A moment to complain....

[echo]

Its just one of those days and I need to vent.

I have been ttc for 3 1/2 years. I am 32, soon to be 33. I am getting the 'aren't you getting a bit old' and 'when are you having kids' and 'have you been checked' speeches from the oh-so-helpful people who just don't understand.

I am not old. Yes, there are times when I wished we had started earlier. But, I believe things happen for a reason.

Some people on some of the bnb threads are young. I'm not saying too young to have families, and besides I know nothing about their lives. But still, I have to leave the forum sometimes because of the sheer ignorance at how hard ttc can be. Posting about how they want kids when they are young because they don't want to have small kids around when they are in their 30's and 40s, and how they have specific dates, and want their kids specific ages apart. Complaining about it taking longer than 3 cycles to get a bfp (gasp!). Whining about family thinking they are too young, or not ready. Wistfully thinking they could have done more before having their child/ren. All I can think is how nice it must be to have life so figured out. I remember feeling that way. After two years ttc, it wore off.

I know, I'm such a hypocrite for complaining about other people whining. Like I said, its just one of those days.

 

[tickledpink3]

You're not a hypocrite. You have every right to feel the way you do. I won't pretend to understand where you are coming from but to offer a

 

[RKW]

I know this feeling. I think it's important to be able to say on these days every week I will not go online. I do not go online on a Sunday, to give me a break! I have only been TTC for 18 months but accidentally stumbled on the wtt section and I just wanted to post "it's not that easy!!!!!" " it might take you years!!!!!" "don't put it off!!!!!" but I suppose you never know how hard TTC can be until you are doing it month after month.
Lots of positive thoughts your way xxx

 

[louise31]

Snap! I am 32 will be 33 in 4 months and yes I know what you mean about age!! It just creeps up on you, but 33 is still young. I am very much the same as you about things happening for a reason!! but it doesn't stop those annoying people at work making judgements on why you havent got a family and - you better start soon comments!!! Little do they know!!
Keep positive - Positive vibes to you xx

 

[echo]

Thanks ladies.

 

[Armywife84]

Meh, you're entitled to a moan!!

What really gets me mad, is that most of those whiners will get their wish, and never have to feel the pain of LTTC.

 

[tamithomas]

Even though I'm 22, I sympathize completely. If anything I feel disgust in my generation when they complain that they haven't gotten BFP in like 2 cycles of trying, I've been TTC for 3 years and still BFN. You have every right to feel how you feel, I don't get people who give those ignorant comments of getting old..my mom was 33 when she had me after 5 years of TTC, you've still got years ahead of you to TTC.

 

[wonderstars]

31 almost 32 here and I totally get where you're coming from.

It's funny the perception hey? I had everyone saying the same thing, you're not getting younger blah blah blah blah. Then my gyne goes to refer me to the FS and gives me a choice of going to another city to get in quicker. He then says, "but you're so young that you could wait for the city clinic". Haha.

Everyone wants something different out of life. People are meeting their spouses later in life, some are doing lots of schooling or want to get ahead in life. I think our age is becoming the norm so I don't think we should have to feel pressured....

but that won't stop people.

Good luck!