sorry to hear about your stress

 

[1st_baby]

Hope all goes well hun ! xx stay strong

 

[eswift]

I'm not sure if it helps, Me & mine had a similar occurance sept/Oct 08. Went for scan and thing hadn't gone right. I opted to go and have a induced mis-carriage/termination not sure quite how I should look at it. Either way my body was saying I was pregnant but things hadn't formed right.

We went through various issues with nurses and gettintg back to normal even just hormone wise. I should have been about 3mth mark, but was measuring at 7wks.

It has taken us both a while to get over it, even now I have my moments. People just don't think, I'm not sure but I think I took the easy way out, there was nothing to save or help. At least we're now able to try again - I wouldn't wish anyone to have to go through it.

Still it hard when I see friends who've bumps are going and I'm not even concieving.. Hopefully soon...

 

[honey08]

i felt the same hun,this was also the reason why i had a dnc, id had a scan ,got told the bad news,but they scanned me a wk later,then 3days after this i had a dnc,cos i knew we wanted to ttc asap again,id had time to cum to terms with it and just wanted it over asap,sounds harsh but i did,keep us up2date hun, and i hope it goes super fast for u

 

[Orange lady]

Hi there
I'm so sorry for your loss. Same happened to me in December. I hadn't even heard of a missed miscarriage. But I had all signs still of pregnancy, sore breasts, sickess, tiredness, etc but my baby had already died. It is possible for your body to miss this. Other than my scan which showed an 8 week baby with no heartbeat I had no signs of miscarriage. No cramps, no blood, no nothing. It's very difficult to except i know.
I opted for EPRC (D&C) becasue there were no signs of my body doing it naturally. It was a painless procedure and all my pregnancy symptoms went within a few days. 28 days later my period came and my cylce seemed back to normal.
I hope it goes ok for you whatever you decide.
Take care
x

 

[Widger]

I'm really sorry for your loss. My last bfp was on 14th november and I found out 2 weeks ago that the baby had no heartbeat (it should have been 8 weeks). I still had symptoms, no spotting or anything - I just happened to have a scan to check everything was ok and unfortunately it wasn't. I had a missed miscarriage. You should be about 10 weeks now if your last bfp was then? I wish you all the best.