about to loose my Fucking mind!

[jaytee146]

I haven't posted my total thread for my induction but i just need to rant because i'm stress out and tired. i had my beautiful baby girl yesterday at five twenty. i thought i made it clear i didn't want friend's and family bombarding the hospital. i wanted those day.s to get my confidence up and work on breastfeeding. first my mom told the nurse's i'd bottle feed so in the mist of pushing i'm yelling don't give her a bottle i'm doing it! then i went over my birth plan with the nurse's who were super and she post on facebook that i had the baby so from the time i had her til now we. haven't had a chance to really be alone. now other people's feelings are hurt because they Couldn.'t come and people are popping up and passing her from arm to arm despite my break down and yelling get out. i've just spoken with the nurse to put up a sign. i feel like i Can.t do anything right because everyone is so much more experienced than i am and they are always interjecting when i try on my own. so hint hint! make your intentions so clear that a dumb dumb wouldn't be able to mistake your wishes. don't be like me and have your family trying to sneak your lo bottles and pacifiers! now she's so over stimulated she won't go down for five minutes without crying! just needed to get a good cry and rant out. my full induction story is coming. . . now back to my lo

 

[broodyc]

I haven't posted my total thread for my induction but i just need to rant because i'm stress out and tired. i had my beautiful baby girl yesterday at five twenty. i thought i made it clear i didn't want friend's and family bombarding the hospital. i wanted those day.s to get my confidence up and work on breastfeeding. first my mom told the nurse's i'd bottle feed so in the mist of pushing i'm yelling don't give her a bottle i'm doing it! then i went over my birth plan with the nurse's who were super and she post on facebook that i had the baby so from the time i had her til now we. haven't had a chance to really be alone. now other people's feelings are hurt because they Couldn.'t come and people are popping up and passing her from arm to arm despite my break down and yelling get out. i've just spoken with the nurse to put up a sign. i feel like i Can.t do anything right because everyone is so much more experienced than i am and they are always interjecting when i try on my own. so hint hint! make your intentions so clear that a dumb dumb wouldn't be able to mistake your wishes. don't be like me and have your family trying to sneak your lo bottles and pacifiers! now she's so over stimulated she won't go down for five minutes without crying! just needed to get a good cry and rant out. my full induction story is coming. . . now back to my lo

I really feel for you hun....To think you have spent all this time planning and making preparations for the arrival of your little baba for other people to override your wishes with their thoughts, views and opinions. I'd feel exactly the same as you.

Hopefully the nurses respect your wishes and enforce the no visitor rule on your behalf so you and your LO have time alone to bond and have some well deserved rest.

xx

 

[MommyMoore503]

Aww, that just sucks. I can't totally understand why you
re f-in pissed. I would be too. With my first one I was so sick from the C-section meds they had given me that I kept puking in the little blue baggie. In the midst of puking and trying to muster the strength to look at my lo people just kept coming in. Musical balloons, cards, flowers...UGH! It's not that I didn't want their support, I just didn't want it right then. I'm sorry you went through all that on your special day. The hospital should full understand your feelings and not allow any further visitors. I've never breastfed but I am going to this time around. I know people (aka in-laws) will have plenty to say about technique and such so I'm prepared to hang my own sign on the door "Don't come in or I'll throw something at your face" If they don't understand that message, then they deserve to have a poop diaper hit their forehead. Hope all goes smoothy from here on out. Congrats on your little love
XOXO

 

[Leopard]

I haven't been through this (though not long now till I'm due), however this is the one reason I'm not having LO in the more localised hospital, I'm going to one 2hrs away so that I can have that day to myself and DF (though it'll be more me and LO so I can get used to things) and I'm not quite as nice as you, if my friends/family tried to push against my wishes there would be a nice fist in it for them. Congratulations though sweetheart

 

[thelistkeeper]

Oh dear, I know how you feel. I have made my wishes known with each birth and each time they have been broken. I am NOT bending this time.. This will most likely be my last child and I am calling the shots period, hurt feelings of others or not... Congrats on your new little one and I hope people will get the point and leave you alone to bond with your precious new little baby...

