A week after my ectopic

[Nwoodall22]

I am 8 days post op of having my ectopic pregnancy removed and my left tube, I feel at a complete loss my husband has been amazing I feel that I should be getting better however I feel like I am getting worse.
I am just crying all the time trying to do it in secret as I feel people are expecting me to be getting better. I am also still bleeding quite bad which is getting me down I know all of the recovery takes time I just can't except that I am no longer pregnant I have to a test to check that my hormones have gone back to normal but I really do not want to do the test. Please tell me that what I am feeling is normal as right now as I type this I feel so alone

 

[Delish]

Sweetheart I don't know what to say for advice but just wanted to send hugs as couldn't read this and run. If you post in the losses forum you will get lots of support and advice, it's possibly why your post got missed in here as it's the wrong forum.
Hope you're doing a little better today. xx

 

[tu123]

What you are feeling IS normal and thank goodness you have a supportive partner

You are essentially grieving and that goes through a process.

Go for the test hunny. It is important to know that your levels are sorting themselves so you can be healthy and move on

 

[baby_love]

My heart goes out to you. I too had an ectopic pregnancy and had my left tube removed on 16/11/11 (5 days after getting married!!). It has been incredibly hard but everyday it gets a little easier. Now I am looking forward to my period coming so I can start getting my body back to normal and start trying again. You just have to remember it wasnt meant to be and ectopic is life threatning so we are both lucky to have come out the other side. Our day will come and we will have our babies. I just know it.

 

[Nwoodall22]

Thank you so much for ur kind words I was feeling a little alone because needed to speak to people who had gone through something similar

 

[emma_arnold]

im sorry for your loss, i suffered an ectopic in april this year and lost one of my tubes. i was devestated as i was told i only had a 50% chance of getting pregnant again but im now 23 weeks pregnant with a little boy. just think positive and your time will come. did the doctors say what sort of state your other tube was in? they told me they couldnt see no damage to my other tube. i then got a positive result for chylamydia(me and my partner had a 4 month split and i stupidly had a drunken one night stand) which i believe caused the ectopic by stopping the fimbria (fallopian fingers) carrying the egg to the womb. please dont think im suggesting that u may an sti although some people have never been tested before. this was only meant to be a quick reply lol hope things getter better for u xx

 

[PreshFest]

Hey.. So sorry for your loss. I definitely know how hard it is.

I found out I was pregnant on July 13th and started bleeding a week later on July 20th. I went straight to the doc and they assumed I was having a miscarriage, but did bloodwork to be safe. 2 days later my levels had not doubled, which was to be expected since we already knew I was losing the baby. I was supposed to go back a few days later for more bloodwork and I had an ultrasound scheduled for a week and a half later since I was so early on they would not have been able to see anything. 3 days after I started bleeding I went to the ER with pain in my left side. They did an ultrasound, saw nothing in my uterus and saw a cyst on my left ovary. So the sent me home with the diagnosis of a miscarriage and an ovarian cyst. The following Monday, I ended up back in a different ER with severe pain on my left side. After 10 hrs there, they were finally able to diagnose me with an ectopic. Since I was so early on and the tube had not ruptured, they have me two shots of methotrexate to end the pregnancy. So my tube was saved, but I still had to sit there while they gave me shots to kill my baby! Ugh! I bled for a few days after that and my levels slowly went down to zero. I think I ovulated again within a few days of my levels reaching zero and then got my first period soon after. I waited 2 periods to start trying again and got pregnant after my 3rd period.

I know right now you are hurting a lot... But it does get easier. I think the blood test is very important to get. Once you know you're at zero, then you will know that the whole ordeal is over and that is very important for healing, I think. So I think for right now, don't fight it. Just feel the emotions and mourn your baby. I WILL get easier, though. Trust me!! Hang in there Don't worry about what anyone else expects of you... Do what you need to do to take care of yourself.