A little help on what to say to my mom.

[peace]

Right, I've decided that now is the time to tell my mom, as my dad comes home tomorrow so I figured she'd have a bit of time to deal with it.

I feel like a complete pussy lol, but i'm going to write a letter as I don't want to blurt out 'I'm pregnant' as I want to explain a few things, and if I do it face to face, she is only gonna start shouting and calling me an idiot and I won't get a word in edge ways.

How should I start it? What do I say? errr! I'm not going to tell my dad or sister yet though, as my sister is..how can I say this, not pro-life so to speak.
Thank you xxx

 

[nadinek]

what do you want to tell her? make a list i guess n maybe we cn help?

 

[smatheson]

when I wrote my mom a letter I started it off by saying i know this is going to disapoint her but I am pregnant and then explain yourself and your plans on what you are planning to do with the baby COngrats on the baby by the way!

 

[peace]

what do you want to tell her? make a list i guess n maybe we cn help?

About what I plan to do in regards to Uni, whether to defer for a year or not. How me and my boyfriend are gonna get a place together in december, stuff like that. I'm not sure whether it's really relevant to say atm or not though? I just want to reassure her that I'm not going to fuck my life up basically lol.

 

[nadinek]

I think that'd be a good idea, it'd show you're thinking things through and your not just assuming itll be okay you know?

 

[Leah_xx]

i went to go tell my mom started crying and the first thing she asked me was
"did you have sex last night?" cause it was prom night the night before.
I told her" mom I have been having sex" and cried even more and she looked at me and goes " your pregnant arent you?" " i told her yes mom I am."
she got up walked to her bathroom saying " are you punking me?"
thats how I told my mom.

 

[FayDanielle]

Not sure exactly what to tell you to say...but a little bit of advice I got when I told my mum, which I found really helpful.
I told my mum by text and it started off like...

I love you so much, please dont be dissapointed, i know your gonna be angry and the only thing Ive ever wanted to do is make you proud. Im pregnant.

The my friend advised I was doing it all wrong!
Im pregnant needs to come before anything. I was beating around the bush with it, and she said, the shock is first...then sweet talk her By the time shes read all the I love you's etc etc she'll sort of already 'be over' the fact im pregnant...

Now Im not sure if that made 100% sense...It did in my head! Lol xx

 

[peace]

Not sure exactly what to tell you to say...but a little bit of advice I got when I told my mum, which I found really helpful.
I told my mum by text and it started off like...

I love you so much, please dont be dissapointed, i know your gonna be angry and the only thing Ive ever wanted to do is make you proud. Im pregnant.

The my friend advised I was doing it all wrong!
Im pregnant needs to come before anything. I was beating around the bush with it, and she said, the shock is first...then sweet talk her By the time shes read all the I love you's etc etc she'll sort of already 'be over' the fact im pregnant...

Now Im not sure if that made 100% sense...It did in my head! Lol xx

Haha it made perfect sense don't worry. Thank you, think i'll give it a go like that. She will probably be more suprised by me saying 'I love you' to her more than anything because i've never said it to her! I was going to text her, but i'll just leave a letter by her bed tonight then lock my bedroom door so she can't come kill me in the night haha. xx

 

[FayDanielle]

Not sure exactly what to tell you to say...but a little bit of advice I got when I told my mum, which I found really helpful.
I told my mum by text and it started off like...

I love you so much, please dont be dissapointed, i know your gonna be angry and the only thing Ive ever wanted to do is make you proud. Im pregnant.

The my friend advised I was doing it all wrong!
Im pregnant needs to come before anything. I was beating around the bush with it, and she said, the shock is first...then sweet talk her By the time shes read all the I love you's etc etc she'll sort of already 'be over' the fact im pregnant...

Now Im not sure if that made 100% sense...It did in my head! Lol xx

Haha it made perfect sense don't worry. Thank you, think i'll give it a go like that. She will probably be more suprised by me saying 'I love you' to her more than anything because i've never said it to her! I was going to text her, but i'll just leave a letter by her bed tonight then lock my bedroom door so she can't come kill me in the night haha. xx

I'm exactly the same, I never ever used to tell my mum I loved her or anything, I really took her for granted iykwim?! Im really glad I did it that way though and not the i love you blah blah Im pregnant way
I really wish you the best of luck, but Im sure you'll be fine! My mum actually shocked me with how she reacted, she was more dissapointed by the fact i'd told her by text rather than the fact I was actually pregnant. (Not saying dont do it by letter btw, its completely your choice, I understand the reasoning behind it, I couldnt have done it face to face either!)
And I must say, the bond I have with my mum now is better than its ever ever been before, I can really say she is my best friend now! Let us know how it goes! xx

 

[peace]

Not sure exactly what to tell you to say...but a little bit of advice I got when I told my mum, which I found really helpful.
I told my mum by text and it started off like...

I love you so much, please dont be dissapointed, i know your gonna be angry and the only thing Ive ever wanted to do is make you proud. Im pregnant.

The my friend advised I was doing it all wrong!
Im pregnant needs to come before anything. I was beating around the bush with it, and she said, the shock is first...then sweet talk her By the time shes read all the I love you's etc etc she'll sort of already 'be over' the fact im pregnant...