 

[darsilver1]

Man that sucks! Sorry your family and friends are being inconsiderate and not understanding your need to bond and be alone with LO. Wish I could be there to kick some butt for you. Hopefully things will die down now the nurses are on board with what you want and the sign is up. Hang in there mama!

 

[Nyn]

am sorry hunny that's so inconsiderate A sign on your door is a good idea. And don't worry about others feelings right now, you are the important one

 

[jaytee146]

Thanks guys. . I finally got her to sleep by myself i can do this!

 

[heaven]

Congrats! I can't believe you are on here! No more computer until you rest...well that may be yearsatleast you got to vent.
also, your baby is probably upset b/c you are upset. They can feel that. Try not to stress. You'll be home soon.

 

[vintage67]

Congratulations on your beautiful little girl being here! Annoyances and all!

 

[1st time]

Oh I so feel for you.... I know I will be in the same boat soon; hubby thinks I'm just being a bitch when I say I dont want visitors straight away and dint want everyone picking bubs up, so I'm just going to have to deal with it. I hope you get some alone time soon and people give you some space

 

[kellyb]

Oh man, I'm so sorry you're going through that--I would be enraged as well! What gives people the nerve or the right to just make decisions for you? It's mind-boggling. Plus, I can't stand it when other people get offended that I haven't let them know stuff about MY life. I actually had a couple of family members become offended that I hadn't yet told them I was pregnant--at the time I wasn't even 10 weeks along yet! Oh my gosh, it's unreal. Isn't it MY news? Geez. Anyhow, it sounds like you might be starting to feel better, and you got her to sleep (hurrah!). I think the note on the door thing is a great way to go--and be sure every nurse knows you are accepting ZERO visitors. I've even heard of people putting this on their birth plans!

 

[ay2808]

Congratulations and I hope things settle down for you soon - be strong!

 

[Angelique]

Were I you I'd feel the same way!!! And mom would probably be the one I was most mad at! Honestly how dare she!! Grrrr I hate "well meaning" friends and family! I'm not letting anyone but my mom in besides DH and my 2 older kids until at LEAST day 2 maybe 3.... I don't wanna be overwhelmed like what just happened to you. I'm very glad you got her down yourself... you will be a natural! And good for you, throw them all out! Congratulations sweetie. I can't wait to see pics.

 

[mumatmadhouse]

Congratulations on the birth of your baby!

I would be v annoyed in your shoes too. Try not to worry about other peoples feelings too much hun, this is your time with your baby and if people cant put your feelings first right now then stuff em, they will get over it, you are the important one right now. Good luck with everything, you can do it xx

 

[hellywelly]

Oh dear, so sorry hun, you have just put in writing my worst nightmare ,,,,,, I am so scared that hubby is going to text our mums when I am in labour ............... I don't want anyone to come to the hospital at all xxxxxxxxxxxx all i can say to you is that give it time this will feel like a distant memory (I hope) xxxxxxx

 

[Hopefulgirlie]

Congratulations hon. I'm so sorry your first few days have been so stressful. I'm sure you're doing a great job. Lots of hugs x x

 

[rachy12342]

OMG!!!!! it makes my blood boil just thinking about this!! I'm going to sit my partner down tonight, as he already disagrees with me, so I want him to know how much it means to me, also, I want NOTHING on fb, but the worst thing is, he will txt it around, then this one 'friend' will think it's her news to tell everyone booo

 

[OctBebe]

I'm sorry no one is respecting your wishes. Im having similar time with my mother, at my MW appointments now I just sit there in silence while my mothers tells my MW what she wants for me without asking me first. I feel like yelling at her to STFU and leave me alone to do it all myself, I can see me yelling at her in the birthing room and afterroom as she will be in my face telling me what to do.

I feel you with the "I just want to try it myself and get out of my space"

ANd don't get me started on all the people making you feel so small by knowing it all and making you feel so inexperienced.

 

[veebot]

im soo upset and annoyed for you. Fortunately for me i live in london and my parents live in NYC. No one is going to show up. Hubby mom will be babysitting my son so i will get my peace and quite.