Adoption?

[CurlySue]

I realise that, for a lot of people adoption is their last option but I am trying to get myself up to scratch on all options, i.e. fertility treatment routes, egg donation, sperm donation, etc, and for that we have the Assisted Conception forum, etc.

My question is - for those who are trying to conceive long term and reach the end of the road there seems to be an inevitable finality to it on a lot of forums. End of the road for me, they say, so goodbye and good luck. I'm off to look into adoption.

Would BabyandBump ever consider having an adoption area for those who are looking for information regarding the hows, whys and what nots of adoption? It's not exactly an 'assisted conception' nor is it anything to do with birth, but it's still motherhood.

It's Long Term Trying in a different way...

I just feel so bad for the people who realise that they are no longer going to be able to achieve a pregnancy yet they don't really fit in anywhere any more. I am seriously looking into it at the minute, adoption, because I would like to know what it's like, how it feels, how the process is, and there are probably a lot of people out there who are actually looking for a sounding board in relation to this matter.

This has probably been covered already but...just throwing it out there.

 

[DaisyDuke]

Oh babe, i think an adoption area is a would be a great idea. I can't offer any advice on this subject but wanted to give u a big

 

[CurlySue]

I suppose I would just like to know about it. I would like to talk to people who are in the process, have been through it, etc. I'm not at that stage or anywhere near it but I may be, one day, and I know I'd like to look into it on a more personal level.

 

[someday]

hi curleysue

im new to this site. i dont know if you live in the uk or not but if you do local councils tend to have info evenings. we have been ttc for 2 1/2 years with a m/c at 11 weeks and nothing since. im currently on clomid and have blocked fal tube and due to have a laparoscopy in nov to unblock it. all i want to say really is that we are thinking about adoption and are actually going to the info evening in oct. dh has reservations about the whole process because of family experience but is open to finding out more anyhow.
i think a forum on this site would be great after all as you said it is still motherhood!!

someday

 

[CurlySue]

Hi, Someday.

I think I was just feeling bad for the people who fall into this category. Say they have been on this board for years and they are then considering adoption. Where do they go to talk about it?

 

[Michelle100]

Hi Curlysue, I was ttc for years and I adopted a baby girl. If you think I can answer any questions for you feel free to pm me, I'd be happy to help you any way I can. I dont know where you live, I'm in Canada so the process may be different but the new momma emotions are universal! It's the best thing I have ever done.

 

[loopylew]

Although i don't know whats its like to adopt, Adoption is part of my job, which is so difficult since ive been ttc, I assess families for adoption as part of my job and match children with adopters etc etc, I don't do the training etc but your local council will do information events etc and if you look up "Adoption Week" on the internet there will be loadsa information and your Local Council will definately be running an event that week.

 

[NeyNey]

If I said I'd never considered Adoption I'd be lying...But we have yet to go down the IVF route..so therefore adoption is still a while away for us. I wish you all the best if that is the road you choose...

As for an adoption area, I'm not sure I feel (personally) that it would be active enough as of yet...I'm sure if you post questions in this area which does cover Long term Tryers you will get them answered and support and encouragement from other members.

Good luck Hun.

 

[shoeshopper]

I have recently been considering adoption, and last week i did loads of research, and found out teh regulations etc on line, the governemt really has covered the topic very well, unfortunately i have deleted my browsing history so dont have the links but as i said the info was easy to find.

i also think it would be great to have an adoption thread on this site primarily because we build up good freindships with other posters and i would still like their support and also when we do get our adopted LO i would like to think that i would be still welcome on the forum in the toddlers and kids club and teenagers serctions etc!

 

[JASMAK]

My husband was adopted at two days old. I think it is a miracle in a different way! I really want to find his "birth mom" one day and thank her for giving her baby up. She could have had an abortion, but she chose to give instead. I have thought of adoption many times over. I have gone so far as calling an agency once. I am just not ready to give up on my own body yet, but, I do "go there" sometimes. I know someone who is in China right now picking up her baby girl (she's two). She is so beautiful!

 

[genkigemini]

DH and I have sort of considered adoption. I would definitely adopt instead of using donor eggs/sperm. I think BnB could have an adoption page. it would help new people and any of us, LTTTCers who choose to go that route.

GOOD LUCK, HONEY!

 

[Erised]

While it might not get as much traffic as some of the other sections on this site, it definatly wouldn't be limited to LTTC only. I know that me and my husband have often talked about adoption, even if we do have children of our own. Plus in a weird way it will also tie in with some of the threads in the teens forum, those that want to put up their child for adoption. Either scenario, while very different, would hopefully be able to find advice and help in there.

While I wouldn't use the section myself yet, I can see myself use it in the future.

 

[Helen]

We looked into adoption when we were having problems TTC. I got a great book from BAAF (British Assocation for Adoption and Fostering) called Adopting a Child. It cost about £7 I think but was really useful to find out how it works. The have a website www.baaf.org.uk

I think one of the main points which I found disappointing was that you couldn't even embark on the adoption route until you had grieved for your birth child that you don't have. I could understand why they didn't want to waste time, but I felt as though I wanted to explore both fertility treatment and adoption concurrently.

Does anyone know anything about fostering?