Now Im not sure if that made 100% sense...It did in my head! Lol xx

Haha it made perfect sense don't worry. Thank you, think i'll give it a go like that. She will probably be more suprised by me saying 'I love you' to her more than anything because i've never said it to her! I was going to text her, but i'll just leave a letter by her bed tonight then lock my bedroom door so she can't come kill me in the night haha. xx

I'm exactly the same, I never ever used to tell my mum I loved her or anything, I really took her for granted iykwim?! Im really glad I did it that way though and not the i love you blah blah Im pregnant way
I really wish you the best of luck, but Im sure you'll be fine! My mum actually shocked me with how she reacted, she was more dissapointed by the fact i'd told her by text rather than the fact I was actually pregnant. (Not saying dont do it by letter btw, its completely your choice, I understand the reasoning behind it, I couldnt have done it face to face either!)
And I must say, the bond I have with my mum now is better than its ever ever been before, I can really say she is my best friend now! Let us know how it goes! xx

Thanks so much, put my mind as ease now that it's not going to be TOO bad. I took my mom for granted in every aspect and never really appreciated everything she did for me until I got pregnant. Hopefully me and her become closer like you and yours. I will update tomorrow, fingers crossed she talks to me. Ty again. xx

 

[Sophiiie]

I hope it goes well xx

 

[MommyGrim]

I was such a wimp and had my dr tell my dad I was...I was in the room though..I just couldn't do it..
But both of my parents were more disapointed that I didn't tell them sooner, than the fact that I was pregnant lol.
They're both perfectly fine with it now and are extremely excited to have a granddaughter (even though my mom HATES being called grandma ) but at least you are telling you on your own and you seem to have a good plan for your life! I'm sure she'll appriciate that!
I wish you the best of luck and majore congrats on your baby!

 

[debsxhim]

Just do it from the heart. Most importantly, tell her your HAPPY! As long as your mom knows your happy with whats happened, she'll be happy for you sooner rather then later. Parents only freak out, cry, scream and get angry because they dont know how you feel, how your taking it,or if you know what you want to do. Explain to her you know what your going to do (and tell her what it is) and she'll feel better about it. I was going to write a letter but I decided to speak in person to be more mature (not saying its not mature if its what you want to do, but how my mom would see it). In the end it doesn't matter how you tell her.

 

[jelix9408]

i just told her. i didnt sugar coat it .. beat around the bush nothing.
i straight up told her.
i cried .. she cried .. we hugged .. she was in shock for awhile ..
not only because i was pregnant but because i was making her a grandma at 42 lol.
then she got super excited and never shut up about it until Willow was born lol.
now shes spoiling Willow rotten! lol but what can i do .. thats grandmas job ya know!

lol .. just be honest .. tell her its your choice to keep the baby .. no one can chance your choice .. your going to love this baby and if you didnt think the baby would be ok and be able to have what he/she needs then you wouldnt be going through having it.
let her know your making ADULT choices. she will treat you like and adult.

i wish you the best of luck! .. let us know what she says!
congrats on the LO btw!

 

[FayDanielle]

Let us know how you got on
xxx

 

[pinkribbon]

I'm glad I don't have to go through that again! But seriously, once they know things get a hell of a lot easier and it's a huge weight off your mind. I put it off for ages and I wish I hadn't because I would have saved myself a lot of sleepless nights if I'd have done it sooner. I told my Mum on her own first, called her through to my room and just told her I've got something to tell you. Then she told my Dad and he came through.

Thinking about it just makes me cringe but they've both been supportive of me and the awkwardness didn't last forever.

 

[peace]

OK, i'm at my boyfriends atm, i left my mum a letter about 2 hours ago and asked her to text me, but she hasn't. she must be really mad, starting to get worried now. shall i wait it out or text her? x

 

[FayDanielle]

OK, i'm at my boyfriends atm, i left my mum a letter about 2 hours ago and asked her to text me, but she hasn't. she must be really mad, starting to get worried now. shall i wait it out or text her? x

Wait it out hun Dont take it as a sign to worry. Remember its a BIG thing, shes probably just coming to terms with it, possibly having a little moment and she will be in touch
xx

 

[peace]

OK, i'm at my boyfriends atm, i left my mum a letter about 2 hours ago and asked her to text me, but she hasn't. she must be really mad, starting to get worried now. shall i wait it out or text her? x

Wait it out hun Dont take it as a sign to worry. Remember its a BIG thing, shes probably just coming to terms with it, possibly having a little moment and she will be in touch
xx

Okay ill try to wait it out, err, so nerve racking though haha. x

 

[FayDanielle]

OK, i'm at my boyfriends atm, i left my mum a letter about 2 hours ago and asked her to text me, but she hasn't. she must be really mad, starting to get worried now. shall i wait it out or text her? x

Wait it out hun Dont take it as a sign to worry. Remember its a BIG thing, shes probably just coming to terms with it, possibly having a little moment and she will be in touch
xx

Okay ill try to wait it out, err, so nerve racking though haha. x

I know how you're feeling hun!! When I text my mum, I KNEW she would call me...and it took her about 15 mins, my heart was in my throat the whole time! and I burst into tears when the phone rang!
I know everything will be just fine dont worry yourself too much, the worst is over with now, you've left the note and Im sure thats a HUGE weight off your shoulders x