Adoption and depression?

[rectopathic]

I have reached a very low point in my life and my younger 23 year old sister is 12 weeks pregnant. I think I'm depressed and suicidal and hubby wants me to see my gp.

I'm petrified having depression on my medical records will ruin any future adoption chances (should it come to that). Does anyone know if having depression/ taking anti depressants can ruin adoption chances?

Babydust to you all xx

 

[Snowglobe21]

Aw, sorry to hear that, it is unbearably tough. My DH gets incredibly low all the time, I'm fairly calm about this, but he can't handle too much in regards to this. What are your fertility problems? ICSI and IVF eliminate most of the possible problems to conception if it reaches that stage for you.

 

[krjc4eva]

Hi sweety... i'm sorry you are feeling like this... it's hard hey! I've been trying for 2 years and everyone is pregnant around me. Hold your head up! You can get there eventually, even if it means you adopt a sweet little child to love and care for. In the meantime work on your happiness by taking up a hobby or sport and try to throw yourself into life and minimize time with people who have babies (just until you can handle it again).

I would see a doctor if you are really worried, there's no shame in that. I hope you feel better soon.

In the meantime, heres a great page about the adoption process... it's worth having a look at

https://www.trying-to-conceive-a-baby.com/how-to-adopt-a-baby.html

Kristy

 

[rectopathic]

Thank you. I'm so petrified that telling my gp will take away every chance of adoption in the future. But right now I am in a really dark place and I think actually stopped my ovulating last month from stress.

Thanks for your replies and caring xx

 

[NavyWife84]

I have suffered from depression for about 15 years now. I would definitely get the help you need now and worry about the adoption later. I never thought about depression stopping me from adoption, and I'm sure there are ways to work around it. So, I am going to put it to you straight (I have been borderline suicidal before): you aren't going to be able to adopt if you aren't around to adopt, if you know what I mean. You really need to take care of you first!

Good luck, and if you ever need to talk about the depression or anything, feel free to pm me. I know how hard it can be.

 

[Armywife84]

Really? I'm screwed then..FML.

Hopefully, that's not the case. I'd get help immediately. Whether it's thru therapy (which helps me) or meds it's time to take back control of your life from depression.

 

[Ame]

I am OCD not so bad anymore but a little crazy thats for sure haha and that can lead to depression for me. We have talked to someone about adopting and were told that as long as its being treated its fine. We had to go sit down with a therapist a couple times to evaluate us. So basically you should go to your doctor and get the help you need so you are ready to adopt. I take 50 mg of Cipralex I have been on everything you can imagine because OCD meds are antidepressants just at a higher does and I found it to be the only one that worked quick and didn't make me feel sick. I truly understand how hard this is a few of the girls I work with are pregnant and its all I hear about all day. Good luck and feel better!