Jellybaby100
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Sit tight - this is a moan!!
I dont post very often, but I think writing this down will help me feel better!
I am nearly 33 weeks pregnant, and I am starting to find things a little bit harder having had it ridiculously easy for the past 33 weeks...My Husband is usually pretty good, and does his share of stuff round the house (except when we have his family to stay - but dont get me started on that!).
I am a 31 year old career driven woman, I love my job and the work that I do; but I am starting to get worried now (as I am finding general 'life' a bit harder) that I cant be superwoman, and I can't do everything.
I find that my husband isn't *that* understanding of my potential non- superwoman status and doesn't perhaps do as much as he can - if I mention it, he lists things that he has done (ie, he sat for hours on my laptop installing a new version of itunes when we were trying to go out- I was happy with the told one!!) yet every day I get up an hour before him, feed all the animals, let the hens out, take him a coffee in bed and then leave for work (Am out the house 07.45-18.30 every day) I am then responsible for cooking the evening meal. His main job round the house is the laundry which at msot is 3 loads a week.
I am supposed to be working till 39 weeks, primarily because I want the money and although he's not putting any pressure on me, indirectly it feels as though he is because he kind of *expects* that I will be fine and dandy and that the whole rest of the pregnancy will be a breeze. He is convinced that the birth will be a doddle...I am less convinced - and again put enourmous amounts of pressure on myself to make it seem as easy as possible.
All I can do is recall other husbands with their wives when they were at the stage I am, and they all seem (in my memory) to have been so so much more supportive of their wives than mine is of me. He never asks how I am feeling, he never offers to do anything in addition to what he is supposed to do, expects so much of me (for instance he made fun of me when we were out walking with the dog that I didn't want to take a particularly hilly and steep path) that I am feeling pressured about the weeks ahead and the birth. I am fed up with feeling like I am nagging him to help with stuff, when I ask him too - he has very much his own agenda.
Can someone give me a HUGE slap round the chops, tell me to stop wallowing, and that he is not that bad, and that I need a massive kick up the derrier and told to 'get on with it'!!!
Thanks in advance...
JB xx
I dont post very often, but I think writing this down will help me feel better!
I am nearly 33 weeks pregnant, and I am starting to find things a little bit harder having had it ridiculously easy for the past 33 weeks...My Husband is usually pretty good, and does his share of stuff round the house (except when we have his family to stay - but dont get me started on that!).
I am a 31 year old career driven woman, I love my job and the work that I do; but I am starting to get worried now (as I am finding general 'life' a bit harder) that I cant be superwoman, and I can't do everything.
I find that my husband isn't *that* understanding of my potential non- superwoman status and doesn't perhaps do as much as he can - if I mention it, he lists things that he has done (ie, he sat for hours on my laptop installing a new version of itunes when we were trying to go out- I was happy with the told one!!) yet every day I get up an hour before him, feed all the animals, let the hens out, take him a coffee in bed and then leave for work (Am out the house 07.45-18.30 every day) I am then responsible for cooking the evening meal. His main job round the house is the laundry which at msot is 3 loads a week.
I am supposed to be working till 39 weeks, primarily because I want the money and although he's not putting any pressure on me, indirectly it feels as though he is because he kind of *expects* that I will be fine and dandy and that the whole rest of the pregnancy will be a breeze. He is convinced that the birth will be a doddle...I am less convinced - and again put enourmous amounts of pressure on myself to make it seem as easy as possible.
All I can do is recall other husbands with their wives when they were at the stage I am, and they all seem (in my memory) to have been so so much more supportive of their wives than mine is of me. He never asks how I am feeling, he never offers to do anything in addition to what he is supposed to do, expects so much of me (for instance he made fun of me when we were out walking with the dog that I didn't want to take a particularly hilly and steep path) that I am feeling pressured about the weeks ahead and the birth. I am fed up with feeling like I am nagging him to help with stuff, when I ask him too - he has very much his own agenda.
Can someone give me a HUGE slap round the chops, tell me to stop wallowing, and that he is not that bad, and that I need a massive kick up the derrier and told to 'get on with it'!!!
Thanks in advance...
JB xx