Advice and support needed ladies :(

[littlekitten8]

Thanks Gem.

 

[Kbee]

just wanted to send hugs hun
xxxxx

 

[littlekitten8]

Thanks KBee.

Well we had a massive argument on Monday. He accused me of only wanting my baby and a ring on my finger and now I had that I didn't care about him. So I gave him his ring back. I ended up going home to my parents house for a few days to get away from it all. While I was away he couldn't get to work cos of the snow and asked if there was anything he could do in the house for me. I asked him to change James's cot bedding, hoover the hallway and tidy round the living room. Well I came home yesterday and the place was a bloody mess. Sheets not changed. Living room a pit (despite me having blitzed the house before I went home), hallway not hoovered, cooker covered in grease. And a box from takeaway chicken and chips down his side of the bed. I asked him why the box was there and he threw a complete hissy fit, said he wished he hadn't bothered coming to pick me up cos all I've done since I got in is bitch at him! That was the first bad comment I had made and personally I think that he completely over-reacted to getting asked why there was a box of chicken down the side of the bed! Makes you feel really welcome in your own home that. Then he had the cheek to ask me to put my ring back on!

 

[Gwizz]

Id leave him to fester in his chicken remains ... try the silent treatment with him but remember little James will pick up on arguments and tension even at this early age so be careful.

 

[littlekitten8]

Gem - thats why I went home. Cos I didn't want James to pick up on the tension. He already screams if OH tries to feed him or bath him. He obviously picks up on his nervousness.

 

[Gwizz]

Whats your family said to do?

 

[littlekitten8]

They just said its up to me what I want to do. They will support me whatever. Havn't told them what happened last night yet. Its my parents wedding anniversary this weekend so I don't want to ruin it.

 

[dom85]

Big hugs hun

I saw what you posted in the Bumpkins thread and IMO you and James need to be out of that situation (which I know you probably know as well)

I just wanted to offer you suppport really, you're obviously great with James and doing brilliantly without his help already.

When you went to stay with your parents where did you and James sleep? Is it possible for you to stay there until you get somewhere sorted closer to your family and friends?

When it comes to him seeing James make your own rules, since his outburst he doesn't really have a leg to stand on and if it came to court etc. then he would only be allowed supervised visitation.

It's a difficult situation, but you've obviously got your head screwed on and James is the priority so I would def kick him out ASAP.

 

[littlekitten8]

Thanks dom. I stayed with my nan cos she has a spare room but she has a new boyfriend (my grandad passed away last January) and so she doesn't really want me staying there even though she says she would never turn me away. James has so many appointments here that it would just be easier for me to stay here right now and for him to leave. I have told him I need some space and that I don't want him here and that it will take me a while to forgive him if I ever do.

For those of you who havn't seen what I posted in the Bumpkins thread...basically we got in a fight about his other son and it ended up with him swinging me round the living room and then shoving me up against a wall, while his 3 year old son was stood there. Real classy I'm sure you'll agree.

 

[littlekitten8]

Thanks dom. I stayed with my nan cos she has a spare room but she has a new boyfriend (my grandad passed away last January) and so she doesn't really want me staying there even though she says she would never turn me away. James has so many appointments here that it would just be easier for me to stay here right now and for him to leave. I have told him I need some space and that I don't want him here and that it will take me a while to forgive him if I ever do.

For those of you who havn't seen what I posted in the Bumpkins thread...basically we got in a fight about his other son and it ended up with him swinging me round the living room and then shoving me up against a wall, while his 3 year old son was stood there. Real classy I'm sure you'll agree.