A little lost and in need of support

[bambilove]

Hi All,
I am 22 years old (sorry not actually a teen but still quite young!) and have recently found out I am 4 weeks pregnant. I am/was on the pill so this was an unplanned pregnancy and although I love children I am a little shell shocked. My boyfriend/the father is very loving and supportive and this is not the issue at all. I have just finished my degree so I have done all the schooling I planned to and I am not worried in this regard either. I am afraid of how we will cope and if this is the right choice for us?

As an added "twist" I have previously been told I have polycystic ovaries and my chances of conception are very low and I am worried this is my only chance.

Any advice, support or shared stories would be appreciated.

 

[ClairAye]

I got pregnant about a month after I met my OH. A lot through my pregnancy I was worried and scared if this was what I actually wanted, but I knew I did really. After the initial shock everything began to sink in and we were both so excited! I think it just takes time to let yourself come to terms with things. I wondered the whole pregnancy if we'd cope and if it was the right thing for us.

Me and my OH are still together now with a 14 month old and another on the way

Sorry to hear about your PCOS too, you can send me a private message if you would like to talk/ask any questions x

 

[CBNTCEM35]

Hi there!! Congrats on your pregnancy! I just recently found out I was pregnant too after being on the pill, and yes it is a huge shock. I'm only 18 so a little younger then you and 8 weeks pregnant. Honestly the decision is up to you. I was very much pressured into " gretting rid of it" from my parents as I'm very young but I knew in my heart I could never do that. It's what feels right to you, and don't let anyone make u feel pressured into the decision. My view on things is everything happens for a reason. It's great that your boyfriend is supportive! Maybe sitting down and making a list of the pros and cons of your options will help! If you need someone to talk to I'm here! Good luck!!

 

[bambilove]

thanks guys

it's really nice to hear some supportive words from people who understand. i have posted elsewhere about it to gain advice and such and one woman called me "lazy" and just said that i was obviously too "afraid of hard work" and that's what my problem was. She then went on to say that if i "wanted nothing to do with the baby" I should give it to the father or put it up for adoption - i think it's the worst thing anyone has ever said to me especially because it's not true and the father is supporting me no matter what

Booking myself into the doctors on Monday to talk to them about it and explore my options ..then maybe i will get round to telling my mum as it can't be as bad as what that woman has just said ahaha! xx

 

[ClairAye]

That's horrible! It is hard work, and you do have to make a lot of sacrifices, but becoming a mum is honestly the best thing I have done in my life! It's so rewarding People will be brutally honest about parenting, but you need to ignore negativity like that!

It's great your OH is so supportive though! Good luck on Monday! x

 

[x__amour]

Welcome to BnB and congratulations on your pregnancy! I hope you have a very happy and healthy 9 months.

It's completely and totally normal to be scared or worried but I can't imagine anything I love more than being a mother. It's completely life changing.

 

[bambilove]

Hi all,
thanks for the messages.

I had my pregnancy confirmed yesterday and while in the middle of telling me that it's "probably just a very early pregnancy that will naturally not proceed" then doctor then got, as she described, "the clearest positive she has ever seen" on my test haha!

I picked up some leaflets about my options and my partner and I are talking it over.

I need a little help with something though, I am really suffering with the symptoms. I feel sick literally none stop, all the day, every minute of every day and I also have a headache and abdominal pains (doctor said this is normal and nothing to worry about.) Does anyone have any tips? It's literally making it so I can't move or do anything - i can't sleep at night and i can't go to work in the day

 

[MummyMana]

I don't get why they'd tell you your pregnancy probably wouldn't proceed :s that's not a very nice thing for them to say :s

As for the sickness I had that too, I found that sitting very still outside, sipping water and controlled breathing made it almost bearable...