About to lose the plot

I guess you know how you're scan went now? Or am I a day ahead. I had the same fears last week as was in a lot of pain. Scan showed all absolutely fine so I'm praying yours does the same.
It's bloody harsh isn't it, as if just a strightforward MC wasn't bad enough!! A friend of mine confided she is due just after me, and that was hard to swallow even though of course I'm happy for her. It's very unlikely that the baby will arrive on that day if that helps a little. Other than that I guess you can just try to find hope in the idea that there are plenty of healthy pregnancies around and the next time it will be yours.
Its SOOOOOO hard I know, but you've got to look for the positive. Iknow if I don't I'm in danger of crumbling to bits so I'm really trying to be strong and I hope you can too
 
Thanks guys :hugs:

I've just realised I will be an auntie for the first time too, on my own due date.
How on earth will I fill that role now?

I wish I'd never been pregnant now, it's just tainted everything.

Hoping these feeling will fade when/if I get pregnant again.

PRAYING my scan goes OK tomorrow & it was just a bit of missed tissue rather than a botched D&C which has ruined my fertility. So scared right now, what if I am infertile now? I feel sick.

Im firstly so sorry for your loss....
I know how you feel... I went thru the exact same... but my SIL had her son 10 days after my late sons first birthday.... :hug:
 
Sending you :hug: hun. What you're feeling right now is very normal. I wish that I could jump through this computer right now to give you a big hug and kiss. Sending you love. xox
 
Oh how awful for you. I think I would have fallen apart at the news. :hugs:

There aren't any words to take away your pain. But there are lots of sympathetic, understanding ears :hugs::hugs::hugs:
 
I kinda know how you feel hun. My SIL is 2 weeks behind where I should have been. :hugs: It certainly does not make things easy!
 
Just wanting to say that I hope everything went okay today,
 
I was in the same boat as you in 2006. I had my 2nd miscarriage at 6 1/2 weeks. I found out 6 weeks later that my sister in law was expecting aswell. Same dates, everything. I was mortified. I was hurt, angry, jealous, and god forgive me at times I even hoped she'd lose hers. I could'nt talk to her, or the in laws as they'd all go on about her. I shut myself away. My husband was as useful as a nine bob note, and said deeply hurtful things to me. It took me until almost 8 months into my following pregnancy that I could talk to her.

Its a very emotional time, and your grieving. It will get easier. I know its easy to say, but time is a great healer. And being able to talk really helps. I hope you have the support you need from your partner. Its a long road that has to be taken a day at a time.
 
I was in the same boat as you in 2006. I had my 2nd miscarriage at 6 1/2 weeks. I found out 6 weeks later that my sister in law was expecting aswell. Same dates, everything. I was mortified. I was hurt, angry, jealous, and god forgive me at times I even hoped she'd lose hers. I could'nt talk to her, or the in laws as they'd all go on about her. I shut myself away. My husband was as useful as a nine bob note, and said deeply hurtful things to me. It took me until almost 8 months into my following pregnancy that I could talk to her.

Its a very emotional time, and your grieving. It will get easier. I know its easy to say, but time is a great healer. And being able to talk really helps. I hope you have the support you need from your partner. Its a long road that has to be taken a day at a time.

I was feeling this way too. I hate myself for it cause I wish no harm to her little one at all. My SIL spent an afternoon texting horrible things to me thinking she was helping me, and all I could think was "I wish you could feel what I am going through you cow!"
I hope I'll be better when the LO comes along, but it's hard to say. I don't know how I'll feel.
 
:hug:

I found out that my SIL was pregnant at the same time as me. We were due 4 days apart. Then I miscarried. It was very difficult to stay positive and not be jealous while she was enjoying her first trimester.

You have every right to feel sad and angry and whatever else you are feeling. The worst thing for me was feeling angry at myself for being so jealous of her. I had to cut myself some slack and allow those feelings in order to move past them.

PM me anytime. You're always in my thoughts. :hug:
 
Thankyou so much guys, your words mean so much & it's amazing how this seems to happen to so many people who lose a baby. Fate is too cruel at times.

I think I'm going to be OK, I feel a lot better now I know exactly what was causing my post ERPC bleeding
(day 13 now & still going strong :hissy:)
The chance of it affecting my fertility is minimal & if it does come to that, I can sue to cover the cost of an op to repair the damage they did.

I'm just going to stay away from my OH's family until I'm emotionally healed. I feel a lot calmer/numb now a few days have passed. Lucky for me she lives over an hour away, so it's out of sight out of mind until september.
I just hope I get pregnant by then (or give up on having a baby completely, lol!)

:hug:
 
Oh hun, life is just a bitch sometimes isn't it? There is nothing I can say really but just sending you big :hugs: and lots of :dust: to help you get your :bfp: ASAP


:hugs::hugs::hugs:
 
I got told my cousin was pregnant a week before anyone found out i was, i'd already missed a period by then and kind of knew i was preg but didnt have the " Bfp proof". i m/c at 9 week and she carried on to have her baby girl and was due a week or 2 before i would of been but she was 2 weeks late so she had her baby the time i would of been due, which was a few weeks after christmas which made it harder because thats all people went on about. and i was so jealous and bitter the whole 9 months she was carrying her daughter, i felt really bad about it because she was my cousin and it could of happend to her and not me, but i couldnt help the way i felt. weve been trying for 8 month now for another and another cousin is 12 weeks preg, only found out a week ago.. its hard when people in your familys having kids when its what you want more than anything. but what keeps me going is, our baby(s) are going to be the 1st granchildren for our parents and it'll happen to all of us and the longer it takes it'll make it more special when it does happen. I know it hurts like hell right now, but in time it'll get better.
 
dan-o.. you have been through tooo much!!! :hugs: to you.. you poor thing..
 

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