a friend is asking me about clomid... help please

[BobDog]

hi,
i've been through ttc ltttc assisted but no hope, so we've changed paths and decided to try and adopt. anyway DH's best pals wife came to me and asked for some guidance, i was flattered naturally, but i realised all the info i had absorbed on here had fallen out of my head!!

she is asking if it is important to take clomid at the same time everyday, my instinct was to say yes. but i think that's because it's logical to me to take fertility meds at the same time each day just as you would contraception.

the other think she asked was if you take clomid at the same time daily say around 9pm does that mean you will ov at 9pm? i haven't got a clue because when i was on clomid my issue was that i didn't ovulate never mind what time of day i O'd!!

she is on her CD8 and is on 150mg clomid CD 4-8. and that's the usual 5 days. but she is saying she is getting an ache in her lower abdomen (she can't pinpoint where the pain is coming from) and she is still bleeding. she want's to know what's up with that. i don't have her answers because we stopped taking note about cycles etc a while ago.

sorry it's a long one. but i hope one of you lovely ladies in here can help.

baby dust to all!!

 

[trying hard]

so... Yes you are supposed to take clomid at the same time every day, No she probably wont o at 9 o clock, and the pain is probably just her overys gearing up to release the extra folicals. Lastly 8 days isn't ridiculously long, it should stop soon

Hope that helps and good luck to both of you

 

[BobDog]

so... Yes you are supposed to take clomid at the same time every day, No she probably wont o at 9 o clock, and the pain is probably just her overys gearing up to release the extra folicals. Lastly 8 days isn't ridiculously long, it should stop soon

Hope that helps and good luck to both of you

thank you so much, that was along the same lines as i was thinking! so maybe i've not lost it all...

 

[Sophe]

could I ask you something? I did the same thing I went to a LTTC friend and asked her about clomid as I knew she'd had it, she got very upset though and it stirred it all again for her, I feel so bad for asking, did you feel at all upset when she asked?

 

[BobDog]

could I ask you something? I did the same thing I went to a LTTC friend and asked her about clomid as I knew she'd had it, she got very upset though and it stirred it all again for her, I feel so bad for asking, did you feel at all upset when she asked?

no i didn't feel upset about it, i have known for the past 11 years that having kids would be a miracle, but we went through the treatments just to see if that would have an effect. i've never been under any illusions about it. i can't understand why someone would not help someone else who is going through the same thing you've been through.

i guess everyone deals with things differently, and some have a longer mourning period for the things they've lost, or what they feel they will never have. because that's what it's like. you feel something has died, and you need to mourn the loss of it. i guess your friend wasn't ready to face the reality of her situation.

don't hold it against her, just hug her. she needs support too. you never know, once she has your support and understanding she will be able to help you too.

 

[trying hard]

nicely said

 

[Sophe]

could I ask you something? I did the same thing I went to a LTTC friend and asked her about clomid as I knew she'd had it, she got very upset though and it stirred it all again for her, I feel so bad for asking, did you feel at all upset when she asked?

no i didn't feel upset about it, i have known for the past 11 years that having kids would be a miracle, but we went through the treatments just to see if that would have an effect. i've never been under any illusions about it. i can't understand why someone would not help someone else who is going through the same thing you've been through.

i guess everyone deals with things differently, and some have a longer mourning period for the things they've lost, or what they feel they will never have. because that's what it's like. you feel something has died, and you need to mourn the loss of it. i guess your friend wasn't ready to face the reality of her situation.

don't hold it against her, just hug her. she needs support too. you never know, once she has your support and understanding she will be able to help you too.

I guess maybe its still too raw for my friend at the moment. She did say she was scared it would work for me and that it would be another friend she would loose and was feeling sorry for herself. I feel like this when people tell me they are expecting I totally know how it is.

I would never hold it against her I just felt bad I asked her, I wasn't thinking. Was so wrapped up in the clomid!

 

[BobDog]

could I ask you something? I did the same thing I went to a LTTC friend and asked her about clomid as I knew she'd had it, she got very upset though and it stirred it all again for her, I feel so bad for asking, did you feel at all upset when she asked?

no i didn't feel upset about it, i have known for the past 11 years that having kids would be a miracle, but we went through the treatments just to see if that would have an effect. i've never been under any illusions about it. i can't understand why someone would not help someone else who is going through the same thing you've been through.

i guess everyone deals with things differently, and some have a longer mourning period for the things they've lost, or what they feel they will never have. because that's what it's like. you feel something has died, and you need to mourn the loss of it. i guess your friend wasn't ready to face the reality of her situation.

don't hold it against her, just hug her. she needs support too. you never know, once she has your support and understanding she will be able to help you too.

I guess maybe its still too raw for my friend at the moment. She did say she was scared it would work for me and that it would be another friend she would loose and was feeling sorry for herself. I feel like this when people tell me they are expecting I totally know how it is.

I would never hold it against her I just felt bad I asked her, I wasn't thinking. Was so wrapped up in the clomid!

it can be quite awkward sometimes yeah, that is a fear factor, having treatments you've been through and had no success with work well for someone else, it can leave a little resentment there.

it's not that she wouldn't be happy for you if it worked but it would be so hard for her in the same respect. this is why i love this forum, there is a security in the anonymity, so i can ask anyone on here what i want but if it's not something they want or feel able to deal with then they don't have to read or respond.

i think your friend needs more time. it sounds to me as though she is struggling to get her head round it all. i used to think of myself as a failure as a woman because i can't carry a baby. and the pain i felt everytime i thought about it, it was horrible. i worked through it though. i got some counselling, got myself together again and now we have started the adoption process and i'm feeling good about life now.

i wouldn't suggest she went to counselling though as that might set her off on the defensive. i would let her deal with things her own way. she will snap out of it randomly and you will have your lovely friend back.