A Late Surprise

[SuprisedbyGod]

Hello all, I've just signed up. I've recently learaned that I am expecting. I just turned 44 this month. I have been married to my loving husband for 20 years and we have a soon to be 18 year old son. Let me tell you that this pregnancy comes as a shock and a surprise and has taken a bit of a mental adjustment. We thought we were done, another baby was not anywhere near our mindset. I am a bit over 7 weeks according to my LMP. My husband will be 59 this year and not nearly as adjusted to the idea of starting over as I am, but he'll come around. My son was surprised but very supportive.

I had my first prenatal appointment on May 24 and it did not go as well as I would have liked. First, the reference of advanced maternal age was insulting. My doctor was surprised that I had decided to keep the baby due to my advanced maternal age...which really started to irritate me. I felt as if I was 80 years old and kicking the can down the road!

She did a transvaginal us and only saw a gestational sac without an embryo or heartbeat which really freaked me out. Then she started on the genetic deficiency numbers. While I have liked my doctor for a number of years, I am really disappointed in her attitude.

My tests showed my hcg number as of Friday 7696 and yesterday at 9505. Not sure if this good or not. I also have a sonogram scheduled for May 29. All I can do is continue to pray about it or else I will certainly go crazy with doubts and worry.

Thanks for reading my long post.

 

[CountrymomWV]

First of all congrats!!! It isn't too late to shop for a doctor that is more supportive. I hope everything works out!!

 

[SuprisedbyGod]

Thank you and I've been considering how to proceed with doctor issue as I have no problem firing a doctor if need be.

 

[Garnet]

You know it is hard enough having a baby at any age so if you don' t have a supportative Dr. 86 her and find one that is supportative. I was 43 and went a Dr and he said well this baby won't make it til next trimester and I felt he put negitive vibes and my son did not survive. Please find yourself a supportive Dr., women are having babies in their 40s.

 

[MrsPeacock13]

Congratulations! I am 41 so only 3 years younger than you.

 

[Barbi]

Congratulations on your pregnancy. Your doctor is seriously not supportive, I would encourage you to find another. My original doctor told me when I had a bleed at 7 weeks pregnant, that "it was always going to happen, what with my advanced maternal age and everything" ... I am 37 years of age. He then told me that the risk of all the trisomies goes up exponentially every year you are older than 35 years. I am 23 weeks 4 days today and despite my combined blood screen and nucal scan giving me a probability of 1 in 26 for Down Syndrome, we are keeping our little girl and as a first time mother, my gut feeling is that she will be fine. If we are blessed with a child that has Downs it is not of any great consequence for us. My partner is 28 and I'm 37 and this baby will be the first for both of us.

Good luck and ensure that you find yourself better company and a better doctor than her.

 

[prickly]

What lovely moving and truly inspirational stories ladies - thankyou for sharing...good luck! I am intending to keep trying like yourselves...so long as there's eggies and my body is fit and healthy, I ovulate regularly and my AMH was great last year...age is just a number and it is being recognised slowly now...in the UK the IVF age cut off has now been moved to 42 in recognition of later age does not prevent good, fit motherhood! Way to go girls!

 

[vermeil]

pff that doctor can shove it! I am 41, went to my first doctor`s appointment today and everyone was supportive and encouraging. They asked if this was a natural pregnancy - no, a FET I told them, they nodded and moved on. It was clear I had done my homework, knew the risks, was eating super healthy etc. They deal a lot with teen pregnancies which made me chuckle a bit - I said this is anything BUT an accident, this little guy is very much wanted and worked towards! I am classified high risk only because my first son was a micro preemie so they are being extra careful. They were great.

 

[maybebaby3]

Hope all went well at your scan yesterday!

 

[ALISON69]

Hello all, I've just signed up. I've recently learaned that I am expecting. I just turned 44 this month. I have been married to my loving husband for 20 years and we have a soon to be 18 year old son. Let me tell you that this pregnancy comes as a shock and a surprise and has taken a bit of a mental adjustment. We thought we were done, another baby was not anywhere near our mindset. I am a bit over 7 weeks according to my LMP. My husband will be 59 this year and not nearly as adjusted to the idea of starting over as I am, but he'll come around. My son was surprised but very supportive.

I had my first prenatal appointment on May 24 and it did not go as well as I would have liked. First, the reference of advanced maternal age was insulting. My doctor was surprised that I had decided to keep the baby due to my advanced maternal age...which really started to irritate me. I felt as if I was 80 years old and kicking the can down the road!

She did a transvaginal us and only saw a gestational sac without an embryo or heartbeat which really freaked me out. Then she started on the genetic deficiency numbers. While I have liked my doctor for a number of years, I am really disappointed in her attitude.

My tests showed my hcg number as of Friday 7696 and yesterday at 9505. Not sure if this good or not. I also have a sonogram scheduled for May 29. All I can do is continue to pray about it or else I will certainly go crazy with doubts and worry.

Thanks for reading my long post.

Just wondering how you getting on and if you had your scan