9 year old inappropriate internet searching

[Tegans Mama]

Yep that is perfectly normal. I would just leave him to it

One of my friends (who is significantly older than me and has a 20 year old son) has two lovely, well balanced, sexually open boys who could always come to her if they needed help or advice.

The first time she found them looking at dirty stuff (like ALL teenage lads do, lets face it) she actually bought them a dvd/magazine per month, and turned net nanny on to stop them searching the internet for it.

IMO that is a very sensible thing to do - you're not stopping them from doing it because they'll do it anyway, but you're giving them material that you know is not inappropriate (because theres some really weird/disgusting stuff on the internet) and I plan to do this if we ever have a boy. I'd rather know they were safe to be honest

 

[JASMAK]

I think it is normal to be curious, and just because he searched it, doesnt mean he is sexually active or thinking of having sex. lol...that's absurd! I would talk to him about the dangers of searching and what he saw though. I would explain that some pictures are fake and unnatural and that women don't naturally look like that. I would put parental controls on it too. When my son gets an IPOD he will not be allowed to search.

 

[four]

My daughter is 7 and was looking up boobs. She was actually sitting on the sofa with me. She is only allowed while in the same room as me. I took a peek to check on her, and caught her. I honestly got curious because the usual netflix Sponge Bob wasn't on. We had a talk about what you can and can't look at on my phone. She was embarresed which wasn't my intention, but understood why she can't search on the internet. This was a couple months ago, and hasn't done it since. I think it is honestly a curiosity thing.

 

[kmumtobe]

At that age I'd just say it's complete curiosity.. If you walk round naked in front of him and he still searches then I'd be suprised, but I suspect its just a case of curiosity about something which he prob thinks is a bit taboo as it's not usually something we openly show and discuss over dinner! Kids are always curious about body parts! Deffo put a net nanny on tho there's seeing boobs and then there's seeing page three style boobs or worse!

 

[TwilightAgain]

I wouldn't mention it. Kids are curious quite young young and you'll only embarrass him.

When I was in Primary School, during the older years (about your sons age) everyone used to talk about sex and blowjobs and things (though I didn't understand what half of it meant, i was still curious) if he's being exposed to conversations like that anywhere then its natural for him to be curious.

 

[gwenstrom]

I was putting my sons ipod touch on charge earlier and his safari pages were open.

He had obviously been searching "boobies and tittys".
He ad 6-7 pages open with pictures of topless ladies on!

He is 10 in october,

What do i do? Do i say something to him to discourage him? Is this normal?

I could not see any smilar searches on his laptop so wonder if hi stepbrother used it at his dads but he is 20 and it seemed too immature for him!
He is not an angel but i honestly did not think I would be dealling with this yet

It's normal, especially in this day in age where boobies and tittys are so easily accessible. Well he isn't gay anyway, so some parents (religious?) might breath a sigh of relief over that. I wouldn't mention it or worry about it at this point. He's too young to explain the facts of life at at his young age it's just curiosity. Some children are raised by nudist parents and 'boobies' and 'titties' aren't really an issue, just a part of a humans body.

 

[mom22boys]

I wouldn't mention it. Kids are curious quite young young and you'll only embarrass him.

When I was in Primary School, during the older years (about your sons age) everyone used to talk about sex and blowjobs and things (though I didn't understand what half of it meant, i was still curious) if he's being exposed to conversations like that anywhere then its natural for him to be curious.

I guess I was a sheltered girl, cause I had no idea what a BJ was until this man yelled at me as I was getting the mail that he would let me give him one it I wanted too. I ran to my house and called my friend then she told me what it was..........I ran and told my mom....who told my grandma....who told my uncles........LOLOLOL! I was just grossed out!! I was around 13!

 

[gabbyskyy]

I think it's normal for maybe a preadolescent, but 10 is a lil young. Maybe he's just curious because he heard it somewhere or saw something on tv. the media and friends have huge influences on a kid. I wouldn't worry too much. After all they came into the world with a boob in their mouth didn't they? talking to him might embarrass him or make him feel like he did something bad. But, if you've always talked to him about things like they're no big deal before maybe it's not a bad idea to just bring it up and make it a light subject. I have girls, ones 9 so it's a lil different for me I guess. Maybe have dad bring it up.....that's prob what i'd do. LOL!

 

[minties]

I think it is 100% normal for a boy that age. I remember being 9/10 and boys bringing in dads playboys to school and every boy for a mile around would gravitate to come have a look! Their eyes would be like saucers, lol.

In highschool I did a sexual health project and interviewed (anonymously) 450 teenage boys about when they first started getting curious about sex, and when they first started masturbating. You'd be amazed at how young most of them were. A lot of them were thinking about womens bodies from 6 years old, started to experiment with masturbation from 8/9 (not knowing what they were doing, just thought it felt good), and proper masturbating with intention (lol!) at age 10 or 11.

This is going back a fair while mind you, as I am almost 29.

 

[britt1986]

Sounds normal to me. Although I don't have any children that age, it's just curiosity getting to them. If you don't want him doing it, put up some parental controls.

Children these days learn about sexuality so much sooner than we did back in the 70's and 80's.

 

[karla1]

honestly this is perfectly normal my son 11 has searched "naked girls" on google images we didnt tell him had seen this as embassesment can make things worse and he really isnt doing anything "wrong" and the last thing we wanted was for him to thing it is wrong him starting to get curious about the opposite sex. we did have "the chat" with him and told him he could asked us anything.

i did mention it to his teacher (just to make sure he was not talking about it in school) he wasnt but she did put our mind at ease and told us that at this age she deals with lots of children showing an interest and he is certainally not the first in his class to have had a look or ask questions about this

 

[Trying4ababy]

If it was my child I'd have a talk with them and perhaps take the iPod away from them for awhile as punishment.

 

[v2007]

I think its totally normal, my daughter and her mates were caught on the PC googling

I wasn't impressed, put safe search on and bollocked the lot of them.

V xxx

 

[hopeandpray]

It is normal but you need to put some kind of parental control on his internet. If you don't know how then go into a pc shop and they will do it for you but will probably make you buy the software

 

[samanthaaa]

Completely normal.

My best friend and I got caught looking at porn when we were 9 years old It wasn't sexual, we were just curious.

 

[chiapso]

If it was my child I'd have a talk with them and perhaps take the iPod away from them for awhile as punishment.

Punishment? it's a natural interest.

 

[TaylorsMummyx]

i would be more worried if he wasnt showing intrest in the oposite sex! lol.

my nephew is 12, and at that age he was the same. He would be like ohhh boobies!

 

[junich85]

I remember going down the park and one of the boys from our class had a naughty magazine and me and my girlfriends included gathered round with the boys out of curiousity. Must've been around 11/2 though. 9 seems young but generations change and have to adapt I guess.
It's difficult being that age - I remember not knowing what a condom was but have to pretend I did (sounds ridiculous, I know) just so I could retaliate with some of the others who'd laugh at gum and say "That looks like a condom"... Being young is blissfully misguided and tricky to make sense of lol

 

[Gingerspice]

I think it is natural, but i woud be conerned wht migh tget stumbled upon if no filter of somekind is set up. i would alo be concerned to just brush it under the carpet and would start a conversation about the opposite sex. I'd stress its not naughty to be currious but hings need to have a perspective on them.

 

[Ribbleroo]

There is an app for the ipod touch / iphone called K9 Web Protection